1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:06,429 Even before pressing record, I'm already crying from putting 2 00:00:06,430 --> 00:00:08,889 together my notes for this episode. 3 00:00:09,869 --> 00:00:16,830 Um, I wanted to make sure that when I say I'm doing unfiltered and it's 4 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:20,320 unfiltered TIFF style, it's gotta be at like a whole nother level 5 00:00:20,329 --> 00:00:22,159 because I'm always unfiltered, right? 6 00:00:23,660 --> 00:00:26,040 And I was just thinking of Shannon Daugherty. 7 00:00:27,279 --> 00:00:28,790 90210, Shannon. 8 00:00:29,334 --> 00:00:32,805 I mean so much more than that, but for those of you where that name didn't ring a 9 00:00:32,805 --> 00:00:39,195 bell right away, I was just thinking like, God forbid, I was ever in her position. 10 00:00:40,605 --> 00:00:46,725 And what would I podcast on because she created a podcast and when she didn't 11 00:00:46,735 --> 00:00:51,614 have much life left and certainly didn't have that much left to give. 12 00:00:52,945 --> 00:00:56,254 And what would I share with you? 13 00:00:58,025 --> 00:01:02,974 What would I share with my posse around business, around money, around life? 14 00:01:05,490 --> 00:01:09,970 That's coming from a space of rawness and truth, 15 00:01:12,360 --> 00:01:17,970 that if you make a choice to really hear me on this and apply it, there is no way. 16 00:01:18,850 --> 00:01:20,960 Your life can't change for the better. 17 00:01:21,030 --> 00:01:26,329 The abundance can't flow in on a level that is even beyond 18 00:01:26,329 --> 00:01:28,839 your current imagination. 19 00:01:30,479 --> 00:01:35,550 I promised to also make you laugh in this episode, but I'm just emotional 20 00:01:35,580 --> 00:01:38,224 thinking, like, the legacy that we leave. 21 00:01:38,925 --> 00:01:44,095 It's often by the wisdom that we share and the memories that we make with people. 22 00:01:45,445 --> 00:01:53,844 And my hope on this show is to always be a form of what you need at any given 23 00:01:53,845 --> 00:02:01,195 time and that you know, no matter what your fucking circumstances, that you 24 00:02:01,205 --> 00:02:05,715 get to have the life that you desire and deserve, that you're the most 25 00:02:05,715 --> 00:02:07,764 exceptional project of your life. 26 00:02:08,805 --> 00:02:10,984 There is no one coming to rescue you. 27 00:02:11,620 --> 00:02:13,700 There is no one coming to do it for you. 28 00:02:13,790 --> 00:02:14,580 It's up to you. 29 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:17,960 That's the hard part, is that it's up to you and it's all on you. 30 00:02:18,750 --> 00:02:23,040 But it's also the most rewarding and fucking empowering part, 31 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:28,419 because it's something that no one can ever take away from you. 32 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:39,700 What, uh, my people, my posse, my fellow crazies, it's your host, Tiffany 33 00:02:39,700 --> 00:02:43,239 Carter, and this is the show that is going to help you grow your business, 34 00:02:43,239 --> 00:02:47,069 your bank account, that big, beautiful brain of yours, your abundance, your 35 00:02:47,069 --> 00:02:49,520 relationships, and everything in between. 36 00:02:51,330 --> 00:02:53,919 I don't know if I'm going to be able to stop tearing up for 37 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:56,110 this episode and I keep pausing. 38 00:02:57,570 --> 00:02:58,880 Um, and it is what it is. 39 00:02:58,910 --> 00:03:02,460 This is unfiltered, so you don't like it. 40 00:03:02,460 --> 00:03:03,540 I don't know what to tell you. 41 00:03:04,850 --> 00:03:06,170 A lot of stuff has come up. 42 00:03:06,170 --> 00:03:07,520 I've lost a lot of people. 43 00:03:08,845 --> 00:03:14,805 In my life, and I didn't have that many fucking people to begin with, I lost my 44 00:03:15,065 --> 00:03:18,245 dear friend and mentor of many years, Dr. 45 00:03:18,325 --> 00:03:23,325 Alex Kadabi, suddenly, quickly, 46 00:03:26,075 --> 00:03:30,235 last November, my father died, 47 00:03:32,304 --> 00:03:37,375 diagnosed with esophageal cancer that spread to his pancreas and stomach, 48 00:03:38,155 --> 00:03:40,585 from diagnosis to death, six weeks, 49 00:03:42,885 --> 00:03:45,795 and that was right before my 25th birthday. 50 00:03:47,705 --> 00:03:52,405 And I've also lost A lot of other people that are actually still 51 00:03:52,405 --> 00:03:56,255 alive and some of those are the most painful of all because they're still 52 00:03:56,255 --> 00:03:58,335 alive and I know you fucking get me. 53 00:03:59,904 --> 00:04:01,554 They're the people who've done us dirty. 54 00:04:02,525 --> 00:04:07,015 They're the people who you thought you knew and wow you didn't see it. 55 00:04:07,365 --> 00:04:11,505 They're the covert narcissist, the sociopath, the evil that walk 56 00:04:11,505 --> 00:04:13,415 amongst us and we can't avoid it. 57 00:04:16,415 --> 00:04:22,825 They are people who because of their own demons, addictions, things that 58 00:04:23,500 --> 00:04:29,880 They are choosing to not get help for, or maybe just truly incapable of change 59 00:04:29,880 --> 00:04:34,919 that we had to distance ourselves from, cut ourselves off from, but 60 00:04:34,919 --> 00:04:37,660 they still walk around on this earth. 61 00:04:38,189 --> 00:04:40,260 Some of those are the most painful, right? 62 00:04:40,260 --> 00:04:43,819 Because we know that they're there, and one of mine is my mother. 63 00:04:45,019 --> 00:04:47,439 I've been no contact with her for years now. 64 00:04:47,440 --> 00:04:49,019 I think four years? 65 00:04:49,049 --> 00:04:50,469 I don't even know how long. 66 00:04:51,489 --> 00:04:54,750 I had to, I had to cut that off to save myself. 67 00:04:54,750 --> 00:04:55,569 I was drowning. 68 00:04:57,135 --> 00:05:04,505 I had to end an engagement with someone who I'm still very close to and completely 69 00:05:04,505 --> 00:05:09,595 flip the dynamic of the relationship upside down and do something really 70 00:05:09,595 --> 00:05:12,024 unconventional, which is on brand for me, 71 00:05:14,694 --> 00:05:19,715 and, and take away all of the children's fairy tales we were taught about 72 00:05:19,725 --> 00:05:21,985 love and all the stuff that we get. 73 00:05:22,300 --> 00:05:27,700 Shoved down our throat with programming from movies to Hallmark cards 74 00:05:28,090 --> 00:05:32,049 to different, um, society norms. 75 00:05:32,049 --> 00:05:36,620 And if you don't have kids, then, you know, something's wrong with you. 76 00:05:36,620 --> 00:05:38,579 You don't have love and nurturing in you. 77 00:05:38,609 --> 00:05:42,619 If you aren't married by a certain age, something's wrong with you. 78 00:05:42,619 --> 00:05:45,239 If you don't get married at all, then you're going to be like an old 79 00:05:45,269 --> 00:05:47,040 maid cat lady and all this crap. 80 00:05:47,490 --> 00:05:51,650 I had to throw all of that out the window in order to save myself. 81 00:05:52,445 --> 00:06:00,975 I was drowning in someone else's inability or unwillingness to grow. 82 00:06:01,895 --> 00:06:05,994 And it's like, if you plant something, cause I apparently 83 00:06:06,005 --> 00:06:07,804 think, you know, I'm a plant mom. 84 00:06:08,624 --> 00:06:15,285 I mean, I kind of am, if you watch my Instagram stories, which you need to, 85 00:06:15,285 --> 00:06:18,645 if you're not, if you found me from TikTok at project me with Tiffany, 86 00:06:18,815 --> 00:06:23,455 you're going to extra love my Instagram stories, also at project me with Tiffany. 87 00:06:24,605 --> 00:06:27,055 And I'm sitting at my quiet house right now. 88 00:06:27,995 --> 00:06:30,765 And that's where I have all my plants and Leonard, the lemon tree 89 00:06:30,765 --> 00:06:32,535 and Pommy, the pomegranate tree. 90 00:06:32,535 --> 00:06:35,365 And yes, I name all of them and talk to all of them. 91 00:06:36,385 --> 00:06:45,404 And there is this one beautiful plant and this plant does not, um, 92 00:06:45,944 --> 00:06:52,024 thrive unless it is, um, feeling good in its own comfy space. 