1 00:00:26,288 --> 00:00:28,048 Confidence isn't just about 2 00:00:28,088 --> 00:00:29,269 believing in yourself. 3 00:00:29,350 --> 00:00:30,911 It's about taking bold 4 00:00:31,150 --> 00:00:33,192 action in the face of adversity. 5 00:00:33,692 --> 00:00:34,933 And today's guest knows 6 00:00:35,033 --> 00:00:36,695 exactly what it takes to 7 00:00:36,734 --> 00:00:38,676 turn challenges into 8 00:00:38,695 --> 00:00:40,356 incredible opportunities. 9 00:00:41,198 --> 00:00:43,118 Eric Weir is a bestselling author, 10 00:00:43,298 --> 00:00:44,600 entrepreneur, investor, 11 00:00:44,659 --> 00:00:46,540 and success coach who has 12 00:00:46,621 --> 00:00:47,601 worked with some of the 13 00:00:47,642 --> 00:00:50,203 world's top performers from 14 00:00:50,283 --> 00:00:53,005 elite athletes to Hollywood executives. 15 00:00:53,805 --> 00:00:55,726 As the founder of Weir Capital, 16 00:00:56,246 --> 00:00:58,368 Eric has built a reputation 17 00:00:58,607 --> 00:01:00,209 for helping people maximize 18 00:01:00,249 --> 00:01:03,171 their potential, whether in business, 19 00:01:03,271 --> 00:01:05,412 finances, or personal growth. 20 00:01:06,013 --> 00:01:07,534 But Eric's journey hasn't 21 00:01:07,575 --> 00:01:08,796 been without obstacles, 22 00:01:08,876 --> 00:01:10,817 and we're going to hear some about that. 23 00:01:12,019 --> 00:01:13,379 He has faced setbacks, 24 00:01:13,540 --> 00:01:14,921 learned valuable lessons, 25 00:01:15,001 --> 00:01:16,341 and discovered the power of 26 00:01:16,522 --> 00:01:18,243 resilience along the way. 27 00:01:19,004 --> 00:01:21,385 In his book, Who's Eating Your Pie?, 28 00:01:21,807 --> 00:01:24,129 he shares insights on wealth, purpose, 29 00:01:24,429 --> 00:01:25,730 and the mindset shifts 30 00:01:26,313 --> 00:01:28,715 needed to create lasting success. 31 00:01:29,036 --> 00:01:30,417 Eric, welcome to the show. 32 00:01:31,757 --> 00:01:32,197 Hi, Taryn. 33 00:01:32,218 --> 00:01:33,498 Thank you for having me on. 34 00:01:33,578 --> 00:01:34,578 I'm very excited to be here. 35 00:01:34,618 --> 00:01:35,500 Thank you. 36 00:01:35,659 --> 00:01:36,381 Yes. 37 00:01:36,540 --> 00:01:37,521 Well, you know, 38 00:01:37,820 --> 00:01:41,743 I met you through someone on LinkedIn. 39 00:01:42,183 --> 00:01:44,325 I interviewed him for my podcast. 40 00:01:44,566 --> 00:01:44,805 Okay. 41 00:01:45,105 --> 00:01:46,567 always like to ask at the 42 00:01:46,688 --> 00:01:47,968 end hey do you have any 43 00:01:48,009 --> 00:01:50,031 great guests that would 44 00:01:50,090 --> 00:01:51,373 like to come on my show 45 00:01:51,393 --> 00:01:53,995 okay and he mentioned you 46 00:01:54,075 --> 00:01:56,197 and I said no way eric 47 00:01:56,257 --> 00:01:57,539 we're I would love to 48 00:01:57,599 --> 00:01:59,281 interview him so that was 49 00:01:59,340 --> 00:02:00,462 my first kind of 50 00:02:00,501 --> 00:02:02,043 introduction to you and 51 00:02:02,084 --> 00:02:04,126 then here we are today so um 52 00:02:05,153 --> 00:02:06,736 welcome welcome and I would 53 00:02:06,817 --> 00:02:08,921 love to hear you know some 54 00:02:08,981 --> 00:02:10,183 of what you've got going on 55 00:02:10,223 --> 00:02:11,768 right now talk to us about 56 00:02:11,788 --> 00:02:13,330 your book and all the 57 00:02:13,371 --> 00:02:15,756 successes that you are having in life 58 00:02:16,521 --> 00:02:17,622 Yeah. 59 00:02:17,682 --> 00:02:18,764 Well, essentially, 60 00:02:19,564 --> 00:02:21,586 it's fun to focus on success, 61 00:02:21,626 --> 00:02:22,627 but it's been my experience 62 00:02:22,646 --> 00:02:24,068 that there's really no 63 00:02:24,149 --> 00:02:25,689 success without a setback. 