1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,239 Let me tell you, more revelations, awakenings, things came to the 2 00:00:07,239 --> 00:00:13,634 surface in one week than Then I feel I've ever had happen in my life. 3 00:00:14,165 --> 00:00:18,064 If you've been following along on my Instagram stories at project me with 4 00:00:18,074 --> 00:00:24,694 Tiffany, you have seen that I had my big once a year mastermind experience 5 00:00:24,744 --> 00:00:31,754 event at a famous house that is tens and tens and tens of millions of dollars. 6 00:00:31,774 --> 00:00:38,385 It was featured on the show selling sunset, and this has shooketh me. 7 00:00:39,109 --> 00:00:44,319 The stuff that has come out of observing all of the students that 8 00:00:44,319 --> 00:00:52,819 attended, my team, myself, and there are some missing pieces to the 9 00:00:52,819 --> 00:00:58,959 world of abundance, to being able to make more and work less that I have 10 00:00:58,959 --> 00:01:01,699 uncovered that have all come together. 11 00:01:02,289 --> 00:01:07,630 And I'm going to be spilling that tea on this episode for you, as I always do 12 00:01:08,489 --> 00:01:12,869 what up, my people, my posse, my fellow crazies, it's your host Tiffany 13 00:01:12,869 --> 00:01:15,859 Carter, and this is the show that is going to help you grow your business, 14 00:01:15,859 --> 00:01:19,709 your bank account, that big beautiful brain of yours, your abundance, your 15 00:01:19,709 --> 00:01:22,660 relationships, and everything in between. 16 00:01:23,489 --> 00:01:24,949 I mean, did you miss me? 17 00:01:25,059 --> 00:01:26,789 I did take a week off. 18 00:01:26,839 --> 00:01:30,429 It would have been nice for some of you to have, really made it 19 00:01:30,429 --> 00:01:32,009 clear how much you missed me. 20 00:01:32,010 --> 00:01:32,584 Ha ha. 21 00:01:34,405 --> 00:01:36,025 I did get a couple messages. 22 00:01:36,074 --> 00:01:41,014 Of course, I started building a story of like, no one really cares that 23 00:01:41,104 --> 00:01:42,364 you were gone, that you were MIA. 24 00:01:42,365 --> 00:01:46,044 And I know there's plenty of other episodes that you 25 00:01:46,044 --> 00:01:47,694 were called to listen to. 26 00:01:48,264 --> 00:01:51,314 But you know, a girl does like to know that she's missed. 27 00:01:51,314 --> 00:01:51,754 All right. 28 00:01:51,774 --> 00:01:53,184 So let me know if you miss me. 29 00:01:53,645 --> 00:02:01,844 I needed that week of reprieve after having my mastermind event and Then 30 00:02:01,844 --> 00:02:08,914 I piggybacked it with my biggest investment in my content marketing for 31 00:02:08,914 --> 00:02:12,244 this brand ever invested about 50, 000. 32 00:02:12,244 --> 00:02:13,554 It was three days. 33 00:02:13,754 --> 00:02:16,094 And let me tell you, this was a lot of energy. 34 00:02:17,095 --> 00:02:25,005 To host an event, host my team that came in, and then segue right into me 35 00:02:25,014 --> 00:02:32,705 having to put on my best shiny smile and contort myself into very uncomfortable 36 00:02:32,705 --> 00:02:38,365 positions so that I look snatched for hours and hours and hours and hours. 37 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:44,130 And also having the pressure of knowing girl, you better show up and shine and 38 00:02:44,130 --> 00:02:50,020 get over like any body dysmorphia shit of yours, because number one, it's not 39 00:02:50,020 --> 00:02:55,309 about your body and how you look, you are doing this type of content because 40 00:02:55,419 --> 00:02:57,489 this is what happens in a personal brand. 41 00:02:57,909 --> 00:03:00,379 You are the marketing element. 42 00:03:00,429 --> 00:03:05,685 I could be The widget, I could be the piece of jewelry, I could be the t shirt 43 00:03:05,685 --> 00:03:08,645 line in this particular line of work. 44 00:03:09,324 --> 00:03:10,814 I am the product. 45 00:03:11,495 --> 00:03:19,245 And wow, that amount of mental gymnastics that I had to get myself into in 46 00:03:19,274 --> 00:03:26,225 order to be able to show up genuinely on video and on camera, that took 47 00:03:26,225 --> 00:03:28,585 more out of me than I was expecting. 48 00:03:28,585 --> 00:03:28,634 Hmm? 49 00:03:29,429 --> 00:03:33,730 I'm a grounded ZFG confident person now. 50 00:03:34,259 --> 00:03:35,920 Zero fucks given! 51 00:03:36,189 --> 00:03:37,279 Oh, I miss doing that. 52 00:03:39,029 --> 00:03:40,769 I didn't used to be, right? 53 00:03:40,769 --> 00:03:45,149 I had something that I referred to as false competence. 54 00:03:45,599 --> 00:03:50,549 A lot of other people, in fact, almost everyone was fooled by it because I was 55 00:03:50,549 --> 00:03:55,079 fooling myself with it, where people would always say, Oh, you have it all together. 56 00:03:55,079 --> 00:03:56,809 I wish I had the confidence that you have. 57 00:03:56,809 --> 00:04:03,049 But when they would say it, Inside, I'd be like, God, if they only knew how riddled I 58 00:04:03,059 --> 00:04:06,119 was with self doubt, I'm not good enough. 59 00:04:06,170 --> 00:04:06,949 I'm ugly. 60 00:04:06,949 --> 00:04:07,389 I'm this. 61 00:04:07,389 --> 00:04:07,799 I'm that. 62 00:04:07,799 --> 00:04:08,569 I'm the other. 63 00:04:09,099 --> 00:04:16,809 And I went through, you know, the depths of hell and the deepest healing you 64 00:04:16,809 --> 00:04:22,280 can imagine to get to the zero fucks given zone, which is why I help hold 65 00:04:22,299 --> 00:04:26,650 space and support and guide you to get there, because let's tell you something. 66 00:04:27,140 --> 00:04:34,260 There is nothing more freeing than not giving a fuck what any person, place, 67 00:04:35,040 --> 00:04:39,660 client, job, institution, stranger, hater. 68 00:04:40,150 --> 00:04:44,059 relative has to say about what you do with your life. 69 00:04:44,280 --> 00:04:48,580 And I'm looking at myself right now, and I know some of you are looking 70 00:04:48,580 --> 00:04:50,789 at me on Project Me TV on YouTube. 71 00:04:51,220 --> 00:04:57,530 And I decided I'm going to embrace the zit stickers, the zit patches. 72 00:04:57,819 --> 00:05:02,659 And I was delighted to find that they come in many different, shapes and colors now. 73 00:05:02,750 --> 00:05:04,970 So of course I had to get purple star ones. 74 00:05:05,199 --> 00:05:09,755 So from all of the daily glam that I was in. 75 00:05:10,255 --> 00:05:14,365 My skin that we know I highly tend to is not happy. 76 00:05:14,804 --> 00:05:17,155 So I'm wearing stars at patches. 77 00:05:18,135 --> 00:05:22,575 And I just thought, you know what, this is what you guys are going to get today. 78 00:05:22,715 --> 00:05:25,914 We show up as we are, and we trust that that's more than enough. 79 00:05:25,945 --> 00:05:30,044 And I had to keep telling myself that during the content shoot, I am going to 80 00:05:30,054 --> 00:05:37,755 do a separate episode, raking that down on how you can DIY your own content shoot. 81 00:05:37,924 --> 00:05:41,685 I mean, I will also give you suggestions if you want to take it to a bigger 82 00:05:41,685 --> 00:05:47,625 level and hire people, but I, I want you to know that like, you can do. 83 00:05:48,074 --> 00:05:50,914 A scaled down version on a low budget. 84 00:05:50,924 --> 00:05:55,775 I don't want you to start thinking, Oh my gosh, in order for me to scale my business 85 00:05:55,784 --> 00:06:01,014 to where you're at Tiffany, or, you know, that I'm going to have to spend all 86 00:06:01,014 --> 00:06:05,574 this money and do all this thing at some point, though, you are going to have to. 87 00:06:05,604 --> 00:06:11,630 And that's my first lesson that I want to bring to you in this Advice that is 88 00:06:11,659 --> 00:06:15,130 coming out of the mastermind and some of it that's coming out of the shoot. 