93 00:06:52,024 --> 00:06:56,034 Like if it feels too crowded, it actually starts dying off. 94 00:06:56,785 --> 00:07:02,125 And so we had to have like all this room cut around it and like I didn't want 95 00:07:02,125 --> 00:07:07,045 to cut anything away from it, but I had to if I wanted this plant to thrive, 96 00:07:07,785 --> 00:07:11,215 you know, and some of you are in those situations right now, it could be a 97 00:07:11,215 --> 00:07:16,354 job circumstance, it could be a friend that you've known since middle school. 98 00:07:16,745 --> 00:07:23,335 It could be someone you're related to that just absolutely sucks 99 00:07:23,335 --> 00:07:24,465 the hell out of your energy. 100 00:07:24,465 --> 00:07:25,955 It could be a long term client. 101 00:07:27,185 --> 00:07:32,045 Because as we continue to grow in life, you are going to outgrow other 102 00:07:32,055 --> 00:07:36,305 people, especially when you are truly committed to your growth and 103 00:07:36,305 --> 00:07:38,335 you're consistently taking actions. 104 00:07:38,595 --> 00:07:42,435 And that's important to you, you, there's no way you can't 105 00:07:42,455 --> 00:07:43,904 outgrow people around you. 106 00:07:43,904 --> 00:07:47,685 And it can be so painful because you're doing the work and 107 00:07:47,685 --> 00:07:49,295 they're watching you do the work. 108 00:07:49,565 --> 00:07:52,925 And they're even seeing a lot of the benefits of this work 109 00:07:53,235 --> 00:07:54,855 that you've done on yourself. 110 00:07:54,855 --> 00:07:58,510 So, And you're like, come on, this is so good over here. 111 00:07:58,730 --> 00:07:59,870 Look what we can have. 112 00:07:59,870 --> 00:08:01,820 And you get like obsessed with that, like. 113 00:08:02,390 --> 00:08:05,990 potential of what could be and what could be for them. 114 00:08:05,990 --> 00:08:08,460 And you're a loving person and you want the best for them. 115 00:08:08,710 --> 00:08:12,379 And then you expend all this energy trying to convince them, trying to show 116 00:08:12,379 --> 00:08:16,499 them, trying to encourage them, even quite frankly, trying to manipulate 117 00:08:16,499 --> 00:08:20,430 them, even if it's coming from a good space, even trying to control them. 118 00:08:21,230 --> 00:08:24,910 But then all you do is end up having all these energy leakages. 119 00:08:24,970 --> 00:08:30,660 And then you end up resentful and exhausted and frustrated and angry. 120 00:08:31,355 --> 00:08:37,215 And that person will probably do a lot better if space is cut around it. 121 00:08:37,245 --> 00:08:40,634 You will do a lot better if space is cut around it. 122 00:08:41,055 --> 00:08:44,545 But that doesn't mean it's not going to feel counterintuitive. 123 00:08:45,114 --> 00:08:46,755 Why would I cut someone off? 124 00:08:46,775 --> 00:08:50,795 Why would I distance myself from someone in order to grow? 125 00:08:51,195 --> 00:08:55,555 In order to even allow them space to feel enough pain, or maybe they'll 126 00:08:55,555 --> 00:08:57,435 reach a rock bottom and they'll grow. 127 00:08:59,915 --> 00:09:00,945 It's not cute. 128 00:09:00,995 --> 00:09:02,325 It's not sexy. 129 00:09:02,885 --> 00:09:06,815 Really changing your life for the better and you can change your 130 00:09:06,815 --> 00:09:10,815 life for the better at any given moment, okay, like I have many 131 00:09:10,815 --> 00:09:12,675 different pivotal moments in my life. 132 00:09:13,075 --> 00:09:18,095 The moment where I'm like, I decided I wasn't going to follow climbing 133 00:09:18,095 --> 00:09:21,154 the ranks as a TV newscaster people thought I was nuts. 134 00:09:21,805 --> 00:09:24,104 There's lines of people that wanted my job. 135 00:09:24,544 --> 00:09:25,424 I couldn't do it. 136 00:09:25,514 --> 00:09:26,935 It wasn't healthy for me. 137 00:09:27,435 --> 00:09:31,655 I was going to have a nervous breakdown live on the air and not be able to, 138 00:09:32,065 --> 00:09:37,445 um, cause so much damage for any, any possible career path I wanted. 139 00:09:37,685 --> 00:09:41,695 And I knew that and I was hanging on for a thread and I don't even 140 00:09:41,695 --> 00:09:43,155 think I gave a two week notice. 141 00:09:43,195 --> 00:09:46,554 I don't remember because I was in such a state at that time. 142 00:09:47,265 --> 00:09:52,545 And then I went from being on TV to literally working at a 143 00:09:52,545 --> 00:09:56,135 doggy daycare because I only wanted to be around animals. 144 00:09:56,805 --> 00:09:58,415 I didn't want to be around people. 145 00:09:59,245 --> 00:10:03,405 Because this is when all the wounds started opening of all the abuse I 146 00:10:03,405 --> 00:10:11,245 endured for a large majority of my life at that point, being sex trafficked and 147 00:10:11,714 --> 00:10:14,444 abused from ages 11 to 21 years old. 148 00:10:16,345 --> 00:10:19,825 And I couldn't stuff, stuff it down anymore. 149 00:10:20,295 --> 00:10:21,714 And I could only be around. 150 00:10:22,485 --> 00:10:23,165 Animals. 151 00:10:23,205 --> 00:10:27,515 And of course, I fantasized what this job would be, that I would be like, playing 152 00:10:27,515 --> 00:10:31,135 with them, walking them, brushing them. 153 00:10:31,145 --> 00:10:33,615 No, my job was cleaning up shit and piss. 154 00:10:33,625 --> 00:10:41,045 So I went from being on TV to Full glam makeup, everyone knowing me in town, 155 00:10:41,665 --> 00:10:45,024 all that kind of stuff, to throwing the first baseball at a baseball game, I 156 00:10:45,024 --> 00:10:49,095 mean, granted, listen, I wasn't on like, high network, I was in an affiliate, 157 00:10:50,025 --> 00:10:54,685 um, station, wasn't like I was on the Today Show, but still, like, I was a 158 00:10:54,685 --> 00:10:57,505 celebrity in a smaller, you know, town. 159 00:10:58,525 --> 00:11:03,425 And talk about humility and my point in sharing that with you is not for you to 160 00:11:03,425 --> 00:11:10,875 feel bad for me is that to tell you that deep humility is required and humbleness 161 00:11:11,415 --> 00:11:13,385 for you to have the life that you want. 162 00:11:14,204 --> 00:11:18,494 You're in a spot right now where you're like, I don't want 163 00:11:18,494 --> 00:11:19,675 to work for anyone anymore. 164 00:11:19,675 --> 00:11:20,835 I want my life back. 165 00:11:20,835 --> 00:11:22,215 I want my time back. 166 00:11:22,650 --> 00:11:23,610 I want freedom. 167 00:11:23,660 --> 00:11:25,950 I want, I want to be able to have the option. 168 00:11:26,340 --> 00:11:27,780 I know I need to make more money. 169 00:11:27,780 --> 00:11:30,590 I want to be able to do something that's fulfilling, something 170 00:11:30,590 --> 00:11:32,080 that excites me every day. 171 00:11:32,320 --> 00:11:34,190 I don't want to just work to work. 172 00:11:35,540 --> 00:11:39,750 I'm, you're, maybe you're in, in the process of growing your business and you 173 00:11:39,760 --> 00:11:44,979 know something isn't working and it feels like it's so hard and you must be missing 174 00:11:45,140 --> 00:11:48,840 something and you're not sure what it is you're doing and you want to be able to 175 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:53,650 get to another level but you're not sure how to structure it and you keep Throwing 176 00:11:53,650 --> 00:11:58,500 spaghetti at the wall to see what sticks, but like, nothing's really sticking. 177 00:11:58,940 --> 00:12:04,540 You're in any of those pain spots, the humility and being humble 178 00:12:04,540 --> 00:12:05,840 is what's going to help you. 179 00:12:05,860 --> 00:12:08,469 Because you're going, Tiffany, I need help. 180 00:12:08,890 --> 00:12:12,949 Like, I know this is an area of expertise of yours, and I'm 181 00:12:12,950 --> 00:12:14,419 willing to do whatever it is. 182 00:12:14,419 --> 00:12:17,030 I'm willing to get a loan, I'm willing to use PayPal credit. 183 00:12:17,460 --> 00:12:22,560 I'm willing to pull back the bow and arrow, pull back the arrow and temporarily 184 00:12:22,890 --> 00:12:28,330 spend more money than I'm making or make less money or spend the money I'm 185 00:12:28,330 --> 00:12:33,940 bringing in in order to shoot ahead, even though I don't want to, but I'm 186 00:12:33,940 --> 00:12:38,410 willing to do that because I'm not willing to continue going at it in this way. 187 00:12:38,410 --> 00:12:43,830 I see the insanity of this and making a move like coming to my 188 00:12:43,830 --> 00:12:46,100 two day in person mastermind event. 