1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:01,980 Hello, hello, everyone, and welcome 2 00:00:01,980 --> 00:00:03,930 to the Intentional Advantage podcast. 3 00:00:03,949 --> 00:00:05,719 I'm your host, Tanya Dalton. 4 00:00:06,069 --> 00:00:07,409 This is episode 302. 5 00:00:08,696 --> 00:00:11,044 This is our last episode in our 6 00:00:11,044 --> 00:00:13,884 season of does your life spark joy? 7 00:00:14,155 --> 00:00:15,234 We've been exploring that 8 00:00:15,234 --> 00:00:17,064 question all season long. 9 00:00:17,654 --> 00:00:18,354 And it's a big one. 10 00:00:18,684 --> 00:00:20,414 That's a big question to ask yourself. 11 00:00:20,854 --> 00:00:22,204 Because if your life is not 12 00:00:22,204 --> 00:00:24,694 sparking joy, what's the point? 13 00:00:25,015 --> 00:00:25,245 Right? 14 00:00:25,574 --> 00:00:27,965 I mean, we really want to be happy. 15 00:00:27,965 --> 00:00:29,575 Yes, we want to accomplish a lot of 16 00:00:29,575 --> 00:00:31,305 things, but it doesn't mean it has 17 00:00:31,305 --> 00:00:32,995 to be hard or has to be difficult. 18 00:00:33,724 --> 00:00:35,954 And the truth is, if we're not stopping 19 00:00:35,954 --> 00:00:39,134 to ask ourself that question, am I happy? 20 00:00:39,384 --> 00:00:41,035 Does my life spark joy? 21 00:00:41,769 --> 00:00:43,679 It's really easy to feel like you're 22 00:00:43,679 --> 00:00:46,629 living on autopilot, which is definitely 23 00:00:46,629 --> 00:00:48,489 something we explored this season. 24 00:00:48,819 --> 00:00:51,189 I think it was episode 294. 25 00:00:51,489 --> 00:00:52,689 We talked about how to 26 00:00:52,689 --> 00:00:54,379 not live on autopilot. 27 00:00:54,939 --> 00:00:56,709 We've talked about a lot of these 28 00:00:56,720 --> 00:00:58,609 themes all season long, that inner 29 00:00:58,609 --> 00:01:00,710 voice in your head and where you 30 00:01:00,710 --> 00:01:02,479 want to go, how you feel about aging. 31 00:01:02,710 --> 00:01:04,689 We've talked about these things, 32 00:01:04,879 --> 00:01:06,470 but now it's time to step back and 33 00:01:06,470 --> 00:01:08,950 ask ourselves, Where are we going? 34 00:01:09,100 --> 00:01:10,260 Do I like where I am? 35 00:01:10,960 --> 00:01:13,590 Right now, as this episode goes live, it 36 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:17,060 is the end of June, which is a fantastic 37 00:01:17,060 --> 00:01:20,269 stop to take a breath, to do a quick check 38 00:01:20,269 --> 00:01:24,220 in, and see, hmm, is my life sparking joy? 39 00:01:24,250 --> 00:01:25,319 Because if it's not, 40 00:01:25,850 --> 00:01:26,960 let's make a few changes. 41 00:01:26,969 --> 00:01:28,180 Let's make some adjustments 42 00:01:28,530 --> 00:01:29,740 and let's bring a little more 43 00:01:29,740 --> 00:01:31,150 happiness to our everyday life. 44 00:01:31,620 --> 00:01:32,750 So that's what we're going to be 45 00:01:32,750 --> 00:01:34,369 talking about in today's episode. 46 00:01:35,390 --> 00:01:36,179 Let's get started. 47 00:01:37,169 --> 00:01:38,589 Does your life spark joy? 48 00:01:38,939 --> 00:01:40,339 I'm not asking if your life 49 00:01:40,339 --> 00:01:42,609 is good or if life feels okay. 50 00:01:42,829 --> 00:01:44,519 Does it spark joy? 51 00:01:44,659 --> 00:01:45,969 When was the last time you 52 00:01:46,119 --> 00:01:47,409 slipped into bed at night and 53 00:01:47,409 --> 00:01:49,949 thought, today felt amazing? 54 00:01:50,479 --> 00:01:51,789 Because if it's been more than two 55 00:01:51,789 --> 00:01:53,900 or three days, that's too long. 56 00:01:54,229 --> 00:01:56,349 I'm Tanya Dalton, a best selling author, 57 00:01:56,429 --> 00:01:58,161 motivational speaker, seven figure 58 00:01:58,161 --> 00:02:00,801 entrepreneur, and oh yeah, wife and mom. 59 00:02:00,801 --> 00:02:02,309 So I get it. 60 00:02:02,639 --> 00:02:05,019 I understand the stress of daily life. 61 00:02:05,229 --> 00:02:07,499 As a productivity expert, I'm here to 62 00:02:07,499 --> 00:02:09,719 help you choose the extraordinary life. 63 00:02:09,969 --> 00:02:11,579 This season, we will be exploring 64 00:02:11,589 --> 00:02:13,309 how we can create more joy and 65 00:02:13,309 --> 00:02:15,390 intention into every single day. 66 00:02:15,700 --> 00:02:17,869 And it doesn't have to be so hard. 67 00:02:18,649 --> 00:02:20,589 This is The Intentional Advantage. 68 00:02:21,675 --> 00:02:21,955 All right. 69 00:02:21,955 --> 00:02:25,105 So as I mentioned in the intro right now, 70 00:02:25,135 --> 00:02:27,165 as we record this episode, it's the end 71 00:02:27,165 --> 00:02:29,445 of June, it's the middle of the year, 72 00:02:29,505 --> 00:02:31,445 This is our mid year stopping point. 73 00:02:31,515 --> 00:02:32,195 We're having the summer 74 00:02:32,195 --> 00:02:33,755 solstice this past week. 75 00:02:34,135 --> 00:02:36,310 This is a fantastic time to, to. 76 00:02:36,580 --> 00:02:38,880 Just take a little breather to step back, 77 00:02:39,260 --> 00:02:41,520 see how you're feeling and then move 78 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:42,840 forward through the end of the year. 79 00:02:43,220 --> 00:02:44,670 Now, here's what I will say, because 80 00:02:44,670 --> 00:02:46,010 I know some of you will not listen 81 00:02:46,010 --> 00:02:47,720 to this as the episode goes live. 82 00:02:47,730 --> 00:02:49,450 You might be listening to this in March. 83 00:02:49,630 --> 00:02:51,530 You might be listening to this in August. 84 00:02:51,530 --> 00:02:52,440 You might be listening to it. 85 00:02:52,530 --> 00:02:53,160 Who knows? 86 00:02:54,270 --> 00:02:57,450 Whatever time you are listening to this 87 00:02:57,880 --> 00:02:59,810 today is a good time to stop and do the 88 00:02:59,810 --> 00:03:01,730 check in, especially if it's not something 89 00:03:01,730 --> 00:03:03,690 you're asking yourself on a regular basis. 90 00:03:03,720 --> 00:03:06,205 Hey, What's going on in my life? 91 00:03:06,415 --> 00:03:08,135 How do I need to make these adjustments? 92 00:03:08,675 --> 00:03:11,705 I am such a big fan of stopping 93 00:03:11,715 --> 00:03:12,975 and doing these check ins. 94 00:03:13,695 --> 00:03:16,175 And the reason why is because I think 95 00:03:16,175 --> 00:03:19,155 so often we don't see the changes. 96 00:03:19,155 --> 00:03:20,455 We don't see the adjustments. 97 00:03:20,455 --> 00:03:22,575 We don't see where our life 98 00:03:22,575 --> 00:03:24,465 is going until we stop. 99 00:03:25,105 --> 00:03:27,635 I like to equate it to going on a hike. 100 00:03:27,705 --> 00:03:29,475 John and I go on hikes. 101 00:03:29,845 --> 00:03:31,335 all the time, We go on these hikes. 102 00:03:31,435 --> 00:03:32,895 We live in the mountains of Asheville 103 00:03:33,325 --> 00:03:34,415 and sometimes we're going on the 104 00:03:34,415 --> 00:03:36,675 hike and you'll get to a point where 105 00:03:36,675 --> 00:03:39,805 your legs are burning and you think 106 00:03:40,045 --> 00:03:42,405 there's no way I can go on, right? 107 00:03:42,415 --> 00:03:43,085 John, you know what I'm 108 00:03:43,085 --> 00:03:43,955 talking about, right? 109 00:03:43,995 --> 00:03:46,225 Where we're just like exhausted, maybe 110 00:03:46,225 --> 00:03:49,075 we're hot, we're tired and we stop, 111 00:03:49,245 --> 00:03:50,725 we put our hands on our knees and 112 00:03:50,725 --> 00:03:51,865 we think, oh my gosh, I don't think 113 00:03:51,865 --> 00:03:52,695 we're going to make it to the top. 114 00:03:52,745 --> 00:03:54,015 We're not going to see this beautiful 115 00:03:54,015 --> 00:03:55,305 view that everybody talks about. 116 00:03:55,920 --> 00:03:58,540 And then you stop and you look back at 117 00:03:58,580 --> 00:04:01,900 how far we've come and suddenly, oh my 118 00:04:01,900 --> 00:04:03,460 gosh, it's so much easier because you 119 00:04:03,460 --> 00:04:06,090 realize, wow, we've already come this far. 120 00:04:06,160 --> 00:04:07,580 I've already accomplished so much. 121 00:04:08,030 --> 00:04:08,850 I can make it. 122 00:04:09,460 --> 00:04:11,250 And that's what a check in does for you. 123 00:04:11,300 --> 00:04:12,800 It gives you that momentum. 