Your power.
I love that.
Look around the room.
You'll see that you're not
so alone after all.
And that unconfidence could
look like any of us.
Maybe your whole life you
have been told that the best wins,
but I'm telling you right
now that the best known will win.
Hello everyone.
Good afternoon.
If it's afternoon for you or
is it night or is it in the morning?
Drop in the comments.
Let me know what time it is,
where you are and where you
are in this part of the world, right?
What state do you live in?
If you're in the United States,
if you're outside,
what country do you live in?
So today is a special impromptu episode of
I will be going over my GRASP method,
my five signature steps, GRASP,
with you guys today.
I have never done a solo
episode going over my five steps,
so I thought it would be a
good idea to try it out.
just to see if we could
deepen the understanding of
what grasp actually is and
what the five steps signify
and how they can transform your life.
This is truly life changing stuff.
I want to say that.
And the formula for confidence, it is,
it's a simple five step formula.
The great thing about it is
that it doesn't just build
your confidence, right?
It also builds a more fulfilled,
more purpose-driven life,
a more intentional life.
So it's a deep form of
personal development.
So a lot of times when we
say or hear the word confidence,
it often gets misconstrued, right?
And sometimes we think of it
in a negative connotation
like that person may be arrogant,
we think, right?
Or something like that.
Or we associate the word
confidence with arrogance.
But after we go over these
five steps today,
my goal is to show you that
arrogance is actually not
possible in authentic confidence.
So let's not get those two
things misconstrued.
I think that's really
important to start off
there because true
authentic confidence is not arrogant.
So powerful.
So let's go over these steps.
And I will give you a little
bit of an explanation as
well as to why they are in
this particular order.
So the first element is G.
So that stands for gratitude.
And the way I view it is
that gratitude is the
foundation of confidence.
So we think of a building, right?
A building has a foundation to it.
Without the foundation,
the building wouldn't be
able to withstand pressures
from external factors like
wind and weather erosion, earthquakes,
and it would settle, right?
It wouldn't stand up.
You have to have a
foundation in order to
build pillars of confidence.
And the foundation is gratitude.
And the reason is because
gratitude by itself is the
law of increase, right?
So if we think about a piggy bank,
let's say,
every time we're putting coins
into the bank,
that's an expression of like gratitude,
right?
We're thankful, we're grateful.
Every time we express gratitude,
it's like putting a coin
into the piggy bank.
And every time we complain
or express negativity,
it's like taking a coin out
of the piggy bank.
So it leaves you with a deficit.
Whereas with gratitude,
you always have a surplus.
The more you have,
the more you have to be grateful for.
And it's such a beautiful
thing because it's such an
abundant thing.
So that's why I say
gratitude is a law of increase.
So if we can start at a
place of abundance,
As we go through our
personal development journey,
it makes the transition
into becoming the best
possible version of
yourself so much easier, right?
You have a foundation built
so that even if external
forces come into your life,
which they'll come into all of our lives,
even when external forces
come into our life,
we're able to withstand them.
And that is so key, right?
So it's also a sustaining thing.
So gratitude is very much a
sustaining thing.
It's nurturing.
It's cultivating the ground
and making it possible for
you to plant seeds and for
something to grow.
So start with a foundation of gratitude.
And we can already see
before we even get into the
other steps that if we have
this foundation of gratitude,
We already are in an
increase and we're doing it
on a stable level.
This is long-term solution, right?
So gratitude, first step,
and I even break it down a
little further in my book
and in my TEDx talk as well, Gratitude,
the Foundation of Confidence.
I break it down even further
by having three layers of
gratitude in our personal
development journey and our journey
for gaining increased levels
of confidence.
And that is gratitude for
the person that you were.
Gratitude for the person that you were.
And this is pretty powerful,
especially if we have had
traumatic experiences, traumas,
scary things happen to us,
bad things happen to us.
Really bad things happen to us.
And we can feel like a victim.
And it's very easy to feel like a victim.
And no one would blame you
if you were a victim of a horrible crime.
That's not your fault, right?
But what we're saying is,
do we stay a victim?
And
I think that's an important
lesson there about forgiveness.
If we can truly have and
find the gratitude in those lessons,
in those experiences,
then what can't we find the gratitude in,
right?
And then the next step to
that is gratitude for the
person that you are.
Listen,
it's really easy to beat ourselves up.
It's really easy to find
fault in everything we do.
It's really easy to say
you're not doing enough or
that you wish you could do more.
But what are you doing right
now that's pretty amazing?
That if you look back in your life before,
you would say, man, I've come a long way.
Start there, right?
Start with gratitude for the
lessons that you're going
through right now,
all these journeys and
things that are happening in your life.
What are the lessons you can
learn from this right now?
And what can you appreciate about them?
And you'll see how much
further you have grown.
And this is just a fact.