89 00:06:15,130 --> 00:06:21,010 But if you want more details on DIYing your own shoot to create eye catching 90 00:06:21,010 --> 00:06:26,020 content that gets you great visibility and converts into profits and, and 91 00:06:26,020 --> 00:06:34,730 how my wild, creative, strategic mind plans these things with my team. 92 00:06:35,220 --> 00:06:41,510 And how you can refine that down and do a version of it for yourself, let me know. 93 00:06:41,549 --> 00:06:45,229 I was planning on it anyway, but if you have questions that you want me 94 00:06:45,230 --> 00:06:49,340 to cover, I would DM me on Instagram at Project Me With Tiffany, or reply 95 00:06:49,380 --> 00:06:54,460 to any of the emails that I send out on my secret posse weekly digest list. 96 00:06:54,710 --> 00:06:59,200 If you're not on that list, I'm warning you right now. 97 00:06:59,630 --> 00:07:04,110 You're going to want to be on it because there's a couple things that 98 00:07:04,110 --> 00:07:07,939 are coming through the pipeline, which is also why we did the content 99 00:07:07,950 --> 00:07:10,169 ship that you will be shooketh over. 100 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:13,429 And you're going to want to have first dibs on these things. 101 00:07:14,129 --> 00:07:15,949 And you can go to project me with tiffany. 102 00:07:16,140 --> 00:07:18,530 com forward slash secret posse. 103 00:07:18,550 --> 00:07:19,469 You can swipe up. 104 00:07:19,469 --> 00:07:20,949 It's also in the show notes. 105 00:07:20,949 --> 00:07:24,840 It's in my Lincoln bio on Instagram at project me with Tiffany. 106 00:07:25,730 --> 00:07:28,229 So first thing is. 107 00:07:29,145 --> 00:07:36,255 What I noticed in this mastermind and all of these successful women 108 00:07:36,265 --> 00:07:40,914 from all different specialties from all different industries, people 109 00:07:40,914 --> 00:07:42,924 who've done work on themselves. 110 00:07:43,954 --> 00:07:49,934 The one thing that holds people back more than anything and it 111 00:07:50,025 --> 00:07:54,505 just became so undeniable when I was in person with everyone. 112 00:07:54,775 --> 00:07:55,534 I already. 113 00:07:55,844 --> 00:07:59,814 Know this when I'm working with people virtually in my programs 114 00:07:59,814 --> 00:08:03,594 or my project, be posse business coaching membership or one on one. 115 00:08:05,115 --> 00:08:11,034 But when you actually see it and feel it energetically in front of your face, and 116 00:08:11,034 --> 00:08:16,794 then you watch the transformation that occurs, it slapped me upside the head. 117 00:08:18,255 --> 00:08:25,010 What is holding you back from you having everything that you want The cash, the 118 00:08:25,010 --> 00:08:32,570 lifestyle, the freedom, the time, the delight in doing what you do in the sense 119 00:08:32,570 --> 00:08:38,909 of ease, being able to express your voice, your story, your creativity in order 120 00:08:38,909 --> 00:08:44,169 to help other people have your vision come to life and be wildly paid for it. 121 00:08:45,530 --> 00:08:51,120 It all boils down to ZFG life. 122 00:08:51,580 --> 00:09:01,000 It all boils down to truly not giving a rat's ass a fuck, not even 123 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:04,139 one, about what anyone else thinks. 124 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:06,320 If you can do it, if you can't do it. 125 00:09:07,219 --> 00:09:14,040 What it comes down to is you knowing that this is in fact, without a doubt 126 00:09:14,050 --> 00:09:17,890 happening for you, and you're going to show up regardless, and you're going 127 00:09:17,890 --> 00:09:22,879 to show up until it happens, and you're 100 percent committed, and yes, you're 128 00:09:22,879 --> 00:09:26,120 going to have meltdowns, and yes, you're going to have setbacks, and yes, you're 129 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:30,740 going to be heavily tested, and yes, you're going to be scared, and yes, self 130 00:09:30,740 --> 00:09:34,319 doubt is going to come up, and yes, it's going to bring up your insecurities. 131 00:09:34,694 --> 00:09:42,765 But you have an unwavering determination and resolve to showing up for what 132 00:09:42,765 --> 00:09:47,964 you want so badly that yeah, you might get knocked down for a day, yeah, 133 00:09:47,964 --> 00:09:53,334 you might have a rough week or two, but you keep doing the damn thing. 134 00:09:53,334 --> 00:09:54,555 You do it anyway. 135 00:09:55,094 --> 00:09:59,135 And when I look at my own secret sauce, which I get asked about 136 00:09:59,135 --> 00:10:03,134 a lot on when I'm interviewed on podcasts on TV shows and stuff. 137 00:10:03,614 --> 00:10:06,064 They want to know, you know, how did you do this? 138 00:10:06,064 --> 00:10:08,864 Like, how did you do this with two different businesses? 139 00:10:08,874 --> 00:10:11,964 Like how, what's the, what's the secret? 140 00:10:11,964 --> 00:10:13,764 Like there's the secret to success. 141 00:10:13,785 --> 00:10:15,894 What's the multimillion dollar thing. 142 00:10:16,735 --> 00:10:20,324 And it's really that people will come up. 143 00:10:20,660 --> 00:10:25,120 With all sorts of excuses at different thresholds of abundance. 144 00:10:25,780 --> 00:10:27,850 Everyone has an abundance cap. 145 00:10:28,310 --> 00:10:30,560 Some people it's at 10, 000 a month. 146 00:10:30,569 --> 00:10:32,020 Some people it's being broke. 147 00:10:32,020 --> 00:10:33,819 Some people it's at 2, 000 a month. 148 00:10:34,119 --> 00:10:36,429 Some people it's at 500, 000 a month. 149 00:10:36,439 --> 00:10:39,539 Some people it's about having the support system around them. 150 00:10:40,124 --> 00:10:43,745 Some people, it's how they're making their money, they're comfortable as 151 00:10:43,745 --> 00:10:48,114 long as they're, exchanging tons of time and energy for it, and they're 152 00:10:48,114 --> 00:10:51,654 depleted, and they're exhausted, and they're miserable, and they're resentful, 153 00:10:51,654 --> 00:10:53,104 then they're okay making the money. 154 00:10:53,794 --> 00:10:58,924 But making it with ease and making it with simplicity and making it with enjoyment 155 00:10:59,764 --> 00:11:05,344 that feels so unfamiliar and so untrusting that they'll do things to sabotage that 156 00:11:05,344 --> 00:11:09,684 subconsciously in order to go back into the pattern that they're comfortable with. 157 00:11:09,694 --> 00:11:14,964 So one of the main things that we did at the mastermind experience. 158 00:11:16,004 --> 00:11:20,974 It was to release what was no longer serving them. 159 00:11:21,784 --> 00:11:22,844 Release it. 160 00:11:22,854 --> 00:11:27,984 The stuff that they know that has been chewing at them and haunting them. 161 00:11:28,304 --> 00:11:31,994 And even if they weren't sure there was something that was buried 162 00:11:31,994 --> 00:11:36,449 layers deep, being willing for it to come up and allowing space for 163 00:11:36,449 --> 00:11:38,204 that to come up to release it. 164 00:11:38,344 --> 00:11:42,124 Because what's crazy is, and this was not planned, day two of 165 00:11:42,124 --> 00:11:44,364 the mastermind was the eclipse. 166 00:11:44,819 --> 00:11:50,069 So it was the bookend of the eclipse season and this eclipse season 167 00:11:50,069 --> 00:11:57,599 was all about releasing behaviors, patterns, people, habits, thoughts. 168 00:11:58,634 --> 00:12:05,384 That are not serving you and also being allowed to have the space, like I said, 169 00:12:05,694 --> 00:12:12,534 for them to come up, because a lot of them, you're not aware of what they are. 170 00:12:13,184 --> 00:12:15,484 They need to be brought up to the surface. 171 00:12:15,494 --> 00:12:22,364 So I had specialists and healers there, along with what the work that I do with 172 00:12:22,384 --> 00:12:25,044 people in order to prime them for that. 173 00:12:25,669 --> 00:12:31,249 And it was just so interesting to watch that we, every single 174 00:12:31,249 --> 00:12:36,709 person literally was broken open, not in, not in an extreme way. 175 00:12:36,709 --> 00:12:38,099 This was a light version. 176 00:12:38,199 --> 00:12:38,729 Okay. 177 00:12:38,779 --> 00:12:43,609 This was not, you know, this was not some, some heavy, deep thing where 178 00:12:43,609 --> 00:12:45,609 we wanted to retraumatize people. 