124 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:14,710 It gives you that second win to feel 125 00:04:14,710 --> 00:04:16,750 like, okay, I can keep doing this. 126 00:04:17,240 --> 00:04:19,420 Or you can stop and go, oh wait, 127 00:04:20,290 --> 00:04:21,500 we haven't gone very far at all. 128 00:04:22,130 --> 00:04:23,190 My legs are already burning. 129 00:04:23,630 --> 00:04:24,750 I'm out on this hike. 130 00:04:24,750 --> 00:04:26,190 This one isn't going to work for us. 131 00:04:26,390 --> 00:04:27,240 We're going to bag out. 132 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:28,840 We're going to go do something else. 133 00:04:28,870 --> 00:04:29,150 Right? 134 00:04:29,170 --> 00:04:31,190 So both of those are options, 135 00:04:31,590 --> 00:04:33,250 but that's what life is like. 136 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:35,380 Life can feel like a climb. 137 00:04:36,005 --> 00:04:37,605 It can feel exhausting at times. 138 00:04:37,635 --> 00:04:38,885 It can feel overwhelming. 139 00:04:39,285 --> 00:04:40,915 And if we're not stopping to do a check 140 00:04:40,915 --> 00:04:44,545 in, it's really easy to feel lost. 141 00:04:44,689 --> 00:04:45,879 Yeah, I totally agree. 142 00:04:45,889 --> 00:04:47,552 And you know, there have been those 143 00:04:47,552 --> 00:04:50,172 hikes where we have stopped and said, Oh, 144 00:04:50,172 --> 00:04:52,182 geez, we're not even halfway to the end. 145 00:04:52,509 --> 00:04:54,859 We probably should just turn around 146 00:04:54,869 --> 00:04:56,329 whether that's because we're tired or 147 00:04:56,329 --> 00:04:58,439 maybe it was Lucy that was tired, right? 148 00:04:58,939 --> 00:05:00,739 but if you don't stop and you make it 149 00:05:00,739 --> 00:05:03,129 all the way to the end and it's You're 150 00:05:03,129 --> 00:05:04,479 like, oh my god, that was so far. 151 00:05:04,729 --> 00:05:07,345 Oh, wait now I have to Go all the way back 152 00:05:07,345 --> 00:05:09,305 and it's maybe it's getting dark, you know 153 00:05:09,965 --> 00:05:11,635 you don't want to find yourself in that 154 00:05:11,635 --> 00:05:14,465 scenario, so Checking in is always a good 155 00:05:14,465 --> 00:05:16,395 thing to do and because you can always 156 00:05:16,395 --> 00:05:18,225 change directions, And I think that's 157 00:05:18,405 --> 00:05:19,685 that's what we're going to dive into 158 00:05:19,802 --> 00:05:20,582 Absolutely. 159 00:05:20,582 --> 00:05:22,822 Well, and this is a thing I love to have 160 00:05:22,822 --> 00:05:25,432 check ins scheduled on my calendar because 161 00:05:25,882 --> 00:05:27,262 just like anything else, if you don't 162 00:05:27,262 --> 00:05:29,162 have it scheduled, it's easy for it to 163 00:05:29,162 --> 00:05:31,242 slip into the cracks of everyday life. 164 00:05:31,252 --> 00:05:32,412 I don't have time to do that. 165 00:05:32,442 --> 00:05:33,842 I don't have it right. 166 00:05:34,172 --> 00:05:35,112 There's so many excuses 167 00:05:35,112 --> 00:05:35,972 we can come up with. 168 00:05:36,372 --> 00:05:38,452 So I literally put this in my calendar 169 00:05:38,452 --> 00:05:40,112 that I stop and do a check in. 170 00:05:40,112 --> 00:05:40,182 Okay. 171 00:05:40,332 --> 00:05:41,942 every quarter of the year. 172 00:05:42,145 --> 00:05:43,725 as I mentioned earlier, it's June. 173 00:05:43,725 --> 00:05:46,895 So right now doing the Q2 check 174 00:05:46,895 --> 00:05:48,535 in, also the mid year check in. 175 00:05:49,045 --> 00:05:50,915 I talk about this in On 176 00:05:50,915 --> 00:05:52,825 Purpose, in my second book. 177 00:05:53,485 --> 00:05:54,965 There's a whole chapter dedicated to 178 00:05:54,965 --> 00:05:58,015 this because I feel so passionately 179 00:05:58,505 --> 00:06:00,975 about stopping and doing these check ins 180 00:06:01,275 --> 00:06:02,855 because this is what's going to allow 181 00:06:02,855 --> 00:06:04,925 us to move in a positive direction. 182 00:06:05,610 --> 00:06:08,620 It is so easy to slip into the autopilot 183 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:10,740 and just think, well, this is just 184 00:06:10,750 --> 00:06:12,460 the way things are, this is just what 185 00:06:12,460 --> 00:06:15,300 life feels like, this is just, I guess 186 00:06:15,300 --> 00:06:17,090 this is part of being middle aged, or 187 00:06:17,090 --> 00:06:18,680 it's part of being a parent, or it's 188 00:06:18,690 --> 00:06:20,750 part of being whatever it is, right? 189 00:06:21,610 --> 00:06:22,850 And the truth is, a lot of times 190 00:06:22,850 --> 00:06:24,110 we're just telling ourselves that. 191 00:06:24,670 --> 00:06:26,460 If we stop and we ask ourselves a couple 192 00:06:26,460 --> 00:06:27,920 of key questions, which we're going to 193 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:30,300 dive into in just a few minutes, It's so 194 00:06:30,300 --> 00:06:32,380 much easier to stop and go, Oh, hold on. 195 00:06:32,470 --> 00:06:33,410 I want to change that. 196 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:36,120 Or, Ooh, I want to double down on that. 197 00:06:36,910 --> 00:06:38,330 And this is the thing is you've 198 00:06:38,330 --> 00:06:40,960 heard me talk about, This idea 199 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:43,050 that we lean into priorities and 200 00:06:43,050 --> 00:06:44,260 then we counterbalance, right? 201 00:06:44,260 --> 00:06:46,080 You lean into another priority 202 00:06:46,100 --> 00:06:47,000 and you counterbalance. 203 00:06:47,630 --> 00:06:48,840 It's like riding a bike. 204 00:06:48,910 --> 00:06:50,950 We've talked about this numerous times. 205 00:06:51,010 --> 00:06:52,770 That's what we really want. 206 00:06:52,790 --> 00:06:54,350 That's the harmony in life. 207 00:06:54,870 --> 00:06:56,050 Well, sometimes we're leaning 208 00:06:56,050 --> 00:06:58,000 into a priority and this check 209 00:06:58,000 --> 00:06:59,590 in allows us to go, Oh, wait. 210 00:06:59,860 --> 00:07:00,860 I've been leaning into that 211 00:07:00,860 --> 00:07:01,910 priority for a long time. 212 00:07:01,920 --> 00:07:03,850 Maybe I've been going really hard 213 00:07:04,340 --> 00:07:05,940 at these work goals and I've been 214 00:07:05,940 --> 00:07:07,260 really focused on work and it's 215 00:07:07,260 --> 00:07:09,120 time for me to counterbalance 216 00:07:09,460 --> 00:07:11,330 and lean into some family time. 217 00:07:11,660 --> 00:07:12,420 Maybe that's what you're 218 00:07:12,420 --> 00:07:12,930 going to find out. 219 00:07:12,950 --> 00:07:14,280 Or maybe it's, you know what? 220 00:07:14,310 --> 00:07:16,230 I need to lean into some personal time. 221 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:18,150 I need to do some things for myself 222 00:07:18,150 --> 00:07:20,030 to drive a little more motivation 223 00:07:20,030 --> 00:07:21,680 and excitement in my own life. 224 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:24,090 So this is a great opportunity 225 00:07:24,110 --> 00:07:26,380 to also stop and see, All right, 226 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:27,840 where do I want to go next? 227 00:07:28,132 --> 00:07:29,442 One of the things I think about is 228 00:07:29,852 --> 00:07:31,262 if you're pushing on something for a 229 00:07:31,262 --> 00:07:34,122 long time, you develop these blinders, 230 00:07:34,122 --> 00:07:36,122 because you're just on this one path. 231 00:07:36,359 --> 00:07:38,159 so you start to lose the ability to 232 00:07:38,312 --> 00:07:39,792 pay attention to the other things. 233 00:07:39,802 --> 00:07:41,495 So it's a really good opportunity 234 00:07:41,535 --> 00:07:43,662 just to stop and take those blinders 235 00:07:43,662 --> 00:07:46,002 off for a moment and look around 236 00:07:46,002 --> 00:07:47,792 and, see what else is going on. 237 00:07:48,242 --> 00:07:49,302 Are you on the right path? 238 00:07:49,322 --> 00:07:50,812 All of those types of things. 239 00:07:50,975 --> 00:07:52,412 To make sure that you're focused 240 00:07:52,412 --> 00:07:53,852 on where you should be or maybe 241 00:07:53,852 --> 00:07:54,952 it like you said It's time to 242 00:07:54,952 --> 00:07:56,502 counterbalance into something else 243 00:07:56,869 --> 00:07:58,802 Yeah, well, that's why I wanted 244 00:07:58,802 --> 00:08:00,989 to talk about the three A's today. 