189 00:12:46,100 --> 00:12:47,870 This only happens once a year. 190 00:12:48,185 --> 00:12:49,805 It's incredibly special. 191 00:12:50,515 --> 00:12:56,675 What happens here is not only are you learning two of the highest income 192 00:12:56,675 --> 00:13:01,414 generating skills there are to learn right now, truly, with expending the 193 00:13:01,414 --> 00:13:07,094 least amount of your energy, time, and for what you get in return is wild. 194 00:13:07,535 --> 00:13:11,935 How to package your intellectual property, your skills, your talents 195 00:13:11,935 --> 00:13:18,195 and passions into digital products and physical products so that you can then 196 00:13:18,405 --> 00:13:24,515 sell them online to the billions of people online and then know how to create 197 00:13:24,585 --> 00:13:29,585 profitable content so that people are eager and excited to buy those things. 198 00:13:30,585 --> 00:13:33,995 You're not just going to be learning that from me and my entire 199 00:13:33,995 --> 00:13:35,725 project, me dream, dream team. 200 00:13:36,130 --> 00:13:40,610 But we're going to show you in real time in the flesh in person, 201 00:13:40,620 --> 00:13:44,990 how to customize and implement this for you and your business. 202 00:13:45,350 --> 00:13:49,120 Because the problem, what you're doing is you look at other people in your 203 00:13:49,130 --> 00:13:52,939 industry or even someone like me, and you're like, okay, Tiffany's doing this. 204 00:13:52,939 --> 00:13:54,059 I'll do a version of this. 205 00:13:54,090 --> 00:13:55,910 Oh, this person does this with their emails. 206 00:13:56,190 --> 00:13:58,030 Oh, this person does this with this thing. 207 00:13:58,370 --> 00:13:59,690 I guess I have to do this. 208 00:14:01,045 --> 00:14:05,015 The reason why it's not working or maybe it's working, but it feels so 209 00:14:05,015 --> 00:14:12,415 taxing and exhausting and doesn't feel simple and like fun for you is because 210 00:14:12,425 --> 00:14:14,215 you've not customized it for you. 211 00:14:14,555 --> 00:14:18,124 It would be like someone telling me, Tiff, you've got to go run sprints 212 00:14:18,124 --> 00:14:22,725 and do burpees in order, in order to like get more fat off your body. 213 00:14:23,155 --> 00:14:25,565 Do I believe that probably could work? 214 00:14:25,935 --> 00:14:27,224 It probably could. 215 00:14:27,505 --> 00:14:34,375 But really not, , with my new investment that I've made, into my health because 216 00:14:34,665 --> 00:14:37,155 I practice what I preach here, right? 217 00:14:37,195 --> 00:14:41,995 I just have spent thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars to work with the 218 00:14:42,004 --> 00:14:47,435 best of the best to get to the bottom of what's causing all of my inflammation. 219 00:14:48,110 --> 00:14:51,190 Instead of running around like crazy being bounced to different 220 00:14:51,200 --> 00:14:54,300 doctors trying a little thing here and a little thing there. 221 00:14:54,530 --> 00:14:58,590 I've already been doing that and that's wasted two years of my life 222 00:14:58,620 --> 00:15:00,650 and I deserve to feel my best. 223 00:15:01,219 --> 00:15:04,280 But I also have to invest in that. 224 00:15:05,040 --> 00:15:05,650 And. 225 00:15:06,135 --> 00:15:12,695 Me doing too much high, impact activity, for example, is 226 00:15:12,695 --> 00:15:14,955 contributing to my inflammation. 227 00:15:15,205 --> 00:15:18,875 It's actually the opposite of what I thought and what I was 228 00:15:18,875 --> 00:15:21,154 taught for my body makeup. 229 00:15:21,410 --> 00:15:27,280 For my unique set of how I operate and my trauma and all these other things. 230 00:15:27,550 --> 00:15:32,209 And I'm giving you that as an example, because what you can think you need to 231 00:15:32,220 --> 00:15:36,490 do and really convince yourself you need to do, even if you don't want to do it, 232 00:15:36,710 --> 00:15:40,869 that makes you really not want to do it, resist taking action because you think 233 00:15:40,869 --> 00:15:45,440 that's the only way, or these are the only two ways and it doesn't feel good to you. 234 00:15:45,930 --> 00:15:46,910 Well that's not true. 235 00:15:46,910 --> 00:15:50,330 In fact, maybe why it's not feeling good is that's not your way. 236 00:15:51,425 --> 00:15:55,675 So we're going to help you determine what is your way, you're going to walk 237 00:15:55,675 --> 00:15:59,865 away from these two days together, having more accomplished in your 238 00:15:59,875 --> 00:16:06,855 business life in the abundant side of your life, and truly your money mindset 239 00:16:06,855 --> 00:16:11,954 growth your deeper inner growth and you have had, without a doubt, in the last 240 00:16:12,314 --> 00:16:16,014 several years, if not your whole life and there's plenty of testimonials. 241 00:16:16,335 --> 00:16:19,585 Where people are saying that, and they weren't saying it to me when 242 00:16:19,595 --> 00:16:24,485 people want to give feedback at my live experience that, like I said, 243 00:16:24,485 --> 00:16:29,385 we do it once a year, I'm not the one going around asking people, right. 244 00:16:29,395 --> 00:16:33,914 They are, they are giving those on their own accord and not to me. 245 00:16:33,924 --> 00:16:36,424 So they're not like trying to please me, I guess, is my point. 246 00:16:37,764 --> 00:16:42,004 It is selling out really fast, but this is for sure a move, but you've 247 00:16:42,004 --> 00:16:44,104 got to be at a space of humility. 248 00:16:45,230 --> 00:16:49,700 And openness of I really want this. 249 00:16:49,910 --> 00:16:51,170 I want this growth. 250 00:16:51,170 --> 00:16:52,230 I want this change. 251 00:16:52,260 --> 00:16:54,050 I might feel uncomfortable coming here. 252 00:16:54,330 --> 00:16:56,370 Who are the other people that are going to be here? 253 00:16:56,570 --> 00:16:58,330 Am I far enough along to be here? 254 00:16:58,680 --> 00:17:00,809 All that information is on the page. 255 00:17:00,839 --> 00:17:05,290 But if you feel drawn and you feel pulled. 256 00:17:06,030 --> 00:17:11,250 And you feel a knowing you need to trust that period. 257 00:17:11,250 --> 00:17:12,000 End of story. 258 00:17:12,210 --> 00:17:16,590 Anytime I've not trusted that and I've stayed in resistance of things I've been 259 00:17:16,590 --> 00:17:21,709 pulled to do, I end up paying a bigger price, a bigger price, a bigger price. 260 00:17:22,349 --> 00:17:26,040 So go check out the registration page project me with tiffany. 261 00:17:26,240 --> 00:17:30,530 com forward slash mastermind in the description here on YouTube at project 262 00:17:30,550 --> 00:17:35,579 me TV, and you can swipe up it's also the links directly in the show notes. 263 00:17:36,010 --> 00:17:41,200 On any platform that you're listening to, but this changing 264 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:48,109 your life stuff, it's not cute, it's not always fun, and it's lonely. 265 00:17:49,500 --> 00:17:50,860 It can be really lonely. 266 00:17:50,870 --> 00:17:57,999 It requires a desire so deep for you to have the life that you want for you to 267 00:17:57,999 --> 00:18:02,950 leave the legacy you want to leave for you to create what it is you want to create. 268 00:18:03,830 --> 00:18:08,760 It's gotta be a belief almost to the point of delusion where it feels delusional. 269 00:18:09,290 --> 00:18:13,840 I'm not saying it's delusion meaning like you're cray for thinking that. 270 00:18:15,370 --> 00:18:20,559 I say this all the time, even now with people where you might not 271 00:18:20,559 --> 00:18:22,110 think it's safe to say them to. 272 00:18:22,129 --> 00:18:23,000 I'm at that point. 273 00:18:23,139 --> 00:18:24,810 I don't recommend doing that to start. 274 00:18:25,250 --> 00:18:27,010 But I'll say like, I know. 275 00:18:28,045 --> 00:18:32,735 I know I'm going to be offered like an insane podcasting deal from a major 276 00:18:32,735 --> 00:18:36,885 network like tens and tens of millions of dollars like I just know that 277 00:18:37,965 --> 00:18:40,045 and I've let go of the time period. 