179 00:12:45,689 --> 00:12:45,959 Okay. 180 00:12:45,959 --> 00:12:47,049 I'm very well aware. 181 00:12:47,049 --> 00:12:50,649 Most of the people that I attract, most of my listeners are 182 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:52,594 trauma survivors or have Okay. 183 00:12:52,924 --> 00:12:59,324 Um, some sort of mental unwellness, right, like is like attracts like, 184 00:12:59,684 --> 00:13:06,914 so we don't do anything too intensely because that's not necessary and we 185 00:13:06,914 --> 00:13:13,214 wanted to allow the space because if you don't allow there to be this space. 186 00:13:13,924 --> 00:13:19,234 Where you have released these things that have been clogging up your abundance 187 00:13:19,264 --> 00:13:24,384 pipes that have been causing the tension and the worry and the stress. 188 00:13:24,784 --> 00:13:28,734 That have been weighing you down energetically, making you feel tired, 189 00:13:28,744 --> 00:13:33,374 making you feel confused, where you, where you don't have the clarity that you 190 00:13:33,374 --> 00:13:38,904 want, your creativity has been stifled, you're not going to have any momentum. 191 00:13:39,454 --> 00:13:46,894 Every single person released, and it was undeniable and, So beautiful to witness, 192 00:13:47,594 --> 00:13:53,774 witness it in person and feel it and see it and how it changes people's bodies. 193 00:13:53,774 --> 00:13:57,034 And I even saw people who had a lot of inflammation. 194 00:13:57,334 --> 00:14:00,054 I even saw the inflammation go down in them. 195 00:14:00,484 --> 00:14:04,954 I even saw the guards that people have up to protect themselves and the walls 196 00:14:04,964 --> 00:14:07,015 that they have to protect themselves. 197 00:14:07,015 --> 00:14:08,535 I saw those come down. 198 00:14:08,884 --> 00:14:13,834 I saw people breathing deeper versus, you know, breathing up in their throat. 199 00:14:14,324 --> 00:14:15,354 It was amazing. 200 00:14:15,374 --> 00:14:21,564 And I said something in my closing training or talk, my 201 00:14:21,564 --> 00:14:25,864 parting words, where I said, and I, and I want you to hear this. 202 00:14:26,084 --> 00:14:27,055 You need to hear this. 203 00:14:27,124 --> 00:14:30,725 All of you need to hear this who are listening and watching this right now, 204 00:14:31,424 --> 00:14:36,454 that when we release something, like I said, it can be something physical. 205 00:14:36,755 --> 00:14:39,094 It could even be you cleaning out your closet. 206 00:14:39,839 --> 00:14:44,849 It could be a toxic person in your life, someone who, um, really just 207 00:14:44,849 --> 00:14:46,459 doesn't belong in your life anymore. 208 00:14:46,689 --> 00:14:50,019 It could be a program or an offer or a product in your business. 209 00:14:50,049 --> 00:14:51,159 It could be an employee. 210 00:14:51,159 --> 00:14:52,229 It could be a client. 211 00:14:53,159 --> 00:14:55,599 It can be your old self. 212 00:14:56,259 --> 00:15:00,059 It could be that you were attached to your old operating system 213 00:15:00,459 --> 00:15:01,979 and it's time to let that go. 214 00:15:02,209 --> 00:15:05,629 It could be your ego and you need to have an ego death. 215 00:15:06,364 --> 00:15:11,594 Like I so much had that came to a head on my birthday this year. 216 00:15:13,084 --> 00:15:21,984 And what I told everyone is this space where you feel light now and 217 00:15:21,984 --> 00:15:26,864 you feel free, and I know you can all feel it in your body where it feels 218 00:15:26,885 --> 00:15:32,064 lighter, where it used to feel like you had 25 pancakes in your stomach, 219 00:15:32,924 --> 00:15:35,484 and now it's completely clear. 220 00:15:36,254 --> 00:15:38,864 It's so foreign to you. 221 00:15:38,864 --> 00:15:43,944 It'd be like you carrying a backpack that had a 50 pound weight on it and 222 00:15:43,944 --> 00:15:49,474 I cut the backpack off you and it feels light and it feels amazing. 223 00:15:49,474 --> 00:15:53,674 And there's even euphoria and dopamine and oxytocin and all sorts 224 00:15:53,674 --> 00:15:57,094 of hormones that feel so good. 225 00:15:58,374 --> 00:16:03,204 But I warned everyone, your ego is gonna come in louder than 226 00:16:03,204 --> 00:16:07,464 ever and try its damnedest. 227 00:16:07,919 --> 00:16:12,979 In order to pull you back into what feels familiar, even though that 228 00:16:12,979 --> 00:16:16,599 familiar wasn't working for you, even though that familiar was uncomfortable, 229 00:16:16,759 --> 00:16:21,179 even though that familiar was holding you back from what you wanted. 230 00:16:21,719 --> 00:16:25,039 It's going to try to pull you back and it's going to be manipulative. 231 00:16:25,039 --> 00:16:26,109 It's going to be cunning. 232 00:16:26,109 --> 00:16:27,619 It's going to be seductive. 233 00:16:27,619 --> 00:16:28,909 It's going to be alluring. 234 00:16:28,919 --> 00:16:32,649 It's going to pull out its best tricks. 235 00:16:33,189 --> 00:16:36,889 You're dealing with a narcissist in your own brain. 236 00:16:37,269 --> 00:16:45,109 Is what's happening and if you do not get on the offense of it and 237 00:16:45,119 --> 00:16:50,359 make sure that you are putting into practice every day multiple times a 238 00:16:50,359 --> 00:16:56,939 day, keeping this new space open to receive abundance by doing things like 239 00:16:56,949 --> 00:17:01,999 changing your routine or creating a new morning routine and an evening 240 00:17:01,999 --> 00:17:09,619 routine, taking more time for stillness, taking more time And intentional time 241 00:17:09,949 --> 00:17:12,429 to take in things that are abundant. 242 00:17:12,599 --> 00:17:19,289 Listening to this podcast, doing my season of abundance guided walking meditation, 243 00:17:19,359 --> 00:17:21,829 which you absolutely should be doing. 244 00:17:21,839 --> 00:17:23,589 That is my free gift to you. 245 00:17:23,599 --> 00:17:25,239 It's called your season of abundance. 246 00:17:25,589 --> 00:17:28,679 There's a bonus one in there that you'll absolutely love. 247 00:17:28,920 --> 00:17:29,870 Those are in the show notes. 248 00:17:29,870 --> 00:17:31,080 You can swipe up and get that. 249 00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:33,139 It's also my description on YouTube. 250 00:17:33,590 --> 00:17:40,350 And remember, you need to be on my list because something that I have 251 00:17:40,350 --> 00:17:46,569 been asked for over and over again for years now, at least a couple years. 252 00:17:46,649 --> 00:17:50,519 And the other thing I've been asked for for many years, almost since the 253 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:55,279 beginning, is happening and you've got to be on my Secret Posse Weekly 254 00:17:55,279 --> 00:17:58,589 Digest email list in order to get it. 255 00:17:58,709 --> 00:18:00,689 So make sure you're doing those things. 256 00:18:01,639 --> 00:18:06,509 But even paying attention on what conversations you're having with people, 257 00:18:06,509 --> 00:18:10,319 what conversations you're having with yourself, what are you watching on TV? 258 00:18:10,594 --> 00:18:16,475 What are you reading being much more intentional with everything and making 259 00:18:16,475 --> 00:18:20,844 that space for yourself and keeping that space open in your body of what 260 00:18:20,844 --> 00:18:28,395 you release so that you allow that to continue to stay open to receive. 261 00:18:29,824 --> 00:18:33,304 But it's so unfamiliar to have this space. 262 00:18:33,344 --> 00:18:38,975 It's that in between, it's uncomfortable, it's vulnerable to receive. 263 00:18:38,975 --> 00:18:43,169 Thank you You're used to, you're okay receiving to a certain point 264 00:18:43,179 --> 00:18:46,899 or receiving as long as you are exchanging it with something. 