245 00:08:01,319 --> 00:08:02,699 So the three A's are 246 00:08:02,709 --> 00:08:05,579 acknowledge, assess and adjust. 247 00:08:06,109 --> 00:08:07,969 So let's dive into those right now. 248 00:08:07,969 --> 00:08:08,449 Let's start with the 249 00:08:08,449 --> 00:08:09,899 first one, acknowledge. 250 00:08:10,399 --> 00:08:12,239 When we acknowledge where we are, 251 00:08:12,269 --> 00:08:15,039 we're asking the question, Where am I? 252 00:08:16,319 --> 00:08:18,039 Not where are you in the room or in your 253 00:08:18,039 --> 00:08:22,939 house, but where am I in this lifetime, 254 00:08:23,029 --> 00:08:25,879 in this path we call life, where am I? 255 00:08:26,119 --> 00:08:27,529 I think so often we think about 256 00:08:27,559 --> 00:08:29,739 our, our goals and our dreams and 257 00:08:29,739 --> 00:08:31,189 the visions we have for ourselves 258 00:08:31,229 --> 00:08:32,739 and we think of them as a path. 259 00:08:33,119 --> 00:08:34,929 We have point A, Which is where 260 00:08:34,929 --> 00:08:36,569 we start and we're trying to get 261 00:08:36,579 --> 00:08:39,289 to this point B, but the truth is 262 00:08:39,289 --> 00:08:41,719 the path is all over the place. 263 00:08:41,729 --> 00:08:43,989 It's full of curves and detours and 264 00:08:43,999 --> 00:08:46,299 rerouting and just like when you go on 265 00:08:46,299 --> 00:08:47,919 a car trip and all of a sudden there's 266 00:08:47,919 --> 00:08:49,939 construction happening or maybe there's 267 00:08:49,939 --> 00:08:51,979 an accident and traffic slows down. 268 00:08:52,519 --> 00:08:55,149 So we really want to stop and say, hey. 269 00:08:55,414 --> 00:08:57,484 Where am I right now? 270 00:08:57,997 --> 00:08:59,407 And I think we have a tendency to 271 00:08:59,407 --> 00:09:02,247 get irritated or frustrated when we 272 00:09:02,247 --> 00:09:03,967 have this rerouting, when we have 273 00:09:03,967 --> 00:09:05,537 these detours in our life, we feel 274 00:09:05,537 --> 00:09:07,797 like this should be so much easier. 275 00:09:08,837 --> 00:09:11,487 But the truth is, it's those very 276 00:09:11,487 --> 00:09:13,707 things that makes life so much more 277 00:09:13,707 --> 00:09:15,987 exciting and so much more interesting. 278 00:09:16,627 --> 00:09:18,607 I think that we lose sight of, because 279 00:09:18,607 --> 00:09:20,917 we're so busy focusing on checking 280 00:09:20,937 --> 00:09:22,487 things off our to do list, right? 281 00:09:22,607 --> 00:09:24,077 Getting shit done. 282 00:09:24,547 --> 00:09:27,717 That we forget that these interruptions 283 00:09:27,827 --> 00:09:30,327 in our lives are actually opportunities. 284 00:09:30,797 --> 00:09:32,887 They're chances for us to go, Oh, hey! 285 00:09:33,142 --> 00:09:34,012 Maybe I want to go a different 286 00:09:34,012 --> 00:09:36,392 direction, or maybe it's an opportunity 287 00:09:36,392 --> 00:09:38,102 for you to slow down a little bit. 288 00:09:38,369 --> 00:09:39,299 I feel like a lot of times 289 00:09:39,299 --> 00:09:40,399 the universe does things to 290 00:09:40,589 --> 00:09:42,349 intentionally slow you down. 291 00:09:42,369 --> 00:09:44,339 To say, hey, you're going a little too 292 00:09:44,339 --> 00:09:46,839 hard, let's back it up a little bit, let's 293 00:09:46,849 --> 00:09:48,739 breathe, let's coast for a little bit. 294 00:09:49,155 --> 00:09:50,725 But the truth is, if everything 295 00:09:50,725 --> 00:09:52,890 was super simple, It wouldn't 296 00:09:52,900 --> 00:09:54,490 be very interesting at all. 297 00:09:54,762 --> 00:09:55,942 one of the things I think is really 298 00:09:55,942 --> 00:09:58,109 important is when you when you acknowledge 299 00:09:58,109 --> 00:10:00,789 you need to stop and acknowledge, So 300 00:10:00,859 --> 00:10:02,769 for example, if you're driving down 301 00:10:02,769 --> 00:10:03,909 the highway and you're not sure you're 302 00:10:03,909 --> 00:10:05,680 going in the right direction You're 303 00:10:05,680 --> 00:10:07,274 not going to pull out your GPS where 304 00:10:07,274 --> 00:10:09,510 you're driving, 75 miles an hour. 305 00:10:09,900 --> 00:10:11,577 You need to pull over, look at your 306 00:10:11,577 --> 00:10:13,087 surroundings, really take it in, do 307 00:10:13,087 --> 00:10:15,357 it in a way that you can take the time 308 00:10:15,357 --> 00:10:17,795 to really understand where you are. 309 00:10:18,355 --> 00:10:20,235 And maybe you'll find some of those 310 00:10:20,235 --> 00:10:22,269 things that, hey, you know, I'm 311 00:10:22,269 --> 00:10:24,049 going from point A to point B, but 312 00:10:24,049 --> 00:10:25,559 I'm missing these things in between. 313 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:26,939 Why don't we work in a few stops? 314 00:10:27,025 --> 00:10:28,315 Like you and I, Tanya, when we went on 315 00:10:28,315 --> 00:10:30,475 our vacation a few weeks ago, we drove 316 00:10:30,475 --> 00:10:32,622 to Florida, we found some places to stop. 317 00:10:32,632 --> 00:10:34,522 We stopped at the Bucky's in 318 00:10:34,522 --> 00:10:36,932 Daytona Beach, which is probably 319 00:10:36,932 --> 00:10:38,772 the busiest, craziest place I've 320 00:10:38,772 --> 00:10:40,272 ever seen in my entire life. 321 00:10:40,782 --> 00:10:41,652 There's so many people 322 00:10:41,652 --> 00:10:43,052 there, but it was fun, right? 323 00:10:43,052 --> 00:10:44,462 It was a nice little detour 324 00:10:44,462 --> 00:10:45,502 that broke up the trip. 325 00:10:46,052 --> 00:10:47,772 So when you stop and really check 326 00:10:47,772 --> 00:10:49,435 your surroundings, that's when 327 00:10:49,435 --> 00:10:51,325 you can really see where you are. 328 00:10:51,822 --> 00:10:54,112 I think the thing, is we feel so 329 00:10:54,112 --> 00:10:55,912 often like we have to fight through 330 00:10:55,992 --> 00:10:57,512 when it's tough, when it's hard. 331 00:10:57,532 --> 00:10:59,442 And there are going to be times 332 00:10:59,662 --> 00:11:01,042 when the path is difficult. 333 00:11:01,409 --> 00:11:02,639 I often say 334 00:11:02,759 --> 00:11:04,789 Doing what you love doesn't mean you 335 00:11:04,799 --> 00:11:06,719 love what you do every single day. 336 00:11:06,739 --> 00:11:07,889 There's going to be hard things. 337 00:11:07,899 --> 00:11:09,009 There's going to be tough things. 338 00:11:09,479 --> 00:11:10,509 Even when there are things that 339 00:11:10,509 --> 00:11:12,469 you're happy about or excited about, 340 00:11:12,789 --> 00:11:14,669 there's always going to be the not 341 00:11:14,669 --> 00:11:16,519 so fun jobs that have to happen. 342 00:11:17,249 --> 00:11:20,429 But if you are constantly, consistently 343 00:11:20,429 --> 00:11:23,339 feeling like, Ugh, this is just like 344 00:11:23,339 --> 00:11:24,789 I'm fighting through, I'm having 345 00:11:24,789 --> 00:11:26,889 to muscle through, this is not fun. 346 00:11:27,649 --> 00:11:29,459 We need to take a step back and really 347 00:11:29,489 --> 00:11:31,362 ask ourselves, And this is what I 348 00:11:31,362 --> 00:11:33,102 love about a quarterly check in is 349 00:11:33,102 --> 00:11:34,732 it really intentionally carves out 350 00:11:34,732 --> 00:11:37,372 that space to ask those questions. 351 00:11:37,752 --> 00:11:38,882 Yeah, there's going to be times 352 00:11:38,882 --> 00:11:39,812 where things are not easy. 353 00:11:39,832 --> 00:11:41,102 There's going to be times where things 354 00:11:41,102 --> 00:11:43,192 are tough, but they're important 355 00:11:43,232 --> 00:11:44,952 and you're able to get through them. 356 00:11:45,302 --> 00:11:46,822 There are other times when it's tough 357 00:11:46,852 --> 00:11:48,822 and it means It's time to cut bait and 358 00:11:48,832 --> 00:11:50,242 just get out of there, I think what you 359 00:11:50,242 --> 00:11:52,102 said there is absolutely right, too, when 360 00:11:52,102 --> 00:11:54,282 you were talking about, you can't stop 361 00:11:54,302 --> 00:11:55,882 in the middle of driving on the highway. 