278 00:18:40,104 --> 00:18:42,145 I've let go of any of that. 279 00:18:42,335 --> 00:18:48,535 I continue to show up and make millions off my own show and doing 280 00:18:48,535 --> 00:18:52,175 all of these things here but I know like that's coming like I can see 281 00:18:52,175 --> 00:18:55,265 it and I keep showing up regardless. 282 00:18:56,165 --> 00:19:01,235 And you've seen, I mean, we're episodes well over 600 episodes. 283 00:19:02,155 --> 00:19:06,865 You have to show up regardless and not be going, well, where's the payoff? 284 00:19:06,905 --> 00:19:07,865 Where's the payoff? 285 00:19:07,874 --> 00:19:08,535 Where's the payoff? 286 00:19:09,095 --> 00:19:13,594 I have a payoff now, but you don't get a payoff on your desired 287 00:19:13,594 --> 00:19:14,944 timeframe in the beginning. 288 00:19:15,664 --> 00:19:20,005 You know, you have to keep showing up until the payoff comes. 289 00:19:20,005 --> 00:19:23,395 Then if you want more of the payoff, you have to keep on showing up regardless. 290 00:19:24,550 --> 00:19:32,350 So that deep desire, no one can give that to you as motivating as I can be, as I 291 00:19:32,350 --> 00:19:37,229 can look at you and go, and I've said this to people where I'm like, you've got it. 292 00:19:37,500 --> 00:19:38,770 I can see it in you. 293 00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:40,999 You've actually, you've got the sauce. 294 00:19:41,179 --> 00:19:43,899 And it's not like I run around saying that to just anyone. 295 00:19:44,290 --> 00:19:47,840 And I'm thinking of some of the people I've said it to, even though 296 00:19:47,860 --> 00:19:52,310 they know that, even though I even said it in person, it didn't matter. 297 00:19:52,350 --> 00:19:53,270 Ultimately. 298 00:19:53,825 --> 00:19:56,315 Because they didn't believe it themselves. 299 00:19:57,245 --> 00:20:02,865 It would be like someone saying to me, about my book, right. 300 00:20:02,865 --> 00:20:06,005 That is still not out where I hear from so many of you. 301 00:20:06,065 --> 00:20:07,315 Oh, please put your book out. 302 00:20:07,315 --> 00:20:08,434 I can't wait for your book. 303 00:20:08,435 --> 00:20:12,024 This book is going to automatically be in a bestseller, even though 304 00:20:12,024 --> 00:20:13,955 I've had agents, contact me. 305 00:20:14,625 --> 00:20:19,585 People wanting my book that none of that, it feels really good. 306 00:20:19,595 --> 00:20:20,365 Don't get me wrong. 307 00:20:20,365 --> 00:20:23,795 And I appreciate it, but none of that is enough yet. 308 00:20:25,245 --> 00:20:32,065 Because it can't make up for me going, I believe this, and I believe it'll 309 00:20:32,075 --> 00:20:36,115 be worth the time and effort and the pain and the stuff that's going 310 00:20:36,115 --> 00:20:37,785 to come up when I write that book. 311 00:20:37,794 --> 00:20:39,455 That's really what I'm resisting. 312 00:20:42,085 --> 00:20:43,625 I know it's going to be worth it. 313 00:20:43,635 --> 00:20:46,805 I trust that whatever's supposed to happen out of it, the greater 314 00:20:46,805 --> 00:20:48,195 good, it's going to be worth it. 315 00:20:49,745 --> 00:20:51,315 And I'm not there yet. 316 00:20:51,335 --> 00:20:53,165 I'm getting closer and I can feel it. 317 00:20:53,455 --> 00:20:55,775 But there's no amount of external. 318 00:20:56,150 --> 00:20:59,130 Sources of someone saying you can do this. 319 00:20:59,130 --> 00:20:59,830 This will work. 320 00:20:59,830 --> 00:21:00,310 It's time. 321 00:21:00,340 --> 00:21:01,160 It feels good. 322 00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:02,170 It's helpful. 323 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:03,260 Don't get me wrong. 324 00:21:03,260 --> 00:21:04,480 It can help you get there. 325 00:21:04,870 --> 00:21:08,760 But you've got to find that deep desire where you're like, you 326 00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:12,280 know what, I have a knowing I've been knowing I'm meant for more. 327 00:21:12,920 --> 00:21:15,650 I've been I've been knowing I can take my business to another level. 328 00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:17,329 I have a knowing I can do this. 329 00:21:17,330 --> 00:21:21,699 There's enough evidence of enough people out there from all different circumstances 330 00:21:21,979 --> 00:21:25,480 with all these odds stacked against them that if they can do it, so can I. 331 00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:28,940 And that's why I share my shit also with you guys. 332 00:21:30,250 --> 00:21:32,470 And how messy it is up in my brain. 333 00:21:32,910 --> 00:21:38,730 So that you know, okay, like, if Tiffany was able to do this, and she is not 334 00:21:38,740 --> 00:21:43,210 someone who has sunshine boosting out of her ass, she's not an ex you know, 335 00:21:43,210 --> 00:21:48,440 some extreme extrovert, someone with all these connections, um, someone 336 00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:53,740 who's always, like, hyper focused and on it and super disciplined and high, 337 00:21:53,740 --> 00:21:56,530 high energy, I'm none of those things. 338 00:21:57,350 --> 00:21:58,240 I'm really not. 339 00:21:58,590 --> 00:21:59,660 I'm none of those things. 340 00:22:00,825 --> 00:22:09,765 But what I am is someone where I refuse to be trapped by any person, place, 341 00:22:09,805 --> 00:22:15,155 thing, job, circumstances, clients ever for what it is I want to do in 342 00:22:15,155 --> 00:22:19,664 my life, whether it's donating money to build safe houses for women and 343 00:22:19,664 --> 00:22:20,905 children who've been sex trafficked. 344 00:22:21,530 --> 00:22:26,450 Whether it's donating money to animal rescues, whether it's me taking a last 345 00:22:26,450 --> 00:22:32,640 minute trip, a 55, 000 European trip because I want to, and if I want to leave 346 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:38,259 tomorrow on another one, I can, I can buy the bag if I want to buy the bag. 347 00:22:38,830 --> 00:22:41,514 I can remodel the house if I want to buy the house. 348 00:22:42,015 --> 00:22:46,775 I can go and live in Paris for three months if I want to. 349 00:22:47,035 --> 00:22:50,555 I can take three months off if I want to from doing, I can do 350 00:22:50,555 --> 00:22:52,705 nothing if I really want to do that. 351 00:22:54,395 --> 00:22:59,504 And no one can take it away from me, nobody, because I've set it up that way. 352 00:22:59,545 --> 00:23:05,695 And that's my deeper motivation that gets me into the daily decision to 353 00:23:05,695 --> 00:23:07,885 show up whether I feel like it or not. 354 00:23:08,115 --> 00:23:12,845 And fun fact, 70 percent of the time, at least you're not going to feel like it. 355 00:23:13,180 --> 00:23:14,930 I don't care whose life you have. 356 00:23:16,710 --> 00:23:21,150 You can look at people who you admire famous actors, you can look 357 00:23:21,160 --> 00:23:23,030 at people who are even billionaires. 358 00:23:23,030 --> 00:23:27,610 I mean, I've had the privilege of meeting, being in meetings, working for these 359 00:23:27,850 --> 00:23:31,199 companies, interviewing these people. 360 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:34,450 We're all human beings at the end of the day. 361 00:23:35,060 --> 00:23:39,730 And what motivates each one of us is so different, but the people 362 00:23:39,730 --> 00:23:42,929 who keep going, even though they've gotten all the rejections. 363 00:23:43,290 --> 00:23:47,109 Where they've gotten the pitfalls where they've had deaths in their 364 00:23:47,109 --> 00:23:50,659 life where they've been thrown off course, but then they keep going. 365 00:23:51,649 --> 00:23:59,960 It's that deeper guttural desire and for to have what it is you really want for me. 366 00:24:00,579 --> 00:24:01,779 It's freedom. 367 00:24:02,629 --> 00:24:06,879 It's never it's the opposite of feeling trapped controlled and confined 368 00:24:06,889 --> 00:24:09,100 because that's how I felt in childhood. 