265 00:18:47,719 --> 00:18:55,899 But simply to receive in pure abundance for simply being you is so crazy, scary, 266 00:18:55,949 --> 00:19:02,436 unfamiliar, and unknown to people that your ego will take center stage and end 267 00:19:02,436 --> 00:19:12,519 up filling it with Going in a scroll hole, drinking, back to workaholism, back to 268 00:19:12,519 --> 00:19:18,259 focusing on tasking, tasking, tasking, doing, doing, doing, getting obsessed 269 00:19:18,259 --> 00:19:22,639 and worried about someone else in your life, getting worried about something, 270 00:19:22,649 --> 00:19:28,279 filling it with worry, filling it with self loathing, filling it with sugar, 271 00:19:28,289 --> 00:19:34,379 filling it with something, instead of leaving that space open to receive. 272 00:19:34,989 --> 00:19:41,400 And I can tell you that almost every single person that came to my mastermind, 273 00:19:41,830 --> 00:19:47,749 my team and I, with, and this is with love, not with judgment, we watched every 274 00:19:47,749 --> 00:19:53,839 single person for the most part, with the exception of a few people, fill the 275 00:19:53,839 --> 00:20:00,750 hole with a limiting behavior, limiting belief, a limiting thing, go back, go 276 00:20:00,759 --> 00:20:02,949 back into it, let the ego take over. 277 00:20:03,770 --> 00:20:10,499 Because being in that pure space of abundance and joy was so uncomfortable 278 00:20:11,009 --> 00:20:13,719 and not having the threshold to sit in it. 279 00:20:15,250 --> 00:20:18,689 To the point where I sent an email out to everyone, you know, 280 00:20:18,689 --> 00:20:23,620 with love and reminding them in writing what I said and that this 281 00:20:23,629 --> 00:20:25,609 is the work that needs to be done. 282 00:20:26,050 --> 00:20:30,650 That this is happening so that they can see their own pattern and take 283 00:20:30,650 --> 00:20:32,969 accountability for their own shit. 284 00:20:33,395 --> 00:20:40,784 And what they do and why they're not achieving or getting or having or being 285 00:20:40,784 --> 00:20:44,225 in the energy of the life that they want. 286 00:20:44,484 --> 00:20:47,775 They're the common denominator as am I in my own life. 287 00:20:48,154 --> 00:20:50,265 I, I know that we all are. 288 00:20:51,199 --> 00:20:58,380 And seeing how you can be cracked open, you can release, but if you're 289 00:20:58,380 --> 00:21:05,270 just going to stuff that beautifully clear and clean and brand new abundance 290 00:21:05,299 --> 00:21:09,690 pipe with more gunk, and then you just repeat the pattern, right? 291 00:21:09,730 --> 00:21:14,210 Okay, now I have another release, and now I'm just going to stuff it again. 292 00:21:14,219 --> 00:21:19,279 It's kind of like when people are in the cycle, when it comes to like food. 293 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:25,259 Right, or they will lose some weight, but then they'll do something to sabotage it, 294 00:21:25,669 --> 00:21:29,879 and then eat and drink and then gain it back again, and they're in that cycle. 295 00:21:30,319 --> 00:21:36,299 It's very similar, and most people I know have been in cycles like 296 00:21:36,299 --> 00:21:37,919 that when it comes to their bodies. 297 00:21:37,919 --> 00:21:42,059 That's why I use that analogy, and you know you're doing it. 298 00:21:42,079 --> 00:21:43,699 You hate that you're doing it. 299 00:21:43,839 --> 00:21:45,209 You don't want to do it. 300 00:21:46,505 --> 00:21:50,705 But then it's crazy that you do because you feel so much better when 301 00:21:50,705 --> 00:21:54,335 you're eating cleaner and you're drinking enough water and you're not 302 00:21:54,354 --> 00:21:59,375 over consuming shit and you're not putting a ton of toxins in your body. 303 00:21:59,874 --> 00:22:05,034 Yet when you get to a certain threshold of feeling good and 304 00:22:05,045 --> 00:22:08,525 feeling abundant, you sabotage it. 305 00:22:08,855 --> 00:22:12,745 This happens in every single area of people's lives. 306 00:22:13,489 --> 00:22:22,639 And it was wild to witness the amazing feeling of having that space. 307 00:22:22,670 --> 00:22:24,130 I know what that feels like. 308 00:22:24,130 --> 00:22:28,320 And I know you might even have had moments where you know what that feels like. 309 00:22:29,039 --> 00:22:34,870 And to watch everyone feel that, and in their own way, their egos are that 310 00:22:34,870 --> 00:22:38,089 strong where they just grab a hold. 311 00:22:38,120 --> 00:22:39,549 Our egos are wild. 312 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:45,799 So my question to you is, what are you going to do? 313 00:22:46,304 --> 00:22:52,275 in order to make sure that you have the support and the accountability to 314 00:22:52,275 --> 00:22:57,904 not let your ego, that narcissist, that inner bully, that nasty inner critic, 315 00:22:57,935 --> 00:23:05,605 that critical parent that's living in your brain, seduce you back into that 316 00:23:05,605 --> 00:23:10,784 lower frequency of abundance, seduce you back into defaulting in your old 317 00:23:10,824 --> 00:23:14,344 operating system that's not going to get you to where you want to go. 318 00:23:14,924 --> 00:23:18,935 What are you going to do to set yourself up so you don't go back 319 00:23:18,935 --> 00:23:26,054 there to tell yourself the lie that I'll just do it on my own. 320 00:23:26,234 --> 00:23:27,455 I'll figure it out. 321 00:23:28,474 --> 00:23:31,185 I'll do this better on Monday. 322 00:23:31,554 --> 00:23:35,105 I won't put any of this food into my house. 323 00:23:35,524 --> 00:23:38,524 I'm not going to scroll as much anymore. 324 00:23:38,869 --> 00:23:43,499 I'm, I'm going to be more consistent with this, that, or the other. 325 00:23:43,729 --> 00:23:47,679 Um, I'm going to, you know, binge Tiffany's podcast and 326 00:23:47,679 --> 00:23:49,289 do a new morning routine. 327 00:23:49,639 --> 00:23:56,719 But if you know yourself and you have a history of not being compliant and really 328 00:23:56,729 --> 00:24:02,339 sticking to it, then wouldn't it be insane to not set things up differently 329 00:24:02,349 --> 00:24:04,439 to make sure that you do stick to it? 330 00:24:05,839 --> 00:24:12,299 And if you're resistant to setting up that level of accountability, my 331 00:24:12,299 --> 00:24:20,989 question is, why would you not set up a level of accountability to make sure 332 00:24:21,249 --> 00:24:28,060 that you are absolutely set up for that new operating system of yours to stick 333 00:24:28,189 --> 00:24:33,969 and take hold and take place so that you can thrive, so that you can go to 334 00:24:33,969 --> 00:24:36,449 that next level that you want to go to? 335 00:24:38,205 --> 00:24:40,755 Hmm, do you not, do you not really want it? 336 00:24:40,795 --> 00:24:43,804 I don't think that's the case, because when I looked at all these 337 00:24:43,804 --> 00:24:47,495 women, all of them wanted it, and for the most beautiful reasons. 338 00:24:50,074 --> 00:24:55,205 You do really want it, but then it comes down to deserving it. 339 00:24:56,884 --> 00:25:01,694 That's the other big thing that shook me here, is the amount of 340 00:25:01,694 --> 00:25:06,264 women that externally, and, and listen, I was one of them, okay? 341 00:25:06,315 --> 00:25:08,174 I was TV newscaster. 342 00:25:09,014 --> 00:25:10,714 I looked very confident. 343 00:25:11,129 --> 00:25:13,759 I was a top sales trainer. 344 00:25:14,109 --> 00:25:16,439 I was wearing the Ann Taylor suits. 345 00:25:16,899 --> 00:25:17,659 I'm dead. 346 00:25:19,669 --> 00:25:20,669 I laugh. 347 00:25:21,189 --> 00:25:25,560 I laugh at these pant suits and pencil skirts that I wore. 348 00:25:25,639 --> 00:25:30,270 Let me tell you, I thought buying an Ann Taylor suit, let alone a J. 349 00:25:30,270 --> 00:25:32,670 Crew suit, I was thriving. 350 00:25:32,719 --> 00:25:33,759 I was rich. 351 00:25:34,120 --> 00:25:38,790 Because when I first started out, my ass was going to pay less getting the BOGO, 352 00:25:39,069 --> 00:25:47,290 the buy one, get one free shoes that were made of plastic and had, um, rubber soles. 353 00:25:47,845 --> 00:25:53,835 And when my ass was traipsing around Las Vegas in the summer, the pavement's 354 00:25:53,855 --> 00:25:57,285 probably 140 degrees temperature. 