362 00:11:55,882 --> 00:11:58,452 And that's the thing so often we 363 00:11:58,452 --> 00:11:59,972 are on the superhighway of life. 364 00:12:00,012 --> 00:12:02,132 We're going 90 miles an hour, 365 00:12:02,492 --> 00:12:03,872 even though the speed limit is you 366 00:12:03,872 --> 00:12:06,972 know, 60 we're racing through life. 367 00:12:07,422 --> 00:12:08,642 And sometimes we look down and 368 00:12:08,642 --> 00:12:09,772 we're like, hold on a minute. 369 00:12:10,792 --> 00:12:12,062 I'm not on the highway anymore. 370 00:12:12,622 --> 00:12:13,752 I'm suddenly off on this whole 371 00:12:13,752 --> 00:12:15,662 other place, which is why it's 372 00:12:15,662 --> 00:12:17,292 important with this first a 373 00:12:17,332 --> 00:12:19,972 Acknowledged to ask where am I? 374 00:12:20,692 --> 00:12:22,172 Are you still on the highway that you 375 00:12:22,172 --> 00:12:23,542 thought you were gonna be on or are you 376 00:12:23,662 --> 00:12:26,142 maybe on some back road that you didn't 377 00:12:26,142 --> 00:12:28,559 really anticipate and here's the beauty 378 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:30,949 of the back roads is so often you get 379 00:12:30,949 --> 00:12:32,409 on these other roads and you're like 380 00:12:32,419 --> 00:12:35,404 wait I didn't even know this existed. 381 00:12:35,884 --> 00:12:36,774 I didn't even know this 382 00:12:36,784 --> 00:12:38,634 opportunity was there for me. 383 00:12:39,444 --> 00:12:41,464 And I know for me, that has certainly 384 00:12:41,464 --> 00:12:43,774 been a theme in my own life. 385 00:12:44,214 --> 00:12:46,644 The, the points to get me from, you 386 00:12:46,644 --> 00:12:49,154 know, let's say, even when I graduated 387 00:12:49,154 --> 00:12:52,884 college to where I am today is a series 388 00:12:52,904 --> 00:12:54,584 of feeling like I know where I'm going 389 00:12:54,584 --> 00:12:56,244 and then realizing I'm not on that path, 390 00:12:56,244 --> 00:12:59,484 but wait, I like this a lot better. 391 00:13:00,004 --> 00:13:02,874 And so that gets us to our second A. 392 00:13:02,874 --> 00:13:02,949 Okay. 393 00:13:03,249 --> 00:13:03,989 Assess. 394 00:13:04,269 --> 00:13:06,609 So we acknowledge and then we assess. 395 00:13:07,349 --> 00:13:09,189 And this second A, that's the 396 00:13:09,189 --> 00:13:11,389 question of, do I like where I am? 397 00:13:11,799 --> 00:13:13,429 Am I happy with where I am? 398 00:13:14,059 --> 00:13:15,629 Do I like being on the highway? 399 00:13:15,629 --> 00:13:16,949 Or maybe you're finding yourself 400 00:13:16,969 --> 00:13:18,749 on this back road and you're like, 401 00:13:18,769 --> 00:13:21,189 wait, I think I like that better. 402 00:13:21,779 --> 00:13:23,169 I didn't know there was this 403 00:13:23,169 --> 00:13:25,089 whole mountain view, this 404 00:13:25,089 --> 00:13:27,172 whole opportunity ahead of me. 405 00:13:27,782 --> 00:13:29,482 I didn't even know that was a possibility. 406 00:13:30,172 --> 00:13:33,347 And so asking the second A, Do I like 407 00:13:33,347 --> 00:13:36,557 where I am is really important because 408 00:13:36,867 --> 00:13:38,587 it's really easy to feel like, but 409 00:13:38,587 --> 00:13:40,157 I should be back on that highway. 410 00:13:40,467 --> 00:13:41,527 That's what I had decided 411 00:13:41,527 --> 00:13:42,307 I was going to do. 412 00:13:42,867 --> 00:13:43,507 Well, here's the thing. 413 00:13:43,577 --> 00:13:44,377 Plans change. 414 00:13:44,437 --> 00:13:45,337 Like we talked about, there's 415 00:13:45,337 --> 00:13:46,607 that rerouting and the 416 00:13:46,967 --> 00:13:48,447 shifting and the detouring. 417 00:13:48,857 --> 00:13:49,957 And sometimes it shows 418 00:13:49,957 --> 00:13:51,407 you something brand new. 419 00:13:51,417 --> 00:13:52,587 You didn't even know you wanted. 420 00:13:52,927 --> 00:13:56,017 But, oh, it's beautiful and I love it. 421 00:13:56,740 --> 00:13:58,460 So when it comes to assessing, 422 00:13:58,470 --> 00:14:00,710 I think the big key here is no 423 00:14:00,710 --> 00:14:03,610 judgment, which that's not easy to do. 424 00:14:04,210 --> 00:14:06,050 It's really easy to want to beat 425 00:14:06,050 --> 00:14:08,210 ourselves up and say, I'm the worst. 426 00:14:08,550 --> 00:14:10,130 Goals never work for me. 427 00:14:10,180 --> 00:14:12,050 I'm never doing the right things. 428 00:14:12,900 --> 00:14:14,170 But the truth is. 429 00:14:14,515 --> 00:14:15,595 Maybe this is exactly where 430 00:14:15,595 --> 00:14:16,555 you're supposed to be. 431 00:14:17,215 --> 00:14:19,135 You know, we have talked this season 432 00:14:19,155 --> 00:14:21,465 about this idea of letting go of 433 00:14:21,465 --> 00:14:23,935 what's good and what's bad because 434 00:14:23,995 --> 00:14:26,595 our view of our timeline is so narrow. 435 00:14:26,595 --> 00:14:27,805 It's so tiny. 436 00:14:28,145 --> 00:14:29,135 We can't really see 437 00:14:29,135 --> 00:14:30,275 what's around the bend. 438 00:14:30,685 --> 00:14:33,015 Things that we think are bad 439 00:14:33,275 --> 00:14:34,835 actually end up being good. 440 00:14:35,085 --> 00:14:36,735 They're great things for us to learn 441 00:14:36,735 --> 00:14:38,695 and things that maybe We think are 442 00:14:38,695 --> 00:14:40,675 good, turn out to be not so great. 443 00:14:41,205 --> 00:14:42,805 We talked about that earlier this season, 444 00:14:42,805 --> 00:14:43,965 where it's like, you know, people I've 445 00:14:43,965 --> 00:14:46,305 dated in the past, how it was terrible 446 00:14:46,305 --> 00:14:48,190 when they broke up with me, but My 447 00:14:48,190 --> 00:14:50,100 gosh, I'm so glad they did, because 448 00:14:50,100 --> 00:14:53,100 here I am with John, 24 years later. 449 00:14:53,120 --> 00:14:55,714 So, it is all about letting go of 450 00:14:55,724 --> 00:14:58,304 that judgment of good or bad, letting 451 00:14:58,304 --> 00:15:00,944 go of the shame that comes with, I 452 00:15:00,944 --> 00:15:03,224 didn't accomplish, or I didn't do 453 00:15:03,234 --> 00:15:04,954 what I thought I was going to do. 454 00:15:05,764 --> 00:15:06,584 Because here you are on this 455 00:15:06,584 --> 00:15:08,394 back road, with these beautiful 456 00:15:08,394 --> 00:15:10,244 mountain views, or maybe it's ocean 457 00:15:10,244 --> 00:15:11,824 views, whatever floats your boat. 458 00:15:13,204 --> 00:15:14,834 Here I am, somewhere else. 459 00:15:15,754 --> 00:15:16,844 So do I like it? 460 00:15:16,944 --> 00:15:18,404 Do I like this place? 461 00:15:18,664 --> 00:15:20,054 Yeah, I think that's really important. 462 00:15:20,054 --> 00:15:20,894 And I think that's the 463 00:15:20,894 --> 00:15:22,174 hardest thing to do is. 464 00:15:22,469 --> 00:15:24,785 To let go of the judgment, and the guilt 465 00:15:24,785 --> 00:15:27,265 or the shame like if you find yourself 466 00:15:27,595 --> 00:15:28,865 maybe you don't like the place where 467 00:15:28,865 --> 00:15:31,515 you are and you know, I always try to 468 00:15:31,515 --> 00:15:33,255 think about how can I approach this a 469 00:15:33,255 --> 00:15:35,415 little bit differently and Sometimes 470 00:15:35,415 --> 00:15:37,125 I think about our cat Loki, right? 471 00:15:37,125 --> 00:15:38,675 He's always in the backyard and he's 472 00:15:38,725 --> 00:15:40,535 trying to catch birds and moles and 473 00:15:40,535 --> 00:15:43,155 whatever and I would say 95 percent 474 00:15:43,155 --> 00:15:45,444 of the time his method does not work 475 00:15:45,444 --> 00:15:47,074 and he fails, But what does he do? 476 00:15:47,074 --> 00:15:48,234 What does, what does the cat do? 477 00:15:48,234 --> 00:15:49,664 He immediately forgets about it and 478 00:15:49,664 --> 00:15:51,254 tries something else, he doesn't 479 00:15:51,344 --> 00:15:53,054 let that failure hold him back. 480 00:15:53,054 --> 00:15:54,464 He immediately moves on. 481 00:15:55,254 --> 00:15:56,794 and that's difficult for human 482 00:15:56,794 --> 00:15:58,527 beings to do, but dwelling on 483 00:15:58,527 --> 00:15:59,927 that past or that guilt or that 484 00:15:59,927 --> 00:16:01,987 shame doesn't help you at all. 485 00:16:02,180 --> 00:16:03,500 So try to figure out how 486 00:16:03,500 --> 00:16:05,180 can you really assess. 