369 00:24:09,399 --> 00:24:11,689 And then what further motivates me. 370 00:24:12,330 --> 00:24:18,720 Is to help as many people as possible, not feel trapped and 371 00:24:18,720 --> 00:24:20,280 feel free in their own lives. 372 00:24:20,310 --> 00:24:23,760 However that looks for you, how it looks for you could be very 373 00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:25,759 different than how it looks for me. 374 00:24:26,999 --> 00:24:30,549 There is nothing that gets me more fired up than that. 375 00:24:31,360 --> 00:24:35,760 That's why I always joke when someone says stuff to me like, well, I'm 376 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:39,790 going to have to ask my husband and I don't know if he's going to, you know, 377 00:24:39,790 --> 00:24:42,289 allow me to go to your two day event. 378 00:24:42,289 --> 00:24:43,970 And I don't know if he's going to allow me to. 379 00:24:44,334 --> 00:24:48,934 Be in your posse membership and it's like, wait a second, you're telling me 380 00:24:49,385 --> 00:24:52,725 that you're wanting something so badly. 381 00:24:52,764 --> 00:24:56,844 That's only going to better the overall family and yourself. 382 00:24:57,284 --> 00:24:59,134 And this is a dream of yours. 383 00:24:59,164 --> 00:25:01,694 And this is not some frivolous thing. 384 00:25:01,694 --> 00:25:03,955 This is something with a very clear ROI. 385 00:25:03,975 --> 00:25:06,505 That's also fun fact, tax deductible. 386 00:25:07,665 --> 00:25:10,135 And the person you're partnered with. 387 00:25:10,594 --> 00:25:16,445 Isn't supportive of that and isn't trusting you of that, that's trapped 388 00:25:16,455 --> 00:25:21,185 to me and they fucking know it and you fucking know it if you're one of those 389 00:25:21,185 --> 00:25:23,455 people in that situation or you have been. 390 00:25:23,955 --> 00:25:25,425 Hells no. 391 00:25:25,905 --> 00:25:26,585 Hells no. 392 00:25:27,465 --> 00:25:28,834 Not approved over here. 393 00:25:29,664 --> 00:25:34,275 You can't allow anybody in your life, whether it's their opinion of you, 394 00:25:34,275 --> 00:25:38,095 their judgment of you, your fear of what they may do or may not do. 395 00:25:38,584 --> 00:25:43,264 , whether they, you share a bank account with them or not, you cannot 396 00:25:43,264 --> 00:25:48,834 allow someone else to dictate or control the growth in your life. 397 00:25:49,424 --> 00:25:52,674 And if you're with someone who is not supporting your growth, they're 398 00:25:52,674 --> 00:26:03,484 contributing to you being miserable and stuck and in a spot that very little 399 00:26:03,484 --> 00:26:09,254 light can shine out of, but that's still on you to not be around that. 400 00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:11,620 That's your responsibility. 401 00:26:12,899 --> 00:26:13,960 No one's coming. 402 00:26:14,410 --> 00:26:20,439 I don't know any person that has that kind of success in life. 403 00:26:20,439 --> 00:26:21,590 And I don't just mean money. 404 00:26:21,590 --> 00:26:24,679 I mean, happiness and delight and freedom. 405 00:26:25,819 --> 00:26:36,090 I don't know anyone who is in that spot, myself included, who Is waited for someone 406 00:26:36,100 --> 00:26:41,309 to give it to them, waited for the magical partner, waited for the magical job, 407 00:26:41,590 --> 00:26:47,710 waited for the manifestation, waited for to go viral, waited to win the lotto. 408 00:26:49,249 --> 00:26:50,529 It doesn't work like that. 409 00:26:51,139 --> 00:26:57,109 You've got to be taking those actions that feel scary, even 410 00:26:57,120 --> 00:26:59,519 terrifying, even counterintuitive. 411 00:26:59,849 --> 00:27:04,849 They might even feel based on your programming, irresponsible, silly. 412 00:27:05,420 --> 00:27:11,600 I mean, everyone pretty much thought I lost my mind starting a podcast, 413 00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:13,280 that it was a silly little hobby. 414 00:27:15,260 --> 00:27:17,039 Not everyone, but almost everyone. 415 00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:20,739 Funny how some of those people have podcasts now. 416 00:27:21,410 --> 00:27:25,799 Funny how some of those people try to pick my brain, of course for free, which is 417 00:27:25,810 --> 00:27:29,180 not approved, of, well, what did you do? 418 00:27:29,250 --> 00:27:33,070 Like, what did, you know, what did, what, what do you use for this? 419 00:27:33,100 --> 00:27:34,179 What do you use for this? 420 00:27:34,199 --> 00:27:35,300 How do you do this? 421 00:27:37,449 --> 00:27:38,550 Isn't that interesting? 422 00:27:38,550 --> 00:27:39,027 Interesting. 423 00:27:39,027 --> 00:27:39,504 Interesting. 424 00:27:40,804 --> 00:27:45,524 My mentor, who I mentioned, died last year, Dr. 425 00:27:45,524 --> 00:27:46,424 Alex Kadabi. 426 00:27:46,444 --> 00:27:51,184 And I say it in present tense that he's still my mentor because of 427 00:27:51,204 --> 00:27:53,034 the lessons that he taught me. 428 00:27:54,084 --> 00:27:57,224 And I speak to him just like I speak to my dad, right? 429 00:27:57,224 --> 00:28:01,184 Like, the lessons he taught me and the guidance he still gives me. 430 00:28:03,234 --> 00:28:09,064 One of the things that he would say, and he was very brash in how he 431 00:28:09,074 --> 00:28:10,604 said things, he says, brash a word. 432 00:28:10,894 --> 00:28:16,904 It wasn't like hard, like even harsh, I would say at times, but I knew 433 00:28:16,904 --> 00:28:19,674 his heart so I could take it in. 434 00:28:20,414 --> 00:28:22,224 And he definitely made me cry a couple times. 435 00:28:23,244 --> 00:28:23,774 And. 436 00:28:24,919 --> 00:28:30,679 When I would come in there and talk to him in my 20s, early 30s, and I would be 437 00:28:30,679 --> 00:28:32,939 like complaining, and this is so hard. 438 00:28:32,939 --> 00:28:34,169 I'm not happy about this. 439 00:28:34,169 --> 00:28:37,519 And he was like, then change it, then do something about it, then make a move. 440 00:28:39,119 --> 00:28:41,079 You don't like where you're at, then change it. 441 00:28:41,089 --> 00:28:41,979 You get to change it. 442 00:28:42,009 --> 00:28:46,029 And it would like kind of shock me out of where I was at. 443 00:28:46,039 --> 00:28:50,469 Like I was kind of like in this, giving myself all this trapped language. 444 00:28:50,469 --> 00:28:53,469 Like I was in this cage and he would go, here you go. 445 00:28:53,519 --> 00:28:54,139 Here's the key. 446 00:28:54,179 --> 00:28:54,839 Let yourself out. 447 00:28:56,399 --> 00:28:59,939 And it's like, when you put yourself in that cage and all those 448 00:28:59,939 --> 00:29:02,749 thoughts are swirling around in your mind, and then they become 449 00:29:02,749 --> 00:29:05,109 beliefs, you're trapping yourself. 450 00:29:05,109 --> 00:29:05,869 And I've done it. 451 00:29:07,199 --> 00:29:09,339 And then he hands me the key, well, then get out. 452 00:29:10,129 --> 00:29:10,939 You don't like it. 453 00:29:10,989 --> 00:29:13,229 And it's like, Oh my God, that's right. 454 00:29:13,279 --> 00:29:14,969 I have the power to get out. 455 00:29:15,389 --> 00:29:19,549 We forget because maybe we're around toxic people who are gaslighting us. 456 00:29:20,019 --> 00:29:21,939 Maybe we're gaslighting ourselves. 457 00:29:22,329 --> 00:29:24,239 Maybe we're so afraid. 458 00:29:25,284 --> 00:29:29,734 Of making a big move and making a big change and doing something bold and doing 459 00:29:29,734 --> 00:29:34,174 something different and doing something vulnerable that we convince ourselves, 460 00:29:34,804 --> 00:29:38,494 it's going to be so hard and it's going to be so much and it's going to cost so much 461 00:29:38,494 --> 00:29:42,584 money and it's going to be so exhausting and it's going to be so this, so we just 462 00:29:42,604 --> 00:29:49,064 pile on all this weight on it that we end up suffocating our energy around it 463 00:29:49,174 --> 00:29:51,684 and truly keeping ourselves in the cage. 464 00:29:53,429 --> 00:29:55,509 With those beliefs, with those thoughts. 465 00:29:55,559 --> 00:29:57,639 And the truth is it gets to be simple. 