355 00:25:57,304 --> 00:25:59,844 So my peeps who are outside of the U. 356 00:25:59,844 --> 00:26:03,814 S., let's just say you could fry, literally, you can fry an egg on 357 00:26:03,814 --> 00:26:06,834 a hood of a car on the pavement in Las Vegas in the summer. 358 00:26:07,455 --> 00:26:13,405 And I'm traipsing around I'm a drug rep, I'm selling stuff, right? 359 00:26:13,715 --> 00:26:18,425 And I kept thinking that I was stepping on gum and I had gum in my shoe. 360 00:26:18,435 --> 00:26:24,054 No, it's because my Payless shoes that were 18 have 361 00:26:24,205 --> 00:26:26,425 melted to the actual pavement. 362 00:26:26,575 --> 00:26:27,255 Thank you so much. 363 00:26:28,995 --> 00:26:34,024 And that Tiffany seemed so competent, seemed so put 364 00:26:34,024 --> 00:26:36,374 together, even seemed radiant. 365 00:26:37,114 --> 00:26:38,355 But it was a mask. 366 00:26:40,255 --> 00:26:46,685 The people that you think have it the most together and really lead 367 00:26:46,685 --> 00:26:53,895 with that are also the people who are in the most pain silently. 368 00:26:55,234 --> 00:26:56,485 And it makes me sad. 369 00:26:57,254 --> 00:27:01,205 It made me sad to see it because I was one of those people and 370 00:27:01,205 --> 00:27:05,685 I know that's why I call these people in for me to work with them. 371 00:27:05,905 --> 00:27:07,545 It's not just for the strategy. 372 00:27:07,545 --> 00:27:09,415 It's not just for me to show you how. 373 00:27:09,935 --> 00:27:14,305 To make more money and make more while preserving yourself and 374 00:27:14,305 --> 00:27:17,555 getting your life back and your time back and all these things. 375 00:27:18,195 --> 00:27:19,644 All of it comes together. 376 00:27:19,644 --> 00:27:24,815 You have to believe that you're fucking worthy of it and you're 377 00:27:24,815 --> 00:27:30,614 capable of it and you're deserving of it for being you because there's 378 00:27:30,625 --> 00:27:32,665 no strategy I can teach you. 379 00:27:32,705 --> 00:27:37,885 I could have, I could do every single piece of content for you, product 380 00:27:37,885 --> 00:27:40,565 design, the best of the best of the best. 381 00:27:41,505 --> 00:27:48,935 And it won't work if there is some part of you that deep down doesn't think that 382 00:27:48,935 --> 00:27:50,995 you're worthy of having an easy life. 383 00:27:51,334 --> 00:27:54,124 That doesn't think you're worthy of having true abundance. 384 00:27:54,124 --> 00:27:59,304 That doesn't feel worthy of being able to make a shit ton of money doing what 385 00:27:59,304 --> 00:28:04,435 you want to do because it feels easy and it feels fun and you're helping people. 386 00:28:04,615 --> 00:28:06,105 And so it feels dirty. 387 00:28:06,105 --> 00:28:07,195 It feels gross. 388 00:28:07,195 --> 00:28:10,575 I'm not supposed to be making all of this money. 389 00:28:11,065 --> 00:28:13,545 Helping people like there's something wrong with that. 390 00:28:13,575 --> 00:28:14,975 I'm a bad girl. 391 00:28:15,485 --> 00:28:17,175 Something's wrong with me. 392 00:28:17,705 --> 00:28:25,135 I have to be trading something that feels so sacrificing to me in order 393 00:28:25,135 --> 00:28:30,114 to make a lot of money because I can't just be loved and adored 394 00:28:30,114 --> 00:28:32,224 and abundant simply for being me. 395 00:28:33,664 --> 00:28:35,455 This shit runs that deep. 396 00:28:36,175 --> 00:28:45,365 It runs right on deep to childhood town and There are people that you 397 00:28:45,375 --> 00:28:53,715 watch online that I've coached, that I have had many conversations with. 398 00:28:54,665 --> 00:29:02,565 There are people who you admire, and behind the scenes, there are 399 00:29:02,565 --> 00:29:08,725 people who have all these followers are making literally zero dollars. 400 00:29:09,075 --> 00:29:10,335 Tons of them come to me. 401 00:29:10,605 --> 00:29:13,585 It's wild, wild. 402 00:29:13,615 --> 00:29:15,775 You would think, how is that possible? 403 00:29:16,430 --> 00:29:21,660 Well, you can be an amazing talent, an amazing writer, an amazing 404 00:29:21,680 --> 00:29:27,720 community builder, an amazing at a craft, an amazing artist, a creative. 405 00:29:28,089 --> 00:29:31,079 I mean, how many people have you met that you're like, God, this 406 00:29:31,339 --> 00:29:33,069 person's such a great singer? 407 00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:36,460 Like, how is this person not famous? 408 00:29:37,260 --> 00:29:42,990 Or you meet someone who's such a great writer or so good at graphic design or so 409 00:29:43,010 --> 00:29:47,970 such a talented healer and you're like, how is this person not more well known, or 410 00:29:47,970 --> 00:29:53,100 at least like making a shit ton of money or being a bestseller like, why is that? 411 00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:57,760 It's not because no one's interested in them. 412 00:29:57,850 --> 00:30:00,600 It's not because the world's unfair. 413 00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:05,960 It's not because, oh, uh, abundance is only for a select few. 414 00:30:05,970 --> 00:30:07,030 That's all bullshit. 415 00:30:07,905 --> 00:30:15,485 It's because you cannot be an energetic match for what you want in life. 416 00:30:16,425 --> 00:30:20,804 It's not going to be called in if you ultimately don't 417 00:30:20,815 --> 00:30:22,115 think you're worthy of it. 418 00:30:22,165 --> 00:30:25,875 If you don't think it's destined to be yours, if you don't 419 00:30:25,915 --> 00:30:28,665 really go, I get to claim this. 420 00:30:28,955 --> 00:30:34,255 This is fucking mine, no matter what my parents said or did to me, no matter who 421 00:30:34,255 --> 00:30:39,674 the fuck I married, no matter what nasty person says online, no matter what my 422 00:30:39,715 --> 00:30:47,105 ego tries to convince me of and bring me down, no matter what that teacher 423 00:30:47,105 --> 00:30:49,304 said to me when I was in seventh grade. 424 00:30:50,005 --> 00:30:55,995 No matter that I was the class slut in middle school with my name 425 00:30:55,995 --> 00:30:57,275 written on the bathroom walls. 426 00:30:57,285 --> 00:30:58,315 Tiffany is a slut. 427 00:30:59,885 --> 00:31:07,364 No matter that I was only worth something if I was doing everything in every 428 00:31:07,364 --> 00:31:12,264 possible way for my mother and whoever she wanted me to service and please, 429 00:31:14,985 --> 00:31:20,805 I had to go on the journey and not alone of getting to the 430 00:31:20,805 --> 00:31:22,455 point of, you know, fucking what? 431 00:31:23,390 --> 00:31:25,430 I deserve to shine. 432 00:31:25,490 --> 00:31:27,070 I deserve to be famous. 433 00:31:27,140 --> 00:31:32,349 I deserve to have great wealth with the gifts that I have and own your gifts 434 00:31:32,909 --> 00:31:39,879 and own that those gifts deserve to help so many people and you deserve 435 00:31:39,879 --> 00:31:47,490 to be highly compensated in time, in joy, in money, in opportunity, in 436 00:31:47,520 --> 00:31:51,560 peace, and no one can do that for you. 437 00:31:52,685 --> 00:31:58,315 But the mistake that is made is that you continue to try to do this on 438 00:31:58,315 --> 00:32:03,395 your own and you continue to think I'm going to be in self will and I'll 439 00:32:03,395 --> 00:32:05,934 just, I'll do it differently this time. 440 00:32:06,255 --> 00:32:10,214 And even listening to this episode, I'm going to claim it for myself. 441 00:32:10,584 --> 00:32:11,984 Tiffany, you're speaking to me. 442 00:32:11,985 --> 00:32:12,805 I hear you. 443 00:32:12,965 --> 00:32:14,075 I fucking get it. 444 00:32:14,085 --> 00:32:15,145 I hear you. 445 00:32:15,425 --> 00:32:16,225 I deserve it. 446 00:32:16,225 --> 00:32:17,655 I'm going to believe this now. 447 00:32:18,370 --> 00:32:22,710 But if it's not sticking, which the likelihood is almost zero, it's 448 00:32:22,710 --> 00:32:28,250 going to stick if you don't have a plan in place to be on the offense 449 00:32:28,330 --> 00:32:32,749 of that fucking narcissist in your brain, because you're going to 450 00:32:32,749 --> 00:32:34,999 get tested because life tests you. 451 00:32:35,445 --> 00:32:39,605 You're dealing with the wackadoo of the entire world. 