487 00:16:05,180 --> 00:16:06,350 Don't get hung up on 488 00:16:06,350 --> 00:16:07,420 those things in the past. 489 00:16:07,890 --> 00:16:09,970 And figure out, do I like where I am? 490 00:16:10,120 --> 00:16:11,310 I think it's, it's hard, 491 00:16:11,310 --> 00:16:12,180 but it's really important. 492 00:16:12,507 --> 00:16:13,287 I think that's a, that's 493 00:16:13,287 --> 00:16:14,907 a great analogy with Loki. 494 00:16:14,927 --> 00:16:17,157 Cause he does, he, he, most 495 00:16:17,157 --> 00:16:19,457 of his methods are terrible. 496 00:16:19,467 --> 00:16:20,857 They're just a complete fail. 497 00:16:21,247 --> 00:16:22,157 And then other times 498 00:16:22,157 --> 00:16:23,367 he is very successful. 499 00:16:23,657 --> 00:16:25,977 Generally when it's a beautiful Finch 500 00:16:25,997 --> 00:16:28,027 or a Cardinal or some kind of like 501 00:16:28,067 --> 00:16:29,767 beautiful bird that he brings us. 502 00:16:31,067 --> 00:16:33,137 It's so important to not give 503 00:16:33,137 --> 00:16:34,527 up just because something hasn't 504 00:16:34,527 --> 00:16:36,827 worked or to get soaked up in that 505 00:16:36,827 --> 00:16:38,457 shame and that disappointment. 506 00:16:38,882 --> 00:16:41,192 It's okay to think, ah, I kind of thought 507 00:16:41,192 --> 00:16:44,022 I wanted that, or I thought I'd be 508 00:16:44,022 --> 00:16:46,302 somewhere else, but it's not okay to get 509 00:16:46,302 --> 00:16:48,612 caught up in that shame spiral of just 510 00:16:48,612 --> 00:16:50,922 feeling like you're the worst, right? 511 00:16:51,572 --> 00:16:54,112 And it's okay to let go of goals. 512 00:16:54,262 --> 00:16:55,992 It's okay to let go of things 513 00:16:56,002 --> 00:16:57,272 that you thought you wanted, that 514 00:16:57,272 --> 00:16:58,622 you started, and you realized, 515 00:16:58,642 --> 00:17:01,502 holy, this is not for me at all. 516 00:17:01,632 --> 00:17:03,172 There are plenty of things that 517 00:17:03,172 --> 00:17:05,232 I thought I'm going to love this. 518 00:17:05,462 --> 00:17:07,857 And I get started and it's, Not 519 00:17:07,857 --> 00:17:10,237 what I expected, So you have to ask 520 00:17:10,237 --> 00:17:13,567 yourself, is this goal still for me? 521 00:17:14,107 --> 00:17:15,687 Is this still what I want? 522 00:17:15,697 --> 00:17:16,967 Sometimes we start with a fire 523 00:17:16,967 --> 00:17:18,407 in our belly and we feel like 524 00:17:18,407 --> 00:17:19,627 this is going to be amazing. 525 00:17:20,167 --> 00:17:21,437 And then a week or two in, we're 526 00:17:21,437 --> 00:17:23,637 like, Ooh, I do not like this at all. 527 00:17:24,042 --> 00:17:25,772 But we feel stuck. 528 00:17:26,462 --> 00:17:28,902 And the truth is, you are never stuck. 529 00:17:29,515 --> 00:17:30,385 All you have to do is 530 00:17:30,385 --> 00:17:31,335 choose to get rid of it. 531 00:17:31,889 --> 00:17:33,129 You know, I talked about this, I 532 00:17:33,139 --> 00:17:34,749 think, also in On Purpose, where I 533 00:17:34,759 --> 00:17:38,119 used to say that plans were written in 534 00:17:38,119 --> 00:17:40,159 pencil, but goals were written in ink. 535 00:17:40,769 --> 00:17:41,829 And that was like the dumbest 536 00:17:41,829 --> 00:17:42,769 thing I could have ever said. 537 00:17:42,789 --> 00:17:44,049 Because truly, goals 538 00:17:44,049 --> 00:17:44,909 are written in pencil. 539 00:17:45,109 --> 00:17:47,239 You can erase those any time you want. 540 00:17:47,249 --> 00:17:49,944 You're not stuck just because you are. 541 00:17:50,194 --> 00:17:53,184 18 months ago wanted something and now 542 00:17:53,184 --> 00:17:54,694 you realize you don't really want it. 543 00:17:54,744 --> 00:17:55,954 You don't have to keep doing it. 544 00:17:56,134 --> 00:17:57,934 It's okay to say goodbye to it. 545 00:17:58,704 --> 00:18:01,274 You know, in the sub stack this past week, 546 00:18:01,324 --> 00:18:04,184 I did an article on the anti bucket list 547 00:18:04,254 --> 00:18:06,494 talking about quitting is not an end. 548 00:18:06,874 --> 00:18:08,284 It's an opportunity for 549 00:18:08,484 --> 00:18:09,734 something new to happen. 550 00:18:09,734 --> 00:18:12,194 It's a chance for you to realign and 551 00:18:12,194 --> 00:18:14,164 really find what does fire you up. 552 00:18:14,884 --> 00:18:16,284 So as you're doing this assessment, 553 00:18:17,134 --> 00:18:19,134 Ask yourself, am I happy? 554 00:18:19,464 --> 00:18:20,674 Do I like where I am? 555 00:18:21,184 --> 00:18:22,504 Do I want to get back on that 556 00:18:22,504 --> 00:18:24,944 highway, going 90 miles an hour again? 557 00:18:25,014 --> 00:18:25,864 And maybe you do. 558 00:18:26,784 --> 00:18:29,134 Or do I want to stay here on this 559 00:18:29,184 --> 00:18:31,564 other road and see where this takes me? 560 00:18:32,254 --> 00:18:33,684 Both of those are opportunities. 561 00:18:33,684 --> 00:18:36,044 Life is choose your own adventure. 562 00:18:36,574 --> 00:18:37,634 You get to choose. 563 00:18:37,754 --> 00:18:38,824 we forget that sometimes. 564 00:18:39,372 --> 00:18:41,902 I think sometimes we put too much weight 565 00:18:41,992 --> 00:18:43,782 on things and we think everything that 566 00:18:43,782 --> 00:18:45,672 we're doing is of vital importance. 567 00:18:45,732 --> 00:18:47,382 we think of ourselves as that 568 00:18:47,382 --> 00:18:48,782 we're all Winston Churchill, right? 569 00:18:48,782 --> 00:18:49,562 And what was his famous 570 00:18:49,562 --> 00:18:50,532 quote in World War II? 571 00:18:50,907 --> 00:18:51,697 If you're going through 572 00:18:51,697 --> 00:18:52,907 hell, keep going, right? 573 00:18:52,907 --> 00:18:54,057 And we think we have to do that. 574 00:18:54,057 --> 00:18:55,557 Well, I mean, he was trying to 575 00:18:55,557 --> 00:18:57,427 save his country from the Nazis. 576 00:18:57,437 --> 00:18:59,637 So we can agree on the priority level. 577 00:18:59,637 --> 00:19:01,897 That's pretty high, but ask 578 00:19:01,897 --> 00:19:04,437 yourself, you know, is what you're 579 00:19:04,437 --> 00:19:05,947 doing really that important that 580 00:19:05,957 --> 00:19:07,417 you have to suffer through it? 581 00:19:07,837 --> 00:19:09,207 and if it's not, it's 582 00:19:09,207 --> 00:19:10,657 okay to just let it go. 583 00:19:11,117 --> 00:19:12,357 Try something else, go 584 00:19:12,357 --> 00:19:13,327 in a different direction. 585 00:19:13,847 --> 00:19:15,067 Sometimes it's hard, but. 586 00:19:15,562 --> 00:19:17,572 You know, if you just think about it, how 587 00:19:17,572 --> 00:19:20,542 important is this to me and other people? 588 00:19:20,952 --> 00:19:22,552 Sometimes that makes it a little easier. 589 00:19:22,955 --> 00:19:23,575 I like that. 590 00:19:23,575 --> 00:19:24,805 I like that reframe. 591 00:19:25,205 --> 00:19:26,675 Because we do feel like the only 592 00:19:26,675 --> 00:19:27,955 way to get through hell is to 593 00:19:27,955 --> 00:19:30,205 just keep going, and sometimes the 594 00:19:30,205 --> 00:19:32,005 answer is look for the nearest exit. 595 00:19:33,205 --> 00:19:34,235 Which is why this third 596 00:19:34,265 --> 00:19:36,645 A is adjust, right? 597 00:19:36,685 --> 00:19:38,025 You acknowledge, you 598 00:19:38,025 --> 00:19:39,605 assess, and then you adjust. 599 00:19:40,155 --> 00:19:41,435 And when you adjust, you ask the 600 00:19:41,435 --> 00:19:43,425 question, where do I want to go? 601 00:19:44,125 --> 00:19:47,165 Maybe you say I'm on that 602 00:19:47,165 --> 00:19:48,325 super high way of life. 603 00:19:48,345 --> 00:19:50,065 I, when I stopped and I acknowledged 604 00:19:50,065 --> 00:19:51,325 where I was, I was still there. 605 00:19:51,355 --> 00:19:52,365 I'm happy here. 606 00:19:52,695 --> 00:19:53,015 All right. 607 00:19:53,015 --> 00:19:53,585 Keep going. 608 00:19:53,625 --> 00:19:54,645 Keep doing what you're doing. 609 00:19:54,655 --> 00:19:56,165 Maybe make a few tweaks, maybe make a 610 00:19:56,165 --> 00:19:58,585 few adjustments, but Hey, I like this. 611 00:19:58,815 --> 00:20:00,305 That's a great opportunity for 612 00:20:00,325 --> 00:20:02,355 you to stop, celebrate, give 613 00:20:02,355 --> 00:20:04,185 yourself a reward, something that 614 00:20:04,185 --> 00:20:06,035 we don't do nearly enough of, 615 00:20:06,515 --> 00:20:08,595 Give yourself a little, a little accolade. 