466 00:29:57,669 --> 00:29:58,959 It gets to be fun. 467 00:29:59,369 --> 00:30:00,889 It's not always easy. 468 00:30:02,349 --> 00:30:04,869 You know, I try to be careful using that word. 469 00:30:05,749 --> 00:30:09,759 It's more of that it's simple and it also gets to be fun and it gets to be light 470 00:30:09,759 --> 00:30:14,289 and it gets to be rewarding, but it does also get to be easier than you imagine. 471 00:30:14,299 --> 00:30:16,649 And I do feel that's fair for me to say that. 472 00:30:17,649 --> 00:30:22,569 Because I'm someone who can make a lot of things seem hard or feel hard to myself. 473 00:30:22,749 --> 00:30:23,949 Look what I do with the book. 474 00:30:24,059 --> 00:30:26,909 Oh my gosh, I'm just going to have to sit in front of a laptop 475 00:30:26,909 --> 00:30:28,919 for hours and be so disciplined. 476 00:30:29,269 --> 00:30:31,969 And then all of my shit's going to come up and I'm going to have to 477 00:30:31,969 --> 00:30:35,459 relive a lot of these triggering memories and da da da da da. 478 00:30:36,354 --> 00:30:38,424 Well, is any of that serving me? 479 00:30:38,434 --> 00:30:41,684 Is any of that propelling me into motion to doing the thing? 480 00:30:41,694 --> 00:30:46,364 Instead, I want you to ask yourself, how can I make this easier? 481 00:30:47,004 --> 00:30:49,084 How can I make this more fun? 482 00:30:49,814 --> 00:30:53,824 How can I shorten the duration of time this is going to take? 483 00:30:54,294 --> 00:30:59,404 How can I do this without expending all of my energy? 484 00:30:59,594 --> 00:31:01,854 Ask yourself a different question. 485 00:31:02,564 --> 00:31:05,284 And when you do that, you get very different answers. 486 00:31:06,684 --> 00:31:10,614 One major shortcut is by coming to my two day live event. 487 00:31:10,644 --> 00:31:11,584 That is a shortcut. 488 00:31:12,394 --> 00:31:17,254 We are, we are cutting off all this time of you wondering, 489 00:31:17,264 --> 00:31:19,624 guessing, how do I do this? 490 00:31:19,804 --> 00:31:21,344 What am I missing here? 491 00:31:21,604 --> 00:31:25,154 And we're solving that in a short period of time. 492 00:31:25,154 --> 00:31:29,004 Do you still need to leave there and execute on what we've done? 493 00:31:29,004 --> 00:31:29,754 And of course. 494 00:31:30,374 --> 00:31:31,844 Yes, that part's on you. 495 00:31:32,204 --> 00:31:37,484 But now you at least know the exact path you're going on, that you aren't 496 00:31:37,484 --> 00:31:43,154 zigzagging all around or going in some maze that feels never ending to you. 497 00:31:43,484 --> 00:31:47,354 When you know, and you've got kind of like marching orders for yourself. 498 00:31:47,649 --> 00:31:50,679 I have to focus on this, this, and this and put blinders on for the 499 00:31:50,679 --> 00:31:53,879 rest, just this, this, and this, this, this, and this, this, this, 500 00:31:53,879 --> 00:31:59,899 and this blinders on for the rest, there's no way you can't be successful, 501 00:31:59,909 --> 00:32:01,809 especially when you have the support. 502 00:32:02,749 --> 00:32:06,799 And, you know, as long as I keep showing up yes some people. 503 00:32:07,279 --> 00:32:09,389 can have success earlier out of the gate. 504 00:32:10,039 --> 00:32:12,669 Some people, it happens later. 505 00:32:13,259 --> 00:32:17,269 Some people have success out of the gate, then sabotage all of it or lose 506 00:32:17,299 --> 00:32:19,629 all of it and never find it again. 507 00:32:20,459 --> 00:32:24,419 We have to be very careful when comparing ourselves on their journey. 508 00:32:24,419 --> 00:32:28,269 I mean, I'm sure there's a lot of, um, fellow physicians. 509 00:32:28,649 --> 00:32:33,179 Um, he's a well known dermatologist, well known physicians. 510 00:32:33,199 --> 00:32:35,589 Um, he was a real estate mogul. 511 00:32:36,169 --> 00:32:37,889 amazing in the stock market. 512 00:32:37,889 --> 00:32:41,179 There are a lot of people, I'm sure, family members that 513 00:32:41,179 --> 00:32:43,449 compared themselves to Dr. 514 00:32:43,449 --> 00:32:44,399 Alex Gaddafi. 515 00:32:44,499 --> 00:32:46,559 You know, I remember at one point I did too. 516 00:32:46,559 --> 00:32:48,049 He wasn't that much older than me. 517 00:32:48,049 --> 00:32:52,639 I was like, Oh, I was only as smart as him if I only had as much energy as him. 518 00:32:53,139 --> 00:32:54,619 Well, he's fucking dead now. 519 00:32:56,189 --> 00:33:00,359 And this is a man who had all the resources, all the doctor's 520 00:33:00,359 --> 00:33:04,749 connections at the best hospitals in the world and had all the money. 521 00:33:05,489 --> 00:33:10,139 And had tons of support and he's dead and this is not someone who was predisposed. 522 00:33:10,419 --> 00:33:13,459 I won't, I won't give away all the details, but he wasn't 523 00:33:13,469 --> 00:33:15,599 predisposed to what he died from. 524 00:33:15,829 --> 00:33:16,159 Okay. 525 00:33:16,159 --> 00:33:21,279 There wasn't like all this family history of that or that his lifestyle 526 00:33:21,289 --> 00:33:23,399 was like toxic and contributed. 527 00:33:23,549 --> 00:33:23,979 Okay. 528 00:33:24,439 --> 00:33:26,589 If anything, his stress contributed to that. 529 00:33:28,349 --> 00:33:34,949 My dad's dead, you know, like my dad died later in life, but 530 00:33:34,959 --> 00:33:37,969 still, still pretty young man. 531 00:33:39,839 --> 00:33:41,259 You don't know what's going to happen. 532 00:33:41,259 --> 00:33:42,279 Look at Shannon Doherty. 533 00:33:42,409 --> 00:33:43,399 You have no idea. 534 00:33:43,399 --> 00:33:47,199 And I'm not like, I'm giving dramatic examples, but you have no idea. 535 00:33:47,269 --> 00:33:52,339 There's, I, I feel like I'd be doing a disservice to not share this quick story 536 00:33:52,339 --> 00:33:54,369 about a client that I'll never forget. 537 00:33:55,389 --> 00:33:57,649 And not that I forget any of my clients, but there's certain 538 00:33:57,659 --> 00:33:59,589 stories that really stick to me. 539 00:34:01,149 --> 00:34:05,349 And she was so upset because she was. 540 00:34:06,009 --> 00:34:09,199 You know, she, she didn't follow her dreams in her twenties. 541 00:34:09,209 --> 00:34:10,649 She didn't follow them in her thirties. 542 00:34:10,649 --> 00:34:12,689 She didn't follow them even in her forties. 543 00:34:13,819 --> 00:34:18,379 And she was so mad at herself for that, that that was keeping her in the cage. 544 00:34:19,029 --> 00:34:19,899 What an idiot. 545 00:34:19,929 --> 00:34:21,149 I should have done it then. 546 00:34:21,149 --> 00:34:24,069 I should have done it when I had more energy. 547 00:34:24,079 --> 00:34:29,009 When I had youth on my side, I wasted all this time, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 548 00:34:29,289 --> 00:34:34,119 And now she's was in at that time, her early fifties. 549 00:34:34,444 --> 00:34:40,134 And she felt more trapped than ever because she was in a marriage 550 00:34:40,144 --> 00:34:42,274 where she depended on him. 551 00:34:42,654 --> 00:34:46,464 He wrote, like, he paid every bill, all the things, and a lot of people 552 00:34:46,464 --> 00:34:52,164 on the outside and even her family was very envious, even jealous of 553 00:34:52,164 --> 00:34:57,499 her because she had She had quote unquote, the rich husband, she was the 554 00:34:57,499 --> 00:35:00,009 quintessential like housewife, right? 555 00:35:00,029 --> 00:35:03,159 And they wanted that life and what they perceived that life to be. 556 00:35:03,369 --> 00:35:09,819 Well, this motherfucker had been cheating on her for 10 years and had another child. 557 00:35:10,519 --> 00:35:14,659 I think it was one child with this other woman who had a full house he 558 00:35:14,659 --> 00:35:20,869 paid for in another state or this woman had, she had no fucking idea. 559 00:35:20,879 --> 00:35:22,459 He traveled a ton for work. 560 00:35:22,754 --> 00:35:26,654 Obviously a guy was a master liar and maybe there were signs 561 00:35:26,654 --> 00:35:27,774 and she didn't want to see it. 562 00:35:29,544 --> 00:35:34,334 And I said, but if you had done this sooner, you would have 563 00:35:34,404 --> 00:35:36,234 gotten screwed in the divorce. 564 00:35:36,274 --> 00:35:40,094 This was, this was supposed to happen in this timing. 