If you've already grown,
you can grow some more, right?
There's seemingly no limit to this.
And it's an amazing thing
because now we're tying in
a mindset of gratitude, right?
So again,
gratitude is something that deepens.
And this is one of the
points that I want to
mention on gratitude is
that it actually deepens
and has layers to it.
So you can deepen your
relationship with it.
And it is, it's a relationship.
This is nothing you check
off the box and say, well,
I've done my gratitude today, right?
This is something that is a
lifestyle change and daily
practice and habit.
And when you get in the
habit of having an attitude for gratitude,
it really does work to
rewire our brains and form new beliefs.
And my friends, if we can form new beliefs,
we can break cycles, right?
And that means if we can
break cycles and shift something,
that means we could become confident.
Step into the best leader of ourselves.
Step into the best whatever it is we are.
That's pretty powerful.
And then the third step to
that is a gratitude for the
person that you are becoming, right?
This brings in and ties in visualization.
Visualization is so important.
Just like an athlete would
visualize their success
prior to stepping on the field,
would visualize them
catching the game-winning touchdown,
running for the field goal,
and scoring and lifting up their hands,
right?
They're going to visualize the win.
And how often do we do the exact opposite?
How often every day do we
visualize the worst
potential outcomes for something?
This is actively setting up our behavior,
setting up our habits,
setting up our actions.
And the longer we stay in that cycle,
the less improved we become over time,
right?
So that's why this next step is important,
and that is responsibility.
It's about also a
responsibility for that
future version of yourself
and having a visualization of yourself.
And then holding on to that,
taking ownership,
taking responsibility of your choices,
of your outcomes, of your thoughts,
right?
Taking responsibility for your life.
This is huge.
And we can see that no
matter what happened to us in our past,
It's up to us to have a
responsibility and
ownership mindset for the
future outcomes that will be.
The future is going to happen either way,
but we have to have a
responsibility and
ownership toward it so that
we set ourselves up for success.
And again,
I'm talking about personal
development and gaining
confidence right now,
but really isn't this the
formula already for success
in all areas of life?
Monetary success, success in relationships,
success in personal development,
success in leadership, it's all success.
It's success in general.
And again,
this is why this is success
because we're starting with, again,
the law of increase in this formula.
So it's so impactful because of that.
So it's about leaving the
negative mindset and the negative habits,
the autopilot mentality
behind and adopting a
mindset of responsibility
that goes at things, goes at goals,
goes at dreams, goes at whatever,
with a strategy.
And personal development is no different.
This has to be done through
strategic approach, right?
So have a responsibility and
ownership mindset, again,
for your present
present actions so that you
can actively change your future outcomes.
So important.
Then the third step, or pardon me,
the fourth step, third step is action.
So action is important, right?
Because no amount of thought
replaces action.
We can't sit and think our way to success,
again,
in personal development or any
other areas of our life.
We have to put in the work.
We have to put in the action.
And again,
we tie back into that
visualization aspect of it.
If we have a goal and we see it clearly,
the next logical step is to
put in action.
There is no point in acting
without taking a
responsibility to
understand the path you're going on.
And this is, I feel like,
a common mistake that a lot
of leaders make.
They put in the action first
and they have all great intentions,
right?
But the strategy is simply
not there and it falls flat on its face.
We can relate this back to a
work experience.
We can relate this to our own selves,
right, in our life.
It's the strategy that is
needed prior to the action.
This helps shift your
mindset in a completely different way.
Because when we act first,
even with great intentions,
but we lack strategy and directions,
It doesn't result in an
ultimate success like it could be, right?
Maybe it results in a poor
outcome and you start to
feel like a failure and you think,
why am I failing when I'm
putting in action?
Everybody says to put in action, right?
But it's not.
Action is wasted energy without strategy.
And that is why
responsibility and
ownership is so important and crucial.
First, you have to develop that mindset.
then the plan, then the action to follow.
And you'll waste a lot less
energy and reach your goals
so much faster, definitely.
Then there's the fourth step,
which is sight.
And again, this ties in visualization,
right?
Now,
this is a physical sight as well as a
mental one.
So I think that's a clear
distinction as well that I want to make.
When I say sight,
I do mean your
visualizations that you have in your mind,
right?
And keeping those visuals very clear.
But I also want you to be
able to look at your
physical self and like what
you see and have gratitude for it.
This is so important.
And for anybody who's
listening to this right now,
go into your closet right now.
If you have a piece of
clothing that you look at
that you're never going to
wear again and it doesn't
make you feel good about yourself,
get rid of it.
Get rid of it.
If maybe it's something
that's like four sizes too
small and you're just
thinking every time you look at it,
it makes you feel unconfident.
It makes you feel like a failure.
Get rid of it.
Get rid of the energy.
Trust me.
It's not serving you.