616 00:20:08,635 --> 00:20:09,705 All right, you're doing great. 617 00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:10,580 Good for you. 618 00:20:10,810 --> 00:20:11,740 Let's keep going. 619 00:20:11,780 --> 00:20:14,980 Catch your breath and let's get going. 620 00:20:15,660 --> 00:20:17,980 Or maybe it is, I'm on this back road. 621 00:20:18,170 --> 00:20:19,730 It is beautiful, but I do want 622 00:20:19,730 --> 00:20:20,640 to get back to that highway. 623 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:21,830 I do like that. 624 00:20:22,030 --> 00:20:24,390 Okay, then we need to ask ourselves, 625 00:20:24,610 --> 00:20:26,520 If I want to go back there, what do 626 00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:27,910 I need to do to get back on track? 627 00:20:28,370 --> 00:20:30,280 Are there some habits I need to cultivate? 628 00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:32,820 Are there some distractions I need to 629 00:20:33,030 --> 00:20:35,160 really make sure and mitigate and make 630 00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:37,110 sure that they're not interrupting my day? 631 00:20:37,460 --> 00:20:38,490 Are there some things I need to 632 00:20:38,490 --> 00:20:40,940 do to get myself back on track? 633 00:20:41,300 --> 00:20:42,250 And then you just start making 634 00:20:42,250 --> 00:20:44,180 those adjustments, little 635 00:20:44,180 --> 00:20:45,170 tweaks, little adjustments. 636 00:20:45,170 --> 00:20:46,440 Maybe it's, Oh, you know what? 637 00:20:46,740 --> 00:20:48,190 I thought I'd have more time for this. 638 00:20:48,430 --> 00:20:49,230 I need to start getting 639 00:20:49,230 --> 00:20:50,370 up a little bit earlier. 640 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:50,980 Okay. 641 00:20:51,040 --> 00:20:52,340 Well, we have an episode about 642 00:20:52,340 --> 00:20:53,920 that earlier this season, right? 643 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:55,850 I even have that blueprint for 644 00:20:55,850 --> 00:20:56,920 the intentional morning that 645 00:20:56,920 --> 00:20:58,590 I shared over on, on Substack. 646 00:20:58,890 --> 00:21:00,210 Maybe you need to make some adjustments 647 00:21:00,220 --> 00:21:01,710 to that morning routine or your 648 00:21:01,710 --> 00:21:03,660 evening routine, really making 649 00:21:03,660 --> 00:21:05,030 sure you're carving out space. 650 00:21:05,450 --> 00:21:06,310 Fantastic. 651 00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:07,600 That's a great adjustment. 652 00:21:08,430 --> 00:21:11,700 Maybe you say, uh, yeah, I don't think 653 00:21:11,700 --> 00:21:13,140 that's super high way for me anymore. 654 00:21:13,150 --> 00:21:14,450 I like this back route. 655 00:21:15,060 --> 00:21:16,260 I like these mountain views. 656 00:21:16,730 --> 00:21:18,360 Let me see where this is going to take me. 657 00:21:18,360 --> 00:21:19,970 Let me see where these opportunities are. 658 00:21:20,330 --> 00:21:21,200 Okay, great. 659 00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:23,230 Your adjustment there is toss 660 00:21:23,230 --> 00:21:25,940 out the old goals and figure 661 00:21:25,940 --> 00:21:26,840 out what you want to do now. 662 00:21:27,670 --> 00:21:29,180 You know, whenever we've talked 663 00:21:29,180 --> 00:21:31,610 about your North Star, which we 664 00:21:31,610 --> 00:21:33,460 talk about in my books, we talked 665 00:21:33,460 --> 00:21:35,080 about on the podcast, your mission, 666 00:21:35,090 --> 00:21:36,810 your vision, your core values. 667 00:21:37,540 --> 00:21:38,800 I always tell people 668 00:21:39,410 --> 00:21:40,470 those are going to change. 669 00:21:40,470 --> 00:21:42,350 They're going to evolve over time. 670 00:21:42,350 --> 00:21:43,660 I mean, think about who you 671 00:21:43,660 --> 00:21:45,980 are right now and who you were 672 00:21:46,070 --> 00:21:48,260 10 years ago or 20 years ago. 673 00:21:49,115 --> 00:21:49,645 My goodness. 674 00:21:49,665 --> 00:21:50,535 I'm hoping that you 675 00:21:50,535 --> 00:21:51,475 have changed since then. 676 00:21:51,545 --> 00:21:52,945 I'm hoping that your priorities have 677 00:21:52,945 --> 00:21:54,865 shifted and adjusted and changed 678 00:21:55,235 --> 00:21:56,305 because you're probably a very 679 00:21:56,305 --> 00:21:57,765 different person than you were. 680 00:21:57,765 --> 00:21:59,125 Then you had different 681 00:21:59,125 --> 00:22:00,505 relationships with people. 682 00:22:00,835 --> 00:22:02,255 Maybe you had different jobs or 683 00:22:02,255 --> 00:22:04,035 different, different interests. 684 00:22:04,465 --> 00:22:05,845 So it's going to change 685 00:22:05,845 --> 00:22:06,975 and it's going to evolve. 686 00:22:07,305 --> 00:22:09,205 This is why we stop and check in. 687 00:22:09,752 --> 00:22:10,722 And here's the thing. 688 00:22:11,232 --> 00:22:12,602 One of the big things we've talked 689 00:22:12,612 --> 00:22:13,922 about all season long is this 690 00:22:13,942 --> 00:22:15,382 idea of your backpack, right? 691 00:22:15,382 --> 00:22:16,462 That we go through life and we're 692 00:22:16,482 --> 00:22:17,902 putting things in our backpack, the 693 00:22:18,272 --> 00:22:20,182 successes, the achievements, the 694 00:22:20,402 --> 00:22:22,942 traumas, the failures, all the lessons. 695 00:22:23,722 --> 00:22:25,312 Oh my gosh, you've gotten so many lessons. 696 00:22:25,372 --> 00:22:26,692 Every time you stop and do a check 697 00:22:26,692 --> 00:22:28,582 in, you really get to see, hey, 698 00:22:28,582 --> 00:22:30,022 I did these things really well. 699 00:22:30,272 --> 00:22:32,502 And, whew, that did not go well at all. 700 00:22:33,312 --> 00:22:35,112 All of that can go in your backpack. 701 00:22:35,542 --> 00:22:36,952 The job that you thought you were 702 00:22:36,952 --> 00:22:38,502 gonna love, that right now as you 703 00:22:38,502 --> 00:22:40,072 do your assessment, you're like, 704 00:22:40,132 --> 00:22:42,162 ooh, I am not happy with that job. 705 00:22:42,602 --> 00:22:43,532 Guaranteed, you pulled 706 00:22:43,532 --> 00:22:44,692 some skill sets from that. 707 00:22:44,822 --> 00:22:46,532 You got some experience, you 708 00:22:46,542 --> 00:22:48,252 networked, met some people. 709 00:22:48,502 --> 00:22:50,142 That's gonna take you somewhere new, 710 00:22:50,492 --> 00:22:52,262 as you go into the next job, if your 711 00:22:52,262 --> 00:22:54,202 adjustment is, I'm quitting this job 712 00:22:54,232 --> 00:22:56,142 and finding something new, right? 713 00:22:56,382 --> 00:22:57,992 So those are our three A's 714 00:22:58,082 --> 00:22:59,012 and they're really simple. 715 00:22:59,012 --> 00:23:00,572 That's why I love the framework you 716 00:23:00,572 --> 00:23:02,502 can see stopping and doing this check 717 00:23:02,502 --> 00:23:04,412 in doesn't have to take a long time. 718 00:23:04,512 --> 00:23:05,472 It's not difficult. 719 00:23:05,482 --> 00:23:06,522 It's not complex. 720 00:23:06,782 --> 00:23:07,832 I have it in my calendar. 721 00:23:07,832 --> 00:23:09,952 I set aside a couple of hours to do it. 722 00:23:09,962 --> 00:23:11,882 I like to do a deep dive, but you could 723 00:23:11,882 --> 00:23:14,352 set aside even 30 minutes to do this. 724 00:23:14,842 --> 00:23:16,602 When you ask yourself those questions, 725 00:23:16,602 --> 00:23:18,182 you're going to start by acknowledging, 726 00:23:18,702 --> 00:23:21,372 all right where am I then assessing 727 00:23:21,642 --> 00:23:23,172 do I like where I am? 728 00:23:23,812 --> 00:23:26,372 And then adjusting, where do I want to go? 729 00:23:27,025 --> 00:23:28,715 if you walk through those three 730 00:23:28,715 --> 00:23:30,925 questions, it's going to help give 731 00:23:30,925 --> 00:23:32,495 you direction of where you want to 732 00:23:32,495 --> 00:23:34,965 go and how you want to get there. 733 00:23:35,095 --> 00:23:35,755 And I think that's, 734 00:23:35,755 --> 00:23:36,775 what's really powerful. 