64 00:02:26,330 --> 00:02:27,512 And what really got me 65 00:02:27,611 --> 00:02:30,554 started was a significant setback. 66 00:02:31,354 --> 00:02:33,356 And when I was five years old, 67 00:02:33,997 --> 00:02:34,877 I was in an automobile 68 00:02:34,918 --> 00:02:36,359 accident and I had a 69 00:02:37,340 --> 00:02:38,381 traumatic brain injury. 70 00:02:39,139 --> 00:02:40,098 And as such, 71 00:02:40,359 --> 00:02:42,599 I developed a stutter almost instantly. 72 00:02:43,159 --> 00:02:44,401 So I got home from the car 73 00:02:44,420 --> 00:02:45,901 wreck and seen all the 74 00:02:45,920 --> 00:02:47,080 police and all of that. 75 00:02:47,100 --> 00:02:47,721 And I remember wanting to 76 00:02:47,741 --> 00:02:49,361 get out of the car and both 77 00:02:49,401 --> 00:02:51,562 the police and my mother said, 78 00:02:51,622 --> 00:02:52,502 don't get out of the car. 79 00:02:53,022 --> 00:02:53,263 And I'm like, 80 00:02:53,342 --> 00:02:54,423 that seems bad because I was 81 00:02:54,462 --> 00:02:55,723 watching Bugs Bunny Road Runner. 82 00:02:56,003 --> 00:02:57,544 Everything happened when the cars wrecked, 83 00:02:57,563 --> 00:02:58,844 they blew up and caught on fire. 84 00:02:59,405 --> 00:03:01,224 So I was faced with a decision. 85 00:03:01,245 --> 00:03:03,485 Do I blow up and catch on fire? 86 00:03:03,944 --> 00:03:05,326 and obey my parent, my mom, 87 00:03:05,366 --> 00:03:07,050 or do I get out of the car and survive? 88 00:03:07,110 --> 00:03:09,173 And I chose to die. 89 00:03:09,272 --> 00:03:10,955 It was really hard for me, right? 90 00:03:11,842 --> 00:03:12,924 So I get home and I'm stuttering. 91 00:03:12,943 --> 00:03:16,224 I'm like, can you please pass the piece? 92 00:03:16,264 --> 00:03:17,466 And they're like, Eric, are you okay? 93 00:03:17,945 --> 00:03:18,746 And they thought I was just 94 00:03:18,765 --> 00:03:19,866 in a wreck and was rattled, 95 00:03:20,266 --> 00:03:21,147 but it didn't go away. 96 00:03:21,668 --> 00:03:23,008 So they took me to a speech 97 00:03:23,028 --> 00:03:24,949 therapist and it wasn't the, this was the, 98 00:03:24,969 --> 00:03:25,650 this was the nineteen, 99 00:03:25,669 --> 00:03:27,131 this was nineteen seventy-two. 100 00:03:27,151 --> 00:03:28,950 So this was not the PC 101 00:03:29,431 --> 00:03:30,792 encouraging speech therapist. 102 00:03:30,812 --> 00:03:32,052 It kind of went something like this. 103 00:03:32,092 --> 00:03:33,354 And I'm sitting there and my 104 00:03:33,413 --> 00:03:34,614 legs and my mind's eye are 105 00:03:34,653 --> 00:03:35,694 hanging off the side of the 106 00:03:36,074 --> 00:03:37,096 chair because I'm five. 107 00:03:37,695 --> 00:03:38,616 And she goes, Eric, 108 00:03:38,656 --> 00:03:39,616 life is going to be hard. 109 00:03:40,076 --> 00:03:41,698 I'm like, OK. 110 00:03:41,717 --> 00:03:42,278 She goes, 111 00:03:42,658 --> 00:03:44,721 you have a stutter and the odds 112 00:03:44,841 --> 00:03:45,822 are you'll be a failure. 113 00:03:46,222 --> 00:03:48,503 The odds are you'll be reclusive. 