It never has.
It never will.
Wear clothing that makes you
feel confident.
Wear clothing that makes you
look in the mirror and
appreciate yourself.
Wear clothing that's
complementary to your hair color,
your skin color,
and do whatever it takes to
like your appearance.
But also in the meantime,
while you're working on
your personal development,
while you're getting in shape,
while you're eating healthy,
you're all the time going
to be grateful of who you are right now.
You're also going to tie in
the responsibility mindset that says,
I have a goal, I'm going to work on it.
I'm gonna hold myself
accountable and have some agency.
Again, we have to have responsibility.
And then the longer we hold
onto these concepts here of this method,
the clearer the picture becomes,
the more certainty we have
to realize that
And the more chances we will
have of reaching our goals
and our destination.
It's so important to really
understand these concepts because again,
if we can learn these
concepts and apply them,
it changes our lives.
And again,
this works for individuals as
well as leadership teams.
Whole companies should be practicing this.
This is so key.
Think about,
I want you to think about this,
leaders out there.
Starting off your company
huddles with expressions of gratitude.
How do you think that would
set the tone for the rest of the day?
So let's say you have a
morning huddle and you get
everybody together and you
start with immediately the
data and the tasks at hand.
Nobody's even listening yet.
What if you made it engaging
and started it off with
gratitude and maybe had a
few people share their hand,
raise their hands and share their stories,
make them feel included,
but then also reinforce a
positive environment, positive mindset,
emotionally intelligence mindset.
Again,
this method can be applied to people
and businesses just the same.
Then I want to talk about the fifth step,
which is purpose.
So it's a combination of purpose, right?
Now,
when I was originally formulating this
method, I thought, where is purpose?
Is it the first step?
Is it the last step?
I wasn't quite sure where it fit in.
And the reason I had it be
the last step in this
method is because I liken
it to Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
So if you've ever seen that table,
Maslow's hierarchy of needs,
it's often depicted as a pyramid.
There are five distinct
levels of human needs.
At the very bottom, it's your basics, air,
water,
Those type of things, right?
The basics for survival, right?
Then the next is safety.
Are you in a safe place, right?
And it goes up from there.
The very top of the pyramid
is the self-actualization.
So this is where you're
visualizing this purpose, this
What do I want to do with my
impact in the world, right?
Not just surviving,
but now you're asking yourself,
how can I make the most of myself?
How can I find and align with my purpose,
my highest calling, right?
So that's why I have purpose at the end.
So that's the fifth one.
And again,
I liken it to that because if we
don't have these lower level steps met,
these more foundational
layers constructed, again,
if I'm thinking of building confidence,
like I would think about
constructing a house or a building,
you have to have
foundational layers first, right?
So again, if I'm thinking about that,
you still have to have
these foundational layers first
Then at the top of your pyramid,
you're able to self-actualize.
You're able to find and
align with your purpose.
So I actually think this is
really inspirational as
well because so many people
right now are searching for
their purposes.
I see nothing but
conversations on LinkedIn
and other social media channels saying,
that are talking about
purpose and the meaning of
life and why are we here
and what are your natural
gifts and these type of conversations.
And it's beautiful.
So many people are at this
point now where they're
getting to the top of the
pyramid and they're
self-actualizing and
they're questioning and
they're wondering and they want to know.
And that is a great sign.
That's a sign that a lot of
people are coming out of
something and transitioning
into something else.
That change is happening and
it's beautiful.
That we can go from being
unconfident or feeling
unpurposeful or depressed
or anxious to actually
feeling like you have a
purpose and wanting to search for it.
And I know this personally
because I myself went
through this exact journey
of wondering if I even had a purpose.
What was my meaning in life?
So now I feel very
purposeful and purposely
driven and I want to help
other people succeed, right?
And this is, again,
this can be applied in a
team scenario as well in business.
Are your people, the members of your team,
are they aligned with their purpose?
Are they aligned with their
natural skills and abilities?
This is key.
The first thing we have to
do is understand our people.
Understand what they're
actually going through.
Understanding it by talking to them more,
by having more conversations,
by getting to know them.
Understanding what makes them tick.
Understanding what they want and need.
And again, our employees are people,
right?
Our teammates are other people.
Some of the people in our
groups and teams and our
businesses right now don't
have those lower level
needs meant that we were
just talking about right
now in Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
We ultimately never know
what someone is going through
or what someone has already been through.
And it's really important to
have gratitude for all people.
Gratitude for everyone.
Find the gratitude in someone.
Maybe it's a coworker that
you don't get along with.
Find the gratitude.
Maybe you just need to get
to know them a little bit more, right?
In any case,
it's about transforming a mindset
from one of limitation to
one of expansion.
It's expansion within yourself,
within your teams, within your businesses,
your families.
Your entire family unit and
everyone around you
benefits through your
personal development.