735 00:23:37,115 --> 00:23:39,325 That's how we spark more joy in our life. 736 00:23:39,325 --> 00:23:41,365 If we take ownership over these 737 00:23:41,375 --> 00:23:43,345 opportunities, over these choices. 738 00:23:43,990 --> 00:23:45,970 So that we can truly go in 739 00:23:45,970 --> 00:23:47,160 the direction we want to go. 740 00:23:47,423 --> 00:23:49,173 I like what you said about the backpack 741 00:23:49,173 --> 00:23:51,443 and I know you've talked about that a lot. 742 00:23:51,710 --> 00:23:53,160 I think that's really key to this 743 00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:55,850 whole process is when you stop to 744 00:23:55,850 --> 00:23:57,650 acknowledge, you know, that you 745 00:23:57,650 --> 00:23:59,290 take that backpack out and you, 746 00:23:59,540 --> 00:24:00,690 when you're assessing things, you're 747 00:24:00,690 --> 00:24:02,250 like, what do I have in my backpack? 748 00:24:02,250 --> 00:24:02,840 And what's good? 749 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:03,480 What's bad? 750 00:24:04,030 --> 00:24:04,730 you know, and then when you're 751 00:24:04,730 --> 00:24:06,070 making those adjustments, it's like, 752 00:24:06,070 --> 00:24:07,820 what tools do I have in my backpack 753 00:24:07,820 --> 00:24:09,380 to help me make this adjustment? 754 00:24:09,650 --> 00:24:11,150 Or do I need new ones? 755 00:24:11,214 --> 00:24:13,664 Do I need to go learn a new skill in this? 756 00:24:13,714 --> 00:24:15,364 and it's all about adding more things 757 00:24:15,364 --> 00:24:16,914 to your backpack and using what you 758 00:24:16,914 --> 00:24:19,427 have so that you can make sure that 759 00:24:19,427 --> 00:24:21,347 you're on the right path, or at 760 00:24:21,347 --> 00:24:23,327 least finding your way to the next 761 00:24:23,327 --> 00:24:24,987 right path that you want to be on. 762 00:24:25,406 --> 00:24:25,806 Mm hmm. 763 00:24:26,106 --> 00:24:26,506 Yeah. 764 00:24:26,819 --> 00:24:28,839 And I just think we have to, we have to 765 00:24:28,839 --> 00:24:31,559 address the fact that it is really easy 766 00:24:31,899 --> 00:24:34,099 to beat ourselves up when things get hard. 767 00:24:34,469 --> 00:24:36,319 To take all of that onto ourselves. 768 00:24:36,319 --> 00:24:37,529 To think that it's somehow 769 00:24:37,529 --> 00:24:38,929 something wrong with us. 770 00:24:39,159 --> 00:24:40,529 That this is not okay. 771 00:24:40,529 --> 00:24:41,729 That we're the worst. 772 00:24:41,729 --> 00:24:43,259 That whole internal monologue. 773 00:24:43,959 --> 00:24:44,989 Something else we've definitely 774 00:24:44,989 --> 00:24:46,169 discussed all season long. 775 00:24:46,479 --> 00:24:47,579 That internal monologue 776 00:24:47,579 --> 00:24:49,479 starts rearing its ugly head. 777 00:24:49,849 --> 00:24:51,009 Which I've given you a lot of 778 00:24:51,009 --> 00:24:52,429 tools this season to deal with 779 00:24:52,429 --> 00:24:53,999 that, you know, naming the dog in 780 00:24:53,999 --> 00:24:55,629 your head and all of those things. 781 00:24:56,629 --> 00:24:59,359 Truly this is what makes life exciting. 782 00:24:59,359 --> 00:25:01,119 This is what makes life interesting. 783 00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:02,819 You know, John, the other day, you and 784 00:25:02,819 --> 00:25:04,779 I were on a walk and we were talking 785 00:25:04,779 --> 00:25:07,119 about when we go on walks, a lot of 786 00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:08,449 times John and I will talk about the 787 00:25:08,449 --> 00:25:09,539 different books that we're reading. 788 00:25:09,539 --> 00:25:10,689 Sometimes we read the same books. 789 00:25:10,689 --> 00:25:11,659 Sometimes we're reading different books. 790 00:25:12,344 --> 00:25:13,554 But we'll, we'll share the 791 00:25:13,554 --> 00:25:15,034 plot lines of what's happening. 792 00:25:15,044 --> 00:25:17,264 And I was sharing with, with you, 793 00:25:17,264 --> 00:25:18,784 John, the other day that I was 794 00:25:18,784 --> 00:25:20,554 reading, it was a Riley Sager book. 795 00:25:20,994 --> 00:25:23,904 I've loved Riley's books in the past. 796 00:25:23,954 --> 00:25:25,454 I've always found them really interesting. 797 00:25:25,454 --> 00:25:26,234 They're thrillers. 798 00:25:26,817 --> 00:25:28,357 But the last couple I've read, 799 00:25:28,487 --> 00:25:29,827 I've said, you know, I don't 800 00:25:29,937 --> 00:25:31,477 really like this one as much. 801 00:25:31,817 --> 00:25:33,947 Because it's the exact same formula. 802 00:25:34,007 --> 00:25:35,207 It's very formulaic. 803 00:25:35,717 --> 00:25:37,137 The first couple that I read, it was 804 00:25:37,147 --> 00:25:39,927 new, it was fresh, and now all the 805 00:25:39,927 --> 00:25:41,717 books seem to follow the same formula. 806 00:25:42,367 --> 00:25:45,167 There's this female antagonist, 807 00:25:45,297 --> 00:25:47,917 right, or sorry, a female protagonist. 808 00:25:48,197 --> 00:25:48,777 I've got to use my 809 00:25:48,777 --> 00:25:49,737 English terms correctly. 810 00:25:50,177 --> 00:25:52,817 She's unreliable as a narrator or 811 00:25:52,817 --> 00:25:54,277 as the person telling the story. 812 00:25:54,577 --> 00:25:55,437 These things happen. 813 00:25:55,437 --> 00:25:57,547 There's always some crazy plot twist. 814 00:25:58,037 --> 00:25:59,677 And that's exciting the first time, 815 00:25:59,697 --> 00:26:02,247 but after you've read that two or three 816 00:26:02,247 --> 00:26:03,877 times, it's no longer interesting. 817 00:26:04,257 --> 00:26:06,387 And so I was saying to you the other day 818 00:26:06,387 --> 00:26:08,457 that I'm kind of bored with these books, 819 00:26:08,477 --> 00:26:11,377 even though they're, they're good, they're 820 00:26:11,377 --> 00:26:13,457 well written, it's just not exciting. 821 00:26:13,927 --> 00:26:15,247 And I think that's the thing is. 822 00:26:15,897 --> 00:26:18,337 We need some differences in our life. 823 00:26:18,337 --> 00:26:19,277 We need some diversity. 824 00:26:19,277 --> 00:26:20,197 We need it to feel 825 00:26:20,217 --> 00:26:21,757 exciting and interesting. 826 00:26:22,167 --> 00:26:23,697 Otherwise it would feel very rote. 827 00:26:24,162 --> 00:26:24,502 Yeah. 828 00:26:25,102 --> 00:26:26,332 Get caught in those ruts. 829 00:26:26,332 --> 00:26:28,372 And, you know, I was talking about, 830 00:26:28,862 --> 00:26:31,152 I've now read three Blake Crouch books. 831 00:26:31,602 --> 00:26:33,032 and they're all really good. 832 00:26:33,032 --> 00:26:34,132 I've liked all three of them. 833 00:26:34,423 --> 00:26:35,843 But they do have a similar pattern. 834 00:26:35,843 --> 00:26:37,293 So now I'm starting to get worried. 835 00:26:37,453 --> 00:26:38,823 Like, is the next one going to be, 836 00:26:39,103 --> 00:26:40,463 Oh, here's the down on their luck 837 00:26:40,463 --> 00:26:42,153 scientist that's been working on 838 00:26:42,153 --> 00:26:43,723 this thing that hasn't gone anywhere. 839 00:26:43,723 --> 00:26:45,663 But now all of a sudden something 840 00:26:45,663 --> 00:26:47,043 weird happens that's kind 841 00:26:47,043 --> 00:26:48,163 of how all the books start. 842 00:26:48,723 --> 00:26:49,563 again, very good. 843 00:26:49,563 --> 00:26:51,553 But if you're just doing the same thing 844 00:26:51,553 --> 00:26:53,970 over and over again, it gets boring. 845 00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:54,310 Right. 846 00:26:54,310 --> 00:26:56,060 And that's the same way with your life. 847 00:26:56,316 --> 00:26:57,416 Sometimes you need to shake 848 00:26:57,416 --> 00:26:58,426 things up a little bit. 849 00:26:58,636 --> 00:26:59,886 you can't just keep doing the 850 00:26:59,886 --> 00:27:01,386 same things over and over again, 851 00:27:01,386 --> 00:27:03,596 or it just becomes monotonous. 852 00:27:03,923 --> 00:27:05,003 Yeah, absolutely. 