452 00:32:39,835 --> 00:32:41,365 You're going to get tired. 453 00:32:41,365 --> 00:32:42,655 You're going to be sick. 454 00:32:42,855 --> 00:32:44,865 You're going to have stuff come up. 455 00:32:44,885 --> 00:32:46,134 You're going to have a hater. 456 00:32:46,135 --> 00:32:47,995 You're going to have a bad review. 457 00:32:48,205 --> 00:32:50,774 You're going to have a bad month in your business, a bad 458 00:32:50,774 --> 00:32:52,304 few months in your business. 459 00:32:52,825 --> 00:32:55,045 There's all sorts of things that are going to happen. 460 00:32:56,905 --> 00:32:58,995 And how are you setting it up? 461 00:32:59,525 --> 00:33:01,875 So you're not going to let that take you down. 462 00:33:02,975 --> 00:33:06,724 Do you have someone like me that you're paying to work with you? 463 00:33:06,865 --> 00:33:07,885 And by the way. 464 00:33:08,250 --> 00:33:11,470 My final three spots for the rest of the year. 465 00:33:12,030 --> 00:33:13,050 That's all that's left. 466 00:33:13,080 --> 00:33:19,170 I did open them up to my mastermind students first in that email, as was 467 00:33:19,170 --> 00:33:22,500 fair, and now I'm opening them up to you. 468 00:33:22,930 --> 00:33:28,470 I will put that link to apply to work with me in the show 469 00:33:28,470 --> 00:33:30,010 notes, but I need to say this. 470 00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:32,190 This is the highest level way to work with me. 471 00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:37,420 There are only three spots and then we're closing out my calendar for the year. 472 00:33:37,420 --> 00:33:40,580 By the time I'm recording this, right, they might already be gone. 473 00:33:40,610 --> 00:33:41,350 I don't know. 474 00:33:42,140 --> 00:33:46,790 And only apply if you're dead ass about this. 475 00:33:47,540 --> 00:33:50,450 Don't apply just to try to get on a call with me. 476 00:33:50,450 --> 00:33:53,870 Don't apply to try to reverse engineer my process. 477 00:33:54,855 --> 00:33:58,895 Only apply if you're like, I need to fucking do this enough's enough 478 00:33:58,895 --> 00:34:02,235 already, because I can't help you if you're not at this spot. 479 00:34:02,515 --> 00:34:05,055 I can't make you want it. 480 00:34:05,154 --> 00:34:08,815 I can't make you have that conviction and that commitment. 481 00:34:09,825 --> 00:34:11,095 I can support you. 482 00:34:11,195 --> 00:34:17,125 I can show you the way I can help your brain get back in the game 483 00:34:17,125 --> 00:34:21,035 when you fall out, without a doubt, just like my coaches do for me. 484 00:34:21,535 --> 00:34:25,655 But I can't give you the humble willingness that you're 485 00:34:25,655 --> 00:34:27,025 going to do what it takes. 486 00:34:27,745 --> 00:34:32,365 So only apply if that resonates with you and you can swipe up 487 00:34:32,395 --> 00:34:33,595 and that's in the show notes. 488 00:34:34,385 --> 00:34:40,564 The final lesson I want to share here because I'm cautious about giving too much 489 00:34:41,685 --> 00:34:47,825 with this because these are really potent topics that I know you need to kind of sit 490 00:34:47,825 --> 00:34:49,945 with and I want you to share this episode. 491 00:34:50,505 --> 00:34:56,105 With someone who you know has been kind of sitting there like they're sitting 492 00:34:56,105 --> 00:35:01,205 in that in between I either they're saying they're stuck They're confused. 493 00:35:01,214 --> 00:35:02,465 Should I leave the jobby job? 494 00:35:02,465 --> 00:35:06,235 Should I take this business to this level? 495 00:35:06,244 --> 00:35:08,585 Why isn't my business growing at the rate? 496 00:35:08,585 --> 00:35:10,725 I want why am I not calling in? 497 00:35:11,085 --> 00:35:15,975 The high level clients that I want, I'm only calling in these lower level 498 00:35:15,995 --> 00:35:19,275 clients who, you know, are being cheap. 499 00:35:20,795 --> 00:35:22,435 This is what it comes down to. 500 00:35:22,525 --> 00:35:26,214 You can go and buy all this shit that's like, tells you, oh, you just need to 501 00:35:26,215 --> 00:35:30,134 do this one thing, and you need to do this other thing, and you need to niche 502 00:35:30,155 --> 00:35:32,885 more, and you need to post more shit. 503 00:35:34,315 --> 00:35:38,835 I, of course, teach you the strategy, you know, and my posse membership in working 504 00:35:38,835 --> 00:35:44,765 with me and my two month private business coaching program in my big programs that 505 00:35:44,795 --> 00:35:46,745 I launched at the beginning of the year. 506 00:35:47,144 --> 00:35:51,305 The strategy is all there, but the stuff we end up doing is this 507 00:35:51,305 --> 00:35:55,145 deeper shit, because you won't follow through on the strategy. 508 00:35:55,275 --> 00:36:00,835 And even if you go through the motions and tick the boxes into following through. 509 00:36:01,945 --> 00:36:03,475 It doesn't connect. 510 00:36:03,940 --> 00:36:08,910 Because you're just taking the boxes out of ego on a surface level. 511 00:36:09,210 --> 00:36:14,370 Imagine if I came here and just did podcasts and I had a little 512 00:36:14,380 --> 00:36:18,160 checklist and I went, okay, here's the first thing and I was emotionally 513 00:36:18,179 --> 00:36:24,655 disconnected and ultimately underneath I'm going, No one's gonna like this. 514 00:36:24,675 --> 00:36:25,995 No one's gonna listen. 515 00:36:26,035 --> 00:36:27,735 I don't even know why I'm doing this. 516 00:36:27,735 --> 00:36:32,535 Like if I had that running narrative and that tape going, that 517 00:36:32,565 --> 00:36:35,185 energy would absolutely transmit. 518 00:36:35,195 --> 00:36:37,665 I know that you have listened to shows that you've turned off. 519 00:36:37,674 --> 00:36:40,054 Most podcasts are fucking terrible, by the way. 520 00:36:40,885 --> 00:36:46,615 And I'm not just saying that because I'm a top podcaster, most are terrible 521 00:36:46,795 --> 00:36:51,314 that I, there's, I don't know what the status, my producer Jen tells 522 00:36:51,315 --> 00:36:55,614 me, I think there's only 15 percent of them that have any traction. 523 00:36:56,144 --> 00:37:00,875 And it's not because there aren't people that have wonderful stories and powerful 524 00:37:00,885 --> 00:37:03,345 things to share and great wisdom. 525 00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:07,360 It's because it's not trans transmuting. 526 00:37:07,370 --> 00:37:08,540 Is that the right word? 527 00:37:08,720 --> 00:37:15,000 It's not getting across the airwaves because of all the shit 528 00:37:15,000 --> 00:37:16,400 that's going on in your head. 529 00:37:18,010 --> 00:37:20,100 So here's this last thing. 530 00:37:20,890 --> 00:37:25,849 And I've shared a version of this lesson on a tick tock 531 00:37:25,849 --> 00:37:27,700 video of mine that went viral. 532 00:37:27,920 --> 00:37:33,130 And I hope I do it justice here when I'm sharing it to you right now. 533 00:37:34,705 --> 00:37:43,045 Being dependent on external validation for you to be able to feel confident 534 00:37:43,055 --> 00:37:48,325 to keep going or that having the knowing that it's working and that 535 00:37:48,325 --> 00:37:52,824 this is going to work and in order for you to have hope, you're fucked. 536 00:37:54,264 --> 00:37:55,975 Mm hmm. 537 00:37:56,905 --> 00:37:57,785 Seriously. 538 00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:00,720 Listen, I love external validation. 539 00:38:00,780 --> 00:38:02,430 I asked at the beginning of the show. 540 00:38:03,330 --> 00:38:06,480 A girl would like to know that I was missed since I, you know, 541 00:38:06,480 --> 00:38:08,410 took a week off from the podcast. 542 00:38:09,050 --> 00:38:10,380 You know, be nice. 543 00:38:11,380 --> 00:38:14,250 But do I really need that to keep going? 