So if you're ever in an
environment that you don't
think suits you,
Maybe you want a leadership position,
a position of leadership in your company,
and you haven't been approached yet,
haven't gotten the opportunity yet.
Then the best thing that you
can possibly do is to
become a leader of yourself
in increasing ways.
Being a leader of yourself, again,
increase will follow that.
People will be attracted to that.
and personal development,
building confidence, self-leadership,
leadership of many people.
It all starts right here.
It starts from within.
But the environment that we
surround ourselves with is very important,
that it's people that are uplifting to us,
people that are nurturing to us, right?
People that support us and believe in us.
Because within all of us
resides a seed of potential.
And I want you to think about that phrase,
seed of potential.
And here's how I liken a
seed of potential.
A seed of potential is a purpose,
a seed of purpose within each of us.
And you can think of it like
an apple seed.
If you look at an apple seed,
if you hold it in the palm
of your hand and you've
never seen an apple seed grow into a tree,
you might not believe that
that small seed has so much
potential within it, right?
But we know that that apple seed,
the success of it has a lot
to do with where it's planted.
If the apple seed is planted
in a beautifully cultivated
field that has the right
amount of sunlight,
the right amount of nutrients,
gets the right amount of water,
if it's in the right environment,
it will grow and it will
live to its purpose and
fullest potential.
I think we can all agree with that analogy,
right?
But you take that same exact seed
And you toss it into the road haphazardly,
right?
It may sprout,
but it is not in the right environment.
It's actually in a dangerous environment.
Cars could go over top of it
at any time and it could be
severely damaged, right?
Or worse.
And there's also probably
not soil there and it would
be really hard for it to take root.
So the seed,
there's nothing wrong with the seed.
The seed has all of the same
power and potential as the
seed that was planted in the field,
in the cultivated field.
They are the same seed biologically,
right?
Their environment completely
changed the outcome for that seed.
One was able to live to its
full purpose and potential.
The other was stifled.
There's a huge, huge, huge lesson there.
And I do encourage everybody
to view themselves as a
seed of potential.
Within each of you exists a
seed of infinite potential.
And I say infinite because it is infinite.
Your body's
The iron in your blood was
made from the stars.
So there's a famous astrophysicist,
Carl Sagan.
He once said that in a quote, he said,
we are made of star stuff.
And that's so true.
The iron in our blood came
from exploding stars from
supernovas and was cascaded
into the universe.
which eventually formed
planets and suns and us.
So there is this infinite
universe already existing within you,
which means you have all
the power and potential in
the world in order to
accomplish your dreams,
in order to become the best
version of yourself,
in order to live a purposely driven life.
And it is up to you to take responsibility
to cultivate that seed,
to make sure that seed has
an environment that it can
flourish and grow.
And part of the soil, really, again,
if we're thinking of that example,
that would be this cultivated soil,
like I'm talking about to plant the seed,
would be gratitude.
Again, the foundation, right?
Gratitude is always going to
be your constant companion
in your personal development journey.
Again,
in your journey of building
authentic confidence.
Gratitude is your constant companion.
It's the soil that nurtures your seed.
It is the foundation that
builds confidence.
It is the law of increase.
And it is also living prayers.
It's a belief and a faith
that you will become
exactly who you were created to be.
Guys, this is powerful.
This is totally life-changing.
And when you practice this enough,
and I do consider it being
a practitioner of gratitude.
or a teacher of gratitude,
when you practice this enough,
it becomes a lifestyle.
And it's something that you
just want to keep doing every single day.
So it's extremely powerful
stuff and completely transformative.
So I hope that overview
helped you in your depth of
understanding for what the grasp
confidence method is all about,
what this podcast is all about,
what my book is all about.
Because it is a deep book.
It's an easy read.
It's not a complicated read.
It is an easy read.
But it is a depth of understanding.
And a lot of people haven't
thought about it this way.
So it's just, it's something new, right?
But I know that this changes
lives because it already has.
Viewers and readers from
across the globe have
reached out after reading
the book or listening to
this podcast to express
their gratitude for this
show and how much it has
helped them in their
personal development journeys.
This is life-changing stuff,
and it helped one reader in
particular that I'm thinking about.
overcome childhood trauma
that she said she had for 30 plus years.
Just practicing the gratitude.
Gratitude is the foundation
of her personal development journey.
It changed her life.
And this is one person.
So as I get viewers and fans
of this book and of Grasp
to keep coming forward,
I just want to express my
gratitude to each of you
Thank you so much for making
all of this possible.
I'm extremely grateful for
all of my listeners and
readers of my book.
Without your support,
this would not be possible.
And I'm going to continue to
put out books and works for
you guys to enjoy because
you do love it so much.
And I love you.
So God bless with gratitude.
I'm so grateful.
Thank you, everyone.