853 00:27:05,003 --> 00:27:05,773 It really does. 854 00:27:06,193 --> 00:27:08,233 In fact, because of this, I think what 855 00:27:08,233 --> 00:27:09,733 I'm going to do is I'm going to design 856 00:27:09,803 --> 00:27:12,513 a download, a mid year motivator to 857 00:27:12,513 --> 00:27:14,873 help you get a little more excited 858 00:27:15,223 --> 00:27:16,863 about this second half of the year. 859 00:27:16,863 --> 00:27:17,843 What do you want to work on? 860 00:27:17,843 --> 00:27:18,783 What do you want to focus on? 861 00:27:19,043 --> 00:27:20,963 I'm going to design a download 862 00:27:21,193 --> 00:27:22,923 so that you can very easily go 863 00:27:23,063 --> 00:27:24,463 through this activity yourself. 864 00:27:24,863 --> 00:27:27,023 tanyadalton. 865 00:27:27,043 --> 00:27:29,278 com slash connect, I will 866 00:27:29,288 --> 00:27:30,228 have that there for you. 867 00:27:30,288 --> 00:27:32,178 I will also share five steps for a mid 868 00:27:32,178 --> 00:27:34,158 year refresh because I think that'll 869 00:27:34,158 --> 00:27:35,918 help you go even deeper into this, 870 00:27:36,508 --> 00:27:38,618 you know, and as we're talking about 871 00:27:39,018 --> 00:27:41,598 this idea of stepping back and taking 872 00:27:41,598 --> 00:27:43,178 a breather, I think this is a great 873 00:27:43,178 --> 00:27:45,443 opportunity for me to say, This is a 874 00:27:45,443 --> 00:27:47,303 breather opportunity for me as well. 875 00:27:47,773 --> 00:27:49,443 Usually in the summer, I like to take 876 00:27:49,453 --> 00:27:51,413 a little bit of time away from the 877 00:27:51,413 --> 00:27:54,693 podcast to do my three A's to stop and 878 00:27:54,693 --> 00:27:57,183 acknowledge and assess and adjust, make 879 00:27:57,183 --> 00:27:58,823 some shifts, make some adjustments. 880 00:27:59,183 --> 00:27:59,973 I would love to hear 881 00:27:59,973 --> 00:28:01,673 from you as a listener. 882 00:28:01,673 --> 00:28:03,163 What would you like to see more of? 883 00:28:03,163 --> 00:28:04,403 What would you like to hear more? 884 00:28:04,713 --> 00:28:06,613 And this gives me an opportunity to gather 885 00:28:06,613 --> 00:28:08,958 together my thoughts and ideas of where I 886 00:28:08,958 --> 00:28:11,288 want to go when we come back in the fall. 887 00:28:11,698 --> 00:28:12,888 So this will be our last 888 00:28:12,928 --> 00:28:14,768 episode for a couple of weeks. 889 00:28:14,998 --> 00:28:19,178 I'll be back end of August, September, 890 00:28:19,568 --> 00:28:21,158 and I already have some ideas of 891 00:28:21,158 --> 00:28:22,438 where I think I want to go, but 892 00:28:22,488 --> 00:28:23,758 I would love to hear from you. 893 00:28:24,138 --> 00:28:26,048 What would you like to hear on 894 00:28:26,048 --> 00:28:27,828 the podcast as we come back? 895 00:28:27,878 --> 00:28:29,398 What would be most beneficial to you? 896 00:28:29,733 --> 00:28:31,409 Before you sign off, I wanted to pop 897 00:28:31,409 --> 00:28:33,809 in and say how much fun I've had doing 898 00:28:33,809 --> 00:28:35,719 the podcast with you this season, 899 00:28:36,219 --> 00:28:38,259 being your kind of producer, right? 900 00:28:38,499 --> 00:28:39,349 not really your yuck 901 00:28:39,389 --> 00:28:41,029 monkey, but kind of, right? 902 00:28:41,039 --> 00:28:42,089 Just to interject some 903 00:28:42,089 --> 00:28:43,169 other stuff here and there. 904 00:28:43,649 --> 00:28:45,649 so I, I would really 905 00:28:45,649 --> 00:28:46,569 like to keep doing that. 906 00:28:46,599 --> 00:28:48,149 I'd love to hear from some of the 907 00:28:48,149 --> 00:28:50,039 listeners if, if they've enjoyed that. 908 00:28:50,654 --> 00:28:53,084 because I know I have, so I, I had a 909 00:28:53,084 --> 00:28:54,474 lot of fun doing this, so I appreciate 910 00:28:54,474 --> 00:28:55,944 you involving me in the process. 911 00:28:55,944 --> 00:28:57,844 It's, it's, it's been a lot of fun 912 00:28:57,844 --> 00:28:59,204 doing that with you this season. 913 00:28:59,449 --> 00:29:00,919 I've really enjoyed that too. 914 00:29:00,919 --> 00:29:02,159 I have to say that was one of the big 915 00:29:02,159 --> 00:29:03,819 shakeups that we made this season is 916 00:29:03,819 --> 00:29:05,209 that we brought you on and you were very 917 00:29:05,209 --> 00:29:07,139 clear about, I am not talking 50 50. 918 00:29:07,689 --> 00:29:09,499 That's too many words for you 919 00:29:09,499 --> 00:29:11,249 to want to talk, but I have felt 920 00:29:11,249 --> 00:29:13,259 like your insights have been so 921 00:29:13,279 --> 00:29:15,459 beneficial and so interesting. 922 00:29:15,489 --> 00:29:17,469 And we've had a lot of people who have 923 00:29:17,469 --> 00:29:19,609 commented and said, I love what John 924 00:29:19,609 --> 00:29:21,689 said, like he made me think about this, 925 00:29:21,689 --> 00:29:23,259 or I'm an introvert and I've dealt. 926 00:29:23,609 --> 00:29:24,189 So. 927 00:29:24,794 --> 00:29:26,294 It's been great for me as well. 928 00:29:26,304 --> 00:29:27,254 I've loved it. 929 00:29:27,694 --> 00:29:29,034 I'm hoping that the listeners have. 930 00:29:29,034 --> 00:29:30,364 I would love to hear from you guys 931 00:29:30,364 --> 00:29:33,034 if you are enjoying having John as 932 00:29:33,034 --> 00:29:35,094 the producer, kind of as the Jiminy 933 00:29:35,104 --> 00:29:37,324 Cricket of the show, kind of throwing 934 00:29:37,324 --> 00:29:39,154 in his two cents every now and then. 935 00:29:40,374 --> 00:29:41,564 This is such a great time for 936 00:29:41,564 --> 00:29:43,284 us to stop and assess and really 937 00:29:43,284 --> 00:29:44,324 figure out where we want to go. 938 00:29:44,324 --> 00:29:45,404 And I'm, I'm excited about where 939 00:29:45,404 --> 00:29:46,554 we're going to go in the fall. 940 00:29:47,073 --> 00:29:49,513 So as I get ready for my break, I 941 00:29:49,513 --> 00:29:51,373 want to give you the opportunity 942 00:29:51,403 --> 00:29:52,433 to give yourself a break. 943 00:29:52,923 --> 00:29:54,783 Take a step back and do 944 00:29:54,843 --> 00:29:55,773 this quick assessment. 945 00:29:55,773 --> 00:29:57,003 Use the three A's. 946 00:29:57,453 --> 00:29:59,113 Use this as an opportunity to check 947 00:29:59,113 --> 00:30:01,343 in and ask yourself those questions. 948 00:30:01,783 --> 00:30:03,483 It truly is so powerful. 949 00:30:03,493 --> 00:30:07,163 I think this one activity is responsible 950 00:30:07,163 --> 00:30:10,123 for so much of the success that I've 951 00:30:10,123 --> 00:30:12,713 experienced because it has allowed me 952 00:30:12,713 --> 00:30:15,853 to lean in and to really put my focus, 953 00:30:15,853 --> 00:30:18,163 my energy, my time into different 954 00:30:18,173 --> 00:30:20,383 areas based off of what I figure out 955 00:30:20,403 --> 00:30:21,888 during these quarterly check ins. 956 00:30:22,378 --> 00:30:23,288 And that's brought me a lot of 957 00:30:23,298 --> 00:30:25,168 happiness, a lot of joy, a lot 958 00:30:25,168 --> 00:30:26,478 of harmony, which is one of the 959 00:30:26,478 --> 00:30:27,798 things we talk a lot about here. 960 00:30:28,390 --> 00:30:30,060 And as you do this, there's going to 961 00:30:30,060 --> 00:30:31,640 be things that maybe come up that feel 962 00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:34,310 hard, that feel difficult, that do bring 963 00:30:34,310 --> 00:30:36,360 up some shame, or it feels frustrating. 964 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:37,930 Oh, I really thought I was going to do 965 00:30:37,930 --> 00:30:39,380 well with this and it didn't work out. 966 00:30:40,116 --> 00:30:41,656 Give yourself permission to let 967 00:30:41,656 --> 00:30:43,906 go, let go of the shame, let go 968 00:30:43,906 --> 00:30:46,296 of the guilt, let go of the past. 969 00:30:46,906 --> 00:30:47,646 if you need to. 970 00:30:48,596 --> 00:30:49,886 Use it as a springboard. 971 00:30:50,386 --> 00:30:52,886 Your past is so full of so much great 972 00:30:52,986 --> 00:30:55,746 information and skills and experiences 973 00:30:55,756 --> 00:30:56,866 that you put in your backpack. 974 00:30:57,226 --> 00:30:59,386 Use that to build momentum 975 00:30:59,476 --> 00:31:00,576 to drive you forward. 976 00:31:01,346 --> 00:31:03,156 Life is choose your own adventure, 977 00:31:03,156 --> 00:31:05,796 so I want to encourage you to choose. 978 00:31:06,126 --> 00:31:07,796 Choose the 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