565 00:35:40,594 --> 00:35:44,794 You certainly wouldn't have gotten the alimony that you've gotten now. 566 00:35:44,794 --> 00:35:48,584 And even though I know you're like, this alimony clock is like running out. 567 00:35:49,099 --> 00:35:50,489 and I should have gotten more. 568 00:35:50,599 --> 00:35:53,929 Well, you would have gotten a lot less if you had started your 569 00:35:53,939 --> 00:35:58,389 business during the marriage and then had independence of income. 570 00:35:58,419 --> 00:36:01,659 And I'm not telling any of you guys, Oh, I should wait until I'm 571 00:36:01,659 --> 00:36:03,469 divorced to start my business. 572 00:36:04,329 --> 00:36:09,929 My point is, It happened for her at the right time, it 573 00:36:09,939 --> 00:36:11,869 happened now at a right time. 574 00:36:12,239 --> 00:36:16,819 She also has a lesson that she has learned and a story to tell 575 00:36:17,549 --> 00:36:22,649 that is going to be able to help so many people and her community. 576 00:36:23,229 --> 00:36:29,179 deeper desire for doing what she's doing to get her to show up 577 00:36:29,189 --> 00:36:32,559 regardless is on a whole nother level because of what's happened 578 00:36:32,559 --> 00:36:36,869 because she will never put herself in a position where she is dependent 579 00:36:36,899 --> 00:36:39,399 like that on someone else ever again. 580 00:36:40,689 --> 00:36:41,639 You see what I mean? 581 00:36:43,119 --> 00:36:49,489 So you've got to show up regardless, knowing your time is coming, but not 582 00:36:49,639 --> 00:36:52,259 stopping short of when that time is. 583 00:36:52,634 --> 00:36:55,084 We don't know when that is for any one of us. 584 00:36:55,114 --> 00:36:56,254 And I get frustrated. 585 00:36:56,254 --> 00:36:59,794 I get discouraged too, but this is also why I have coaches. 586 00:36:59,824 --> 00:37:01,024 I have a therapist. 587 00:37:01,334 --> 00:37:08,024 I make sure I invest in putting myself in, um, rooms and around 588 00:37:08,034 --> 00:37:14,444 people and situations and support so that I keep showing up regardless. 589 00:37:14,444 --> 00:37:15,714 So I don't give up. 590 00:37:15,774 --> 00:37:16,824 So I stretch. 591 00:37:16,824 --> 00:37:17,744 So I grow. 592 00:37:18,084 --> 00:37:19,444 So I push myself. 593 00:37:22,739 --> 00:37:27,099 And the last thing I want to say, which might be the most important, but it's also 594 00:37:27,099 --> 00:37:31,499 the most painful, is the loneliness part. 595 00:37:33,689 --> 00:37:35,969 You know that expression, it's lonely at the top? 596 00:37:37,289 --> 00:37:41,539 It's not just the top as like, oh, I'm a multi millionaire top. 597 00:37:42,289 --> 00:37:48,474 I'm talking like, healing and growth and being awake and having a spiritual 598 00:37:48,474 --> 00:37:54,394 awakening and being emotionally aware and intelligent and open. 599 00:37:55,704 --> 00:38:01,584 You grow at that level, you're going to have a much lower tolerance for 600 00:38:01,584 --> 00:38:05,504 people's manipulations, people's bullshit, people's excuses. 601 00:38:05,969 --> 00:38:09,989 When people's words and actions don't match people wasting your precious 602 00:38:09,999 --> 00:38:14,979 time because they don't value their own, um, people not respecting your 603 00:38:14,989 --> 00:38:20,309 boundaries, other people who choose to have very little boundaries, you're 604 00:38:20,379 --> 00:38:24,459 not, you're not going to have an appetite for it or a tolerance for it. 605 00:38:26,024 --> 00:38:29,564 And then that creates a feeling of loneliness, your circle gets 606 00:38:29,574 --> 00:38:34,194 very, very small, and that can sound not great to some of you. 607 00:38:36,944 --> 00:38:42,144 The people who are in that small circle are fucking primo. 608 00:38:42,894 --> 00:38:47,204 Wouldn't you rather have, let's just say it's an orange tree. 609 00:38:48,034 --> 00:38:53,934 Wouldn't you rather have an orange tree that maybe only produces like, I don't 610 00:38:53,934 --> 00:38:56,234 know, six, seven oranges at a time? 611 00:38:56,584 --> 00:39:00,744 Versus, I mean, if you've seen some of these orange trees in Florida or here in 612 00:39:00,884 --> 00:39:05,784 Southern California, I mean, some of these trees have like a hundred on them, or 613 00:39:05,784 --> 00:39:10,604 would you rather have it produce a hundred that don't really taste that great? 614 00:39:10,614 --> 00:39:11,564 They're pretty bland. 615 00:39:11,564 --> 00:39:15,304 They don't taste like much or ones that have eight or 10, maybe even 616 00:39:15,304 --> 00:39:19,004 five that are the best fucking oranges you've ever tasted. 617 00:39:19,564 --> 00:39:23,464 And you know, every time you go to pick one off, it's going to be at that level. 618 00:39:23,934 --> 00:39:26,234 And then when you share that orange with someone, or you 619 00:39:26,234 --> 00:39:28,004 make something with that orange. 620 00:39:28,319 --> 00:39:31,329 People are like, Oh my God, this is incredible. 621 00:39:31,329 --> 00:39:32,749 This is the best orange I ever had. 622 00:39:32,749 --> 00:39:35,779 And then you get to experience that feeling of abundance. 623 00:39:37,229 --> 00:39:38,259 I would rather have that. 624 00:39:38,269 --> 00:39:39,659 That's Leonard the lemon tree. 625 00:39:40,899 --> 00:39:45,389 You know, he doesn't produce that many lemons, but the ones he does, uh, 626 00:39:46,089 --> 00:39:52,079 you could probably just dilute that lemon juice just a little bit and have 627 00:39:52,079 --> 00:39:53,549 something that tastes like lemonade. 628 00:39:53,549 --> 00:39:54,269 It's that good. 629 00:39:55,749 --> 00:39:57,189 That, that's what it's like. 630 00:39:57,619 --> 00:40:03,109 But you have to be willing to cut the people off to distance yourself to set 631 00:40:03,109 --> 00:40:06,999 the boundaries to adhere to the boundaries for you have to be willing for people 632 00:40:06,999 --> 00:40:13,019 to, not like you, because they're not willing to look at their own shit. 633 00:40:13,649 --> 00:40:16,809 And they're not willing to own their part and their own stuff. 634 00:40:17,149 --> 00:40:22,579 It's easier for them to say, Oh, Tiffany got so big and Tiffany is like famous now. 635 00:40:22,809 --> 00:40:25,129 So she doesn't give a shit about anybody anymore. 636 00:40:25,309 --> 00:40:30,039 That's easier for someone to say that, Oh, now that so and so's divorced and 637 00:40:30,279 --> 00:40:36,259 now they're living the single life, you know, at like 40 years old, you know, 638 00:40:36,269 --> 00:40:40,039 they're, they don't like, they don't want anything to do with anyone who's 639 00:40:40,039 --> 00:40:42,329 married, you know, like people are nuts. 640 00:40:43,629 --> 00:40:46,459 They come up or someone's like really lost weight. 641 00:40:47,149 --> 00:40:52,109 Or they've found a connection to spirit and source that they haven't had before. 642 00:40:52,399 --> 00:40:55,469 Oh, so and so's really gone off the deep end, man. 643 00:40:55,469 --> 00:40:59,519 They're doing plant medicine in Costa Rica. 644 00:40:59,809 --> 00:41:00,509 And you know what? 645 00:41:00,509 --> 00:41:03,129 Maybe they have kind of gone a little cuckoo. 646 00:41:03,459 --> 00:41:05,689 If they're happy, that's none of your damn business. 647 00:41:06,239 --> 00:41:08,059 They're happy and not hurting anyone else. 648 00:41:08,089 --> 00:41:09,349 It's really none of your business. 649 00:41:10,889 --> 00:41:16,784 What's crazy is that there is Literally this last week, a story went viral, Mike, 650 00:41:16,784 --> 00:41:24,144 why is this going viral of a woman who's married, who wanted to go and reconnect 651 00:41:24,144 --> 00:41:30,194 with her Greek roots and take a solo trip a solo pilgrimage to Greece on her 652 00:41:30,194 --> 00:41:34,974 own, even though she's married, and her husband was 1000 percent supportive. 653 00:41:35,304 --> 00:41:37,794 This story made it to like the fucking today show. 654 00:41:37,794 --> 00:41:39,304 I'm talking went mega viral. 655 00:41:39,304 --> 00:41:42,364 You may have seen it where people were aghast. 656 00:41:43,489 --> 00:41:47,959 That she, if she's going on a pilgrimage and if she had a really good marriage, 657 00:41:48,169 --> 00:41:50,129 wouldn't she want her husband there? 