114 00:03:48,644 --> 00:03:50,064 You you won't want to engage 115 00:03:50,104 --> 00:03:51,126 in conversation because 116 00:03:51,165 --> 00:03:52,447 it's hard and kids are 117 00:03:52,467 --> 00:03:54,247 going to tease you and make fun of you. 118 00:03:54,889 --> 00:03:55,489 And in such, 119 00:03:55,508 --> 00:03:57,091 you'll probably choose to avoid that. 120 00:03:57,790 --> 00:03:59,151 She said, but there's an alternative. 121 00:03:59,692 --> 00:04:01,592 You can probably be very successful, 122 00:04:01,953 --> 00:04:02,913 but you'll have to view 123 00:04:03,234 --> 00:04:04,314 each conversation as a 124 00:04:04,375 --> 00:04:05,835 challenge and each time 125 00:04:05,854 --> 00:04:07,316 you're picked on as an opportunity. 126 00:04:07,876 --> 00:04:09,697 And I'm like, wow, this is crazy. 127 00:04:09,717 --> 00:04:10,897 She says that if you do that, 128 00:04:11,518 --> 00:04:12,278 if you view each of these 129 00:04:12,359 --> 00:04:13,338 rocks you're climbing, 130 00:04:13,759 --> 00:04:14,620 you'll have overcome so 131 00:04:14,639 --> 00:04:15,721 many obstacles by the time 132 00:04:15,741 --> 00:04:16,380 you're eighteen, 133 00:04:16,721 --> 00:04:18,201 more than most people do in a lifetime, 134 00:04:18,322 --> 00:04:19,523 that you'll be hard to stop 135 00:04:19,562 --> 00:04:20,543 because you'll view 136 00:04:21,043 --> 00:04:22,223 obstacles as opportunities 137 00:04:22,303 --> 00:04:23,324 if you follow my advice. 138 00:04:23,964 --> 00:04:25,747 And I left the meeting, one of my parents, 139 00:04:25,767 --> 00:04:26,988 to say, this is a quack. 140 00:04:27,509 --> 00:04:28,290 Don't do that. 141 00:04:28,310 --> 00:04:29,411 It's terrible advice, right? 142 00:04:30,012 --> 00:04:31,415 And my dad looked at me and goes, Eric, 143 00:04:31,735 --> 00:04:32,375 life's going to be hard. 144 00:04:32,415 --> 00:04:33,076 Let's get started. 145 00:04:34,041 --> 00:04:35,202 And that's where it began. 146 00:04:35,642 --> 00:04:37,324 And immediately they set out 147 00:04:37,363 --> 00:04:39,125 the next day and set up a lemonade stand. 148 00:04:39,165 --> 00:04:40,805 And I realized I do real 149 00:04:40,826 --> 00:04:43,048 estate is that location matters. 150 00:04:43,567 --> 00:04:44,769 And in this particular case, 151 00:04:44,809 --> 00:04:45,910 we lived right at the 152 00:04:46,009 --> 00:04:47,730 entryway to an elementary school. 153 00:04:48,211 --> 00:04:49,372 So I had parents who were 154 00:04:49,411 --> 00:04:50,653 picking up kids slightly 155 00:04:50,713 --> 00:04:52,434 older than me and they're 156 00:04:52,473 --> 00:04:53,834 lining up in front of my house. 157 00:04:54,334 --> 00:04:55,336 So when you have a lemonade 158 00:04:55,355 --> 00:04:56,336 stand and you're five and 159 00:04:56,355 --> 00:04:59,057 you're blonde and you have a sign, 160 00:04:59,098 --> 00:05:00,559 lemonade, fifty cents, that was great. 161 00:05:01,019 --> 00:05:03,339 The bad news is my name's Eric Weir, 162 00:05:03,660 --> 00:05:05,560 and my lemonade was fifty cents, 163 00:05:05,600 --> 00:05:06,661 and F's are hard to say. 164 00:05:07,360 --> 00:05:08,540 E's and W's are hard to say. 165 00:05:08,581 --> 00:05:09,401 So I made a sign. 166 00:05:09,442 --> 00:05:10,362 So people would ask me how 167 00:05:10,401 --> 00:05:11,622 much is the lemonade. 168 00:05:11,641 --> 00:05:13,382 I would point to the sign, 169 00:05:13,423 --> 00:05:15,343 hoping that would end the conversation. 170 00:05:15,764 --> 00:05:17,244 Not one time did it stop. 171 00:05:17,584 --> 00:05:18,543 How much is the lemonade? 