544 00:38:14,279 --> 00:38:15,280 Of course not. 545 00:38:15,329 --> 00:38:16,810 I do not need that. 546 00:38:17,159 --> 00:38:22,730 It's, I love when you guys are taking the time and the law of reciprocity. 547 00:38:23,230 --> 00:38:26,300 And writing written reviews on Apple podcasts. 548 00:38:26,300 --> 00:38:28,630 It's the only platform you can do written reviews. 549 00:38:28,680 --> 00:38:30,470 I read each and every one. 550 00:38:30,960 --> 00:38:33,220 I share a lot of them on social media. 551 00:38:33,590 --> 00:38:37,539 It means so much to me that you're taking 30 seconds, literally, that's 552 00:38:37,570 --> 00:38:40,389 all it takes to write a review. 553 00:38:40,600 --> 00:38:45,150 The shout outs you give of the show, of taking a screenshot, shouting out episodes 554 00:38:45,150 --> 00:38:50,550 that you loved, sharing it with friends, tapping the five stars on Spotify. 555 00:38:51,460 --> 00:38:51,900 Love it. 556 00:38:52,570 --> 00:38:55,320 But I didn't do any of that shit in the beginning. 557 00:38:55,660 --> 00:39:03,450 I had to take my nail guy, John's phone, and I wrote a review from his phone 558 00:39:03,640 --> 00:39:06,130 of my podcast when I first started. 559 00:39:06,359 --> 00:39:08,999 I don't have like, I'm not an extrovert. 560 00:39:09,010 --> 00:39:12,049 I don't have this like large friend group. 561 00:39:13,239 --> 00:39:16,680 At the time, I certainly didn't, where I didn't know anyone else doing 562 00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:20,350 podcasts or anyone online where I could be like, Hey, help a sister out. 563 00:39:21,765 --> 00:39:23,145 I didn't get any of that. 564 00:39:23,195 --> 00:39:24,495 I got the opposite. 565 00:39:24,585 --> 00:39:25,935 I got the crickets. 566 00:39:26,635 --> 00:39:30,015 And remember, I'm a professionally trained journalist. 567 00:39:30,214 --> 00:39:31,925 I know how to fucking communicate. 568 00:39:31,945 --> 00:39:33,574 And I think I'm somewhat entertaining. 569 00:39:33,815 --> 00:39:38,364 And I'd already done tons and tons of major healing work. 570 00:39:38,535 --> 00:39:43,185 Like I was already in the conviction of knowing I deserve this. 571 00:39:43,205 --> 00:39:45,525 And I was committed to showing up until it works. 572 00:39:45,525 --> 00:39:47,865 And let me tell you, I got tested. 573 00:39:48,820 --> 00:39:50,080 And you will get tested. 574 00:39:50,260 --> 00:39:51,560 How many people do you know? 575 00:39:51,570 --> 00:39:56,400 My coach, one of my great coaches, Cara Alwell, The Champagne Diet, her 576 00:39:56,400 --> 00:39:59,900 ass submitted tons and tons of books. 577 00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:02,269 I mean, countless rejections. 578 00:40:02,269 --> 00:40:04,709 Rejection, rejection, rejection, rejection. 579 00:40:05,329 --> 00:40:06,540 That rattles you. 580 00:40:06,820 --> 00:40:08,860 But her motherfucking ass kept going. 581 00:40:09,695 --> 00:40:13,045 And now she has a couple of her books that are published in 582 00:40:13,045 --> 00:40:16,665 something insane, like 40 languages. 583 00:40:16,795 --> 00:40:17,335 Okay? 584 00:40:18,174 --> 00:40:19,204 She kept going. 585 00:40:19,345 --> 00:40:24,715 I had Nada and Strada for months and I'm spending all of this money 586 00:40:24,935 --> 00:40:27,275 on putting out a podcast in time. 587 00:40:27,865 --> 00:40:31,535 And I was like, Universe, God, throw me a bone, man. 588 00:40:31,575 --> 00:40:32,955 Tell me this is worth doing. 589 00:40:33,825 --> 00:40:38,105 And it was, it basically, it's like, no sis, we ain't gonna do that. 590 00:40:38,715 --> 00:40:43,915 until you're not so needy and being codependent on something 591 00:40:43,915 --> 00:40:45,985 external for you to keep going. 592 00:40:46,535 --> 00:40:52,214 You need to strengthen your faith muscle and you need to detach from the outcome 593 00:40:52,785 --> 00:40:55,954 and truly let go and then we will. 594 00:40:56,724 --> 00:41:00,954 And it's funny what happens as soon as you truly detach, as soon as you come 595 00:41:00,954 --> 00:41:06,384 to that grounded resolve of my hands are up, I surrender, waving the right 596 00:41:06,384 --> 00:41:08,810 white flag, I'm going to keep going. 597 00:41:08,820 --> 00:41:10,500 I don't like this feeling. 598 00:41:10,650 --> 00:41:12,770 I really welcome the sales. 599 00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:15,280 I really welcome the accolades. 600 00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:17,010 I really welcome the reviews. 601 00:41:17,010 --> 00:41:19,899 I really welcome proof that this is working and this is 602 00:41:19,910 --> 00:41:24,910 worth it, but I'm committed to keep showing up until it does. 603 00:41:24,970 --> 00:41:26,709 And then that's when it happens. 604 00:41:26,789 --> 00:41:28,000 And it can't be faked. 605 00:41:28,990 --> 00:41:33,380 God, spirit, universe, angels, spirit guides, aliens, they all know 606 00:41:33,390 --> 00:41:35,060 you better than you know yourself. 607 00:41:35,060 --> 00:41:36,390 They know when you're faking it. 608 00:41:36,800 --> 00:41:38,580 You can't have a half surrender. 609 00:41:38,709 --> 00:41:42,600 You can't have a half, a half letting go, right? 610 00:41:42,650 --> 00:41:44,070 Like it doesn't work like that. 611 00:41:44,300 --> 00:41:46,810 That's where there, that is an all or nothing thing. 612 00:41:48,449 --> 00:41:59,520 And watching how addicted every single person is and I can go into an addiction 613 00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:05,590 with it, too, of external validation to prove that what we're doing is right, 614 00:42:05,620 --> 00:42:08,700 that we're worthy of doing this, that it's going to work, that we're going 615 00:42:08,700 --> 00:42:12,830 to continue making the money, that we're going to have continued success, 616 00:42:13,010 --> 00:42:16,860 that we can go to the next level, that we can do the thing that we really 617 00:42:16,860 --> 00:42:20,640 want to do, that we're not crazy for thinking this, that it is all going to 618 00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:23,750 work, it's all going to be worth all the investment and the money and the 619 00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,639 time and the energy and all the things. 620 00:42:28,370 --> 00:42:35,540 And every single person at that mastermind has that to every single person. 621 00:42:35,720 --> 00:42:36,810 We all have it. 622 00:42:36,950 --> 00:42:39,390 And that's part of the ego's game with us. 623 00:42:40,380 --> 00:42:44,389 And so the key is practicing that detachment. 624 00:42:44,929 --> 00:42:50,060 When you make a commitment to yourself, I am committed to showing 625 00:42:50,060 --> 00:42:52,160 up no matter what the fuck happens. 626 00:42:53,090 --> 00:42:55,150 And you have to say your period of time. 627 00:42:55,300 --> 00:42:57,610 I, whatever goal it is. 628 00:42:58,085 --> 00:43:02,105 I typically like saying on, I gave my podcast a year. 629 00:43:02,275 --> 00:43:03,675 I said, I'm going to give it a year. 630 00:43:03,995 --> 00:43:09,125 And if in a year I literally don't see any clear upward movement of 631 00:43:09,154 --> 00:43:10,925 the show, then I will reevaluate. 632 00:43:10,925 --> 00:43:14,085 That doesn't mean I would quit, but I'll reevaluate. 633 00:43:15,005 --> 00:43:17,274 What is that timeframe for you? 634 00:43:18,485 --> 00:43:21,015 And it could be for a different section of your business, a 635 00:43:21,015 --> 00:43:22,625 different goal that you have. 636 00:43:23,090 --> 00:43:25,260 But what is that timeframe for you? 637 00:43:25,470 --> 00:43:28,970 We have less than three months till the end of the year. 638 00:43:29,010 --> 00:43:30,890 This year went by crazy fast. 639 00:43:31,060 --> 00:43:33,090 We're in prime money making season. 640 00:43:33,650 --> 00:43:35,990 Are you putting all your cards on the table? 