658 00:41:50,999 --> 00:41:56,869 And they couldn't comprehend that this woman was going to go and travel solo 659 00:41:56,869 --> 00:41:59,589 and do this on her own for herself. 660 00:41:59,759 --> 00:42:04,089 Which is the Project Me life, which is why I named this brand 661 00:42:04,089 --> 00:42:05,829 and this podcast Project Me. 662 00:42:06,799 --> 00:42:10,239 You're your most exceptional project of your life. 663 00:42:12,169 --> 00:42:17,269 The people in your life don't support you for wanting to do something solo, 664 00:42:17,459 --> 00:42:22,209 needing to do things for your soul, wanting to do something that sounds like 665 00:42:22,209 --> 00:42:24,639 a silly little hobby like a podcast. 666 00:42:25,004 --> 00:42:28,494 Or starting a business when your last five businesses didn't 667 00:42:28,494 --> 00:42:30,484 work, but this is your thing. 668 00:42:31,164 --> 00:42:36,044 You're wanting to write a book and you have no idea if anyone's going to read it. 669 00:42:36,044 --> 00:42:40,944 You want to share stuff on social media and, you know, if someone isn't 670 00:42:40,954 --> 00:42:45,544 supportive of that, then you've got to be willing to do it anyway and not care. 671 00:42:47,294 --> 00:42:51,814 It's like there are lots of people who don't support some 672 00:42:51,814 --> 00:42:53,404 of the things that I do still. 673 00:42:53,624 --> 00:42:55,914 And what's funny is they watch all my shit. 674 00:42:56,939 --> 00:43:03,379 They probably are listening right now and it triggers people like that viral story 675 00:43:03,999 --> 00:43:10,159 because there's so many people who don't give themselves the permission or haven't 676 00:43:10,159 --> 00:43:13,799 created a life where they have the freedom or they feel like they have the freedom 677 00:43:14,049 --> 00:43:16,359 to let themselves out of the goddamn cage. 678 00:43:17,149 --> 00:43:23,449 You have the key to get out of the cage and then you have people like me who 679 00:43:23,449 --> 00:43:29,039 can help you get to where you want to go faster and easier and with more fun. 680 00:43:31,359 --> 00:43:33,439 But you have to be willing to show up regardless. 681 00:43:33,489 --> 00:43:35,489 All of this abundance is here for you. 682 00:43:35,529 --> 00:43:36,809 There's so much evidence. 683 00:43:37,179 --> 00:43:41,439 You may have forgotten that you have the key, and you also have to 684 00:43:41,439 --> 00:43:46,029 be willing, if you want to change your life, you've got to do quite 685 00:43:46,029 --> 00:43:50,789 a few uncomfortable, vulnerable, scary, counterintuitive things. 686 00:43:52,289 --> 00:43:53,939 And it is so worth it. 687 00:43:54,914 --> 00:43:57,894 You are going to upset people, people aren't going to get it, 688 00:43:57,984 --> 00:44:01,164 then they are not meant to continue on that growth path with you. 689 00:44:01,334 --> 00:44:04,304 And sometimes you'll meet up with these people again later, they'll 690 00:44:04,304 --> 00:44:06,294 catch up in their own timeline. 691 00:44:06,744 --> 00:44:08,374 We're all on different timelines. 692 00:44:08,394 --> 00:44:17,629 I mean, what's at stake for you to continue to kind of, Um, play it safe, 693 00:44:17,849 --> 00:44:22,019 hold it back, like, oh, business is doing well, but it's not really what I, 694 00:44:23,189 --> 00:44:25,369 well, I, you know, I have it good enough. 695 00:44:25,369 --> 00:44:27,209 I should just be grateful where I'm at. 696 00:44:27,219 --> 00:44:28,719 That's toxic gratitude. 697 00:44:30,589 --> 00:44:35,709 Wouldn't you rather be in a spot in your life that, God forbid, you end up 698 00:44:35,709 --> 00:44:42,099 in a situation like Shannon Doherty, or like my mentor, Alex, and you can 699 00:44:42,099 --> 00:44:48,504 go, mm, No one can tell me and I can't tell myself that I didn't fucking 700 00:44:48,524 --> 00:44:50,744 go for it and keep going for it. 701 00:44:52,344 --> 00:44:57,514 And that peace and that legacy that you leave for the people around you, 702 00:44:57,514 --> 00:45:03,924 your children, people you care about, strangers, I know that I am that example 703 00:45:03,934 --> 00:45:12,144 for millions and millions of strangers going, who's unwell in the mind, who 704 00:45:12,144 --> 00:45:17,554 had no self worth, who has complex PTSD. 705 00:45:18,184 --> 00:45:20,164 Who has no fucking family. 706 00:45:23,174 --> 00:45:26,274 Who's able to do the hard things, the uncomfortable things, the 707 00:45:26,274 --> 00:45:28,154 scary things, and keep showing up. 708 00:45:29,284 --> 00:45:32,034 And what's on the other side is so beautiful. 709 00:45:33,774 --> 00:45:35,104 It's all here for you. 710 00:45:35,804 --> 00:45:39,974 And while you may feel alone, I'm You don't have to do this alone. 711 00:45:40,804 --> 00:45:41,834 Take my hand. 712 00:45:42,374 --> 00:45:43,644 You have the support. 713 00:45:44,504 --> 00:45:45,794 You have the guidance. 714 00:45:46,554 --> 00:45:49,384 You have the dependable people. 715 00:45:49,914 --> 00:45:50,714 Right here. 716 00:45:51,984 --> 00:45:55,104 Start by coming to my two day in person event and allow 717 00:45:55,104 --> 00:45:57,174 the magic to unfold for you. 718 00:45:57,834 --> 00:46:03,194 Allow the universe to delight you because what happens is 719 00:46:03,204 --> 00:46:06,584 you take that uncomfortable action and do the scary thing. 720 00:46:07,094 --> 00:46:11,134 The abundance that's waiting for you on the other side is remarkable and 721 00:46:11,134 --> 00:46:15,214 we've watched it happen year after year and it's undeniable in the 722 00:46:15,214 --> 00:46:17,394 testimonials from the people who've come. 723 00:46:17,684 --> 00:46:18,974 So go to project me with tiffany. 724 00:46:19,204 --> 00:46:21,324 com forward slash mastermind. 725 00:46:21,839 --> 00:46:25,749 It's in my Lincoln bio on TOK at project me with Tiffany. 726 00:46:26,049 --> 00:46:28,809 Also, of course, in the show notes here and in the description 727 00:46:28,809 --> 00:46:31,159 here on project me TV on YouTube. 728 00:46:31,189 --> 00:46:35,949 And then we have our summer sale still going on inside my famous project. 729 00:46:35,979 --> 00:46:37,739 We posse business coaching membership. 730 00:46:38,544 --> 00:46:43,204 Where you sign up for the annual option, you get two months for free and my nail 731 00:46:43,204 --> 00:46:47,954 your niche masterclass, which is worth well over 500 plus you get my content 732 00:46:47,954 --> 00:46:51,304 creation made easy course bundle as well. 733 00:46:51,314 --> 00:46:52,714 A lot of people do both. 734 00:46:52,724 --> 00:46:57,294 So there's quite a few posse members that are coming to the live event. 735 00:46:57,844 --> 00:46:59,324 Again, it's only once a year. 736 00:46:59,325 --> 00:47:03,324 As of right now we're over 30 percent sold out. 737 00:47:04,104 --> 00:47:06,074 We'd love to have you at the beach. 738 00:47:06,084 --> 00:47:06,259 Thanks so much. 739 00:47:06,909 --> 00:47:14,169 Where you get to be in a beautifully abundant setting around real people, 740 00:47:14,579 --> 00:47:19,859 no one being performative, you know, shoes off beat in the sand. 741 00:47:22,159 --> 00:47:27,639 Really getting that clarity and that conviction of where it is 742 00:47:27,639 --> 00:47:30,429 you wanna go and how to get there. 743 00:47:30,969 --> 00:47:33,309 Because the more fun we have, the more money we make. 744 00:47:33,309 --> 00:47:37,169 This doesn't need to happen in a sterile classroom or. 745 00:47:37,854 --> 00:47:40,104 You know, in a hotel conference room. 746 00:47:41,314 --> 00:47:45,154 In fact, you speed up the energy of your abundance when you 747 00:47:45,154 --> 00:47:47,104 surround yourself with abundance. 748 00:47:47,284 --> 00:47:51,484 Not when you're avoiding it or not when you're waiting to relish in it 749 00:47:51,524 --> 00:47:53,414 until you've reached a certain point. 750 00:47:53,944 --> 00:47:58,744 You become a magnet for it when you plant yourself right damn in the center of it. 751 00:47:59,534 --> 00:48:00,994 So I hope you come join us. 752 00:48:01,794 --> 00:48:04,394 Wishing you great health, wealth, and worth as always. 753 00:48:04,684 --> 00:48:05,114 Love you.