172 00:05:18,564 --> 00:05:20,024 I'm going to get... It's... 173 00:05:21,055 --> 00:05:22,596 fifty cents right and I 174 00:05:22,617 --> 00:05:23,677 never got fifty cents I got 175 00:05:23,697 --> 00:05:25,158 a dollar I got five dollars 176 00:05:25,540 --> 00:05:27,360 I got tipped and I was like 177 00:05:27,380 --> 00:05:29,202 this is fantastic so I went 178 00:05:29,242 --> 00:05:31,285 inside and you know and 179 00:05:31,305 --> 00:05:32,747 then was was fun my dad got 180 00:05:32,786 --> 00:05:34,168 home and he'd lost his job 181 00:05:34,187 --> 00:05:34,848 and we were living in a 182 00:05:34,908 --> 00:05:36,389 rented house we'd lost everything 183 00:05:36,971 --> 00:05:38,732 And he goes, how'd it go today? 184 00:05:38,791 --> 00:05:40,413 I said, I mean, I made eighty six dollars. 185 00:05:40,434 --> 00:05:41,875 Well, in today's money, 186 00:05:41,894 --> 00:05:42,855 that's like six hundred. 187 00:05:42,975 --> 00:05:43,235 OK. 188 00:05:43,755 --> 00:05:44,536 And he's like, 189 00:05:44,557 --> 00:05:45,658 I don't think I made eighty 190 00:05:45,677 --> 00:05:46,439 six dollars today. 191 00:05:46,918 --> 00:05:48,319 So that's how I got started. 192 00:05:48,339 --> 00:05:49,120 The first thing I thought is 193 00:05:49,221 --> 00:05:50,721 I've got a business partner tomorrow, 194 00:05:50,742 --> 00:05:52,122 my lemonade stand, my father. 195 00:05:52,163 --> 00:05:52,322 Right. 196 00:05:52,783 --> 00:05:54,764 But it was fun, but it was a setback. 197 00:05:55,646 --> 00:05:57,206 But that setback opened its 198 00:05:57,286 --> 00:05:59,329 door to other opportunities 199 00:05:59,509 --> 00:06:00,709 that still benefit me today. 200 00:06:02,677 --> 00:06:05,199 so inspiring to hear because 201 00:06:05,298 --> 00:06:07,139 traumatic brain injury is 202 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:09,721 not something that many people overcome. 203 00:06:10,382 --> 00:06:12,223 I love the advice going back 204 00:06:12,303 --> 00:06:14,024 to your speech pathologist 205 00:06:14,045 --> 00:06:15,966 that you had when you were a child. 206 00:06:16,047 --> 00:06:16,987 And, you know, 207 00:06:17,028 --> 00:06:19,870 that was a lot of mindset advice. 208 00:06:20,975 --> 00:06:21,637 Oh, a hundred percent. 209 00:06:24,298 --> 00:06:25,199 I got picked on every, 210 00:06:25,240 --> 00:06:26,680 I cried myself to sleep. 211 00:06:26,701 --> 00:06:28,142 I mean, hundreds of nights. 212 00:06:28,163 --> 00:06:28,882 I mean, 213 00:06:28,903 --> 00:06:31,004 I got picked on relentlessly for 214 00:06:31,064 --> 00:06:32,987 years and years and years and years. 215 00:06:33,007 --> 00:06:34,928 I mean, even one of my teens asking people, 216 00:06:35,009 --> 00:06:37,110 us and a girl on a date is Eric. 217 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:40,382 Where can I take you to movie? 218 00:06:40,882 --> 00:06:41,684 And it wasn't until I was 219 00:06:41,764 --> 00:06:42,745 forty that I got over. 220 00:06:42,764 --> 00:06:44,346 I mean, I stuttered till I was forty. 221 00:06:44,886 --> 00:06:45,786 And a therapist would say, 222 00:06:46,127 --> 00:06:47,889 put yourself in uncomfortable positions. 223 00:06:48,608 --> 00:06:50,089 And one that I did at the 224 00:06:50,211 --> 00:06:51,632 end was thirty seven, eight, nine. 225 00:06:51,771 --> 00:06:52,733 I was a church greeter. 