641 00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:38,009 Are you going all in on the thing? 642 00:43:38,310 --> 00:43:44,050 Or you toe dipping and half assing and half detaching and half surrendering, 643 00:43:45,030 --> 00:43:50,410 but demanding and expecting and yearning for full ass results. 644 00:43:50,410 --> 00:43:51,850 You have to call yourself out. 645 00:43:53,445 --> 00:43:59,065 This is the time to make the all in play and stop looking around. 646 00:43:59,065 --> 00:44:03,684 Well, I had all these sales calls and this didn't go through and then I 647 00:44:03,685 --> 00:44:07,154 got, I got some clients, but they're not the exact clients that I wanted. 648 00:44:07,154 --> 00:44:10,854 And I put out this piece of content and, and like that, 649 00:44:10,854 --> 00:44:12,404 this isn't getting the views. 650 00:44:12,404 --> 00:44:14,454 It's like, it's one piece of content. 651 00:44:14,844 --> 00:44:15,184 Wow. 652 00:44:15,184 --> 00:44:18,604 You're putting a lot of weight on one thing or one email. 653 00:44:18,604 --> 00:44:21,184 Or you mentioned you did one launch. 654 00:44:22,574 --> 00:44:27,284 You know, you put out one song you put, you know, that doesn't work like that. 655 00:44:28,904 --> 00:44:30,374 That's magical thinking. 656 00:44:30,454 --> 00:44:31,374 That's a setup. 657 00:44:32,124 --> 00:44:33,564 I know what you want. 658 00:44:33,584 --> 00:44:34,574 You want what you want. 659 00:44:34,574 --> 00:44:35,284 You want it now. 660 00:44:35,324 --> 00:44:36,064 Absolutely. 661 00:44:36,064 --> 00:44:39,794 I want all the inflammation in my body to be gone like yesterday. 662 00:44:40,184 --> 00:44:42,544 And I'm a very fucking compliant patient. 663 00:44:42,724 --> 00:44:45,684 I'm very compliant when I want something because there's no other 664 00:44:45,684 --> 00:44:48,774 way to be other than compliant if you want to get the results. 665 00:44:50,524 --> 00:44:56,174 And it is tough when I want when that's when I said like I also fall into wanting 666 00:44:56,174 --> 00:45:00,544 external stuff, not as much in business because I've really strengthened that 667 00:45:00,544 --> 00:45:04,744 muscle and I know I have my moments but I've done a lot of work around it. 668 00:45:05,084 --> 00:45:08,074 But when it comes to my body it gets really frustrating. 669 00:45:08,194 --> 00:45:12,114 I want to control it, what the fuck I want the results and I want it now. 670 00:45:13,244 --> 00:45:16,404 And it's like the body heals at the pace it needs to heal at. 671 00:45:17,129 --> 00:45:21,599 And putting the pressure on yourself is certainly not going to help you heal. 672 00:45:21,599 --> 00:45:23,299 It's actually going to slow your healing. 673 00:45:23,539 --> 00:45:27,089 Putting the pressure on every piece of content you put out and everything 674 00:45:27,089 --> 00:45:32,169 you put out and the anxiety and the stress and the refreshing, refreshing, 675 00:45:32,169 --> 00:45:36,589 refreshing and looking and, and hoping and searching and where's the sign 676 00:45:37,279 --> 00:45:39,399 that's pushing the abundance away. 677 00:45:39,789 --> 00:45:43,579 It's putting way too much, too, too much. 678 00:45:44,264 --> 00:45:46,994 Pressure on something where you're snuffing it all out. 679 00:45:46,994 --> 00:45:48,794 You're snuffing all the abundance out. 680 00:45:51,264 --> 00:45:58,244 So my other question to you is, what outcome are you releasing? 681 00:45:58,864 --> 00:46:00,784 What do you need to release? 682 00:46:00,814 --> 00:46:02,204 The need for what? 683 00:46:02,674 --> 00:46:05,274 You have a need for family to believe in you. 684 00:46:05,294 --> 00:46:08,844 You have the need for pops to say he's proud of you. 685 00:46:09,324 --> 00:46:13,614 You have the need to have grow your following faster. 686 00:46:13,844 --> 00:46:16,944 You have the need to sell out your retreat. 687 00:46:17,704 --> 00:46:19,904 That neediness is codependency. 688 00:46:19,904 --> 00:46:24,244 What you're saying is, in order for me to believe in myself, I need this to happen. 689 00:46:24,694 --> 00:46:25,544 Let me repeat that. 690 00:46:26,044 --> 00:46:31,354 In order for me to fully believe in myself, I need X, Y, and Z to happen. 691 00:46:33,144 --> 00:46:37,504 The secret is, you're fully believing in yourself regardless 692 00:46:37,564 --> 00:46:39,484 of when X, Y, and Z will happen. 693 00:46:39,494 --> 00:46:44,554 X, Y, and Z will happen, but you have to believe in yourself of regardless 694 00:46:44,644 --> 00:46:47,044 of the timing of that happening. 695 00:46:47,999 --> 00:46:53,029 If you do not do that work and have the support in doing that work, you will 696 00:46:53,069 --> 00:46:57,209 end up quitting, you'll end up taking your foot off the gas, you'll end up 697 00:46:57,209 --> 00:47:03,699 going full throttle to half measures, which will end up being an insane 698 00:47:03,699 --> 00:47:06,989 loop because you'll never get there because you never have the consistency. 699 00:47:08,124 --> 00:47:11,704 You'll end up putting your foot in the water than taking it out. 700 00:47:11,714 --> 00:47:14,724 Maybe once in a while you'll jump in, but then as soon as you don't 701 00:47:14,724 --> 00:47:18,864 get that external validation, you'll fucking take yourself off, out, 702 00:47:18,874 --> 00:47:20,944 sit on the side, dry yourself off. 703 00:47:21,284 --> 00:47:24,514 And then it'll be months before you go back again. 704 00:47:25,584 --> 00:47:29,164 You're hearing this because you're in that pattern and you're not 705 00:47:29,164 --> 00:47:30,584 meant to get out of it alone. 706 00:47:30,594 --> 00:47:32,874 You have so many resources here. 707 00:47:33,634 --> 00:47:36,034 You already feel safe with me. 708 00:47:36,254 --> 00:47:37,474 You already know me. 709 00:47:38,124 --> 00:47:42,784 You know the resources of where you can have that support in working 710 00:47:42,784 --> 00:47:50,734 with me and trust yourself because you not trusting yourself and you 711 00:47:50,734 --> 00:47:56,614 not betting on yourself and you not fully believing in yourself, you will 712 00:47:56,614 --> 00:48:00,394 literally die, never getting there. 713 00:48:01,154 --> 00:48:02,334 It'll never happen. 714 00:48:02,744 --> 00:48:05,714 And I can tell you it's possible because if it was possible 715 00:48:05,724 --> 00:48:11,214 for me, where I literally had no self worth, my own mother. 716 00:48:11,689 --> 00:48:18,749 My only living relative today, who I'm no contact with, sold me to the 717 00:48:18,749 --> 00:48:23,579 devil, pimped me out, doesn't even call me on my fucking birthday. 718 00:48:23,879 --> 00:48:29,109 And I was like the prize perfect little daughter, you know, trying to do whatever 719 00:48:29,109 --> 00:48:31,419 I had to do to appease the narcissist. 720 00:48:33,989 --> 00:48:38,899 And I was discarded and I had nothing and I had nobody. 721 00:48:39,889 --> 00:48:43,439 And if I was able to get to a place. 722 00:48:44,179 --> 00:48:50,589 Of knowing that I am inherently worthy for being me and my desires 723 00:48:50,589 --> 00:48:54,979 are absolutely powerful and they are possible and it is all happening. 724 00:48:55,249 --> 00:48:58,719 And as long as I am here and I'm committed and I'm humble and I'm 725 00:48:58,729 --> 00:49:03,529 willing, and I continue to do the work and ask for help and invest in myself. 726 00:49:04,189 --> 00:49:09,289 and surround myself with quality people and continue to show up no matter what. 727 00:49:09,289 --> 00:49:11,059 And I'm committed to my vision. 728 00:49:11,059 --> 00:49:14,879 I'm committed to my thing and continue to detach. 729 00:49:17,259 --> 00:49:19,479 I'm proof for you that it works. 730 00:49:21,179 --> 00:49:22,349 And I want this for you. 731 00:49:23,209 --> 00:49:24,659 And I know you want it for you. 732 00:49:25,859 --> 00:49:30,589 And those are the true bottom line secrets to success. 733 00:49:31,539 --> 00:49:34,639 Wishing you great health, wealth, and worth as always. 734 00:49:35,099 --> 00:49:35,579 Love you.