226 00:06:53,463 --> 00:06:55,666 And it was terrible because I stuttered, 227 00:06:55,747 --> 00:06:56,807 right? 228 00:06:56,848 --> 00:06:58,750 What makes it worse is when 229 00:06:58,829 --> 00:07:01,793 I have coffee or when I'm tired. 230 00:07:01,934 --> 00:07:03,836 And I'm always tired, and I love coffee. 231 00:07:04,175 --> 00:07:05,478 So I'm right at the front of the church, 232 00:07:05,978 --> 00:07:07,279 and I would shake people's hand. 233 00:07:07,300 --> 00:07:07,879 And every once in a while, 234 00:07:07,920 --> 00:07:08,360 I'd get it right. 235 00:07:08,380 --> 00:07:09,442 But most of the time, I wouldn't. 236 00:07:09,502 --> 00:07:10,262 And they'd shake their hand. 237 00:07:10,283 --> 00:07:10,803 What's your name? 238 00:07:11,855 --> 00:07:15,999 And I'm like, it's weird. 239 00:07:16,019 --> 00:07:17,060 And three things would happen. 240 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:17,660 All were bad. 241 00:07:17,961 --> 00:07:20,062 They'd look at you like, like, 242 00:07:20,083 --> 00:07:21,564 and just wait until you get it out. 243 00:07:21,603 --> 00:07:23,346 Like this pure eye on, eye on. 244 00:07:23,625 --> 00:07:24,627 And that made me uncomfortable. 245 00:07:24,646 --> 00:07:24,867 Right. 246 00:07:25,226 --> 00:07:26,127 And I felt bad for them. 247 00:07:26,408 --> 00:07:29,971 Or they would just look away, you know, 248 00:07:30,012 --> 00:07:30,872 just walk off. 249 00:07:31,112 --> 00:07:32,293 Or they just avoid you altogether. 250 00:07:32,314 --> 00:07:33,654 And all three were bad, you know? 251 00:07:33,714 --> 00:07:34,896 So, but it was funny. 252 00:07:35,197 --> 00:07:37,478 What changed my life was the pastor said, 253 00:07:38,749 --> 00:07:40,911 thank God for what besets you. 254 00:07:41,790 --> 00:07:42,172 And he said, 255 00:07:42,192 --> 00:07:43,973 the apostle Paul prayed two 256 00:07:44,033 --> 00:07:46,675 times to remove the thorn in his flesh. 257 00:07:46,855 --> 00:07:47,134 And he goes, 258 00:07:47,175 --> 00:07:48,295 we don't really know what that is. 259 00:07:49,177 --> 00:07:50,697 Hunchback, there's all kinds of theories. 260 00:07:51,759 --> 00:07:53,279 He said, both times God said, no, 261 00:07:53,339 --> 00:07:54,281 my grace is sufficient. 262 00:07:55,233 --> 00:07:57,475 And I thank God for my stutter. 263 00:07:57,495 --> 00:07:58,595 And I really didn't want to 264 00:07:58,615 --> 00:08:00,074 because I really wasn't happy about it. 265 00:08:00,495 --> 00:08:01,536 And I was so upset. 266 00:08:01,576 --> 00:08:02,636 It was very emotional for me. 267 00:08:02,675 --> 00:08:03,536 When I did, 268 00:08:03,956 --> 00:08:05,456 the stutter went away over 269 00:08:05,497 --> 00:08:07,197 about three years, not the next day. 270 00:08:07,596 --> 00:08:08,536 But I said, thank you, God, 271 00:08:08,576 --> 00:08:09,557 for the stutter you gave me 272 00:08:09,617 --> 00:08:11,338 that made me who I am, 273 00:08:11,737 --> 00:08:13,197 that gave me my persistence 274 00:08:13,237 --> 00:08:14,158 and resolve that I would 275 00:08:14,199 --> 00:08:15,199 not otherwise have. 276 00:08:15,699 --> 00:08:18,319 And then that's what changed my life. 277 00:08:18,379 --> 00:08:19,180 It was gratitude. 278 00:08:20,117 --> 00:08:20,836 Yes. 279 00:08:21,177 --> 00:08:22,437 Oh my gosh. 280 00:08:22,557 --> 00:08:25,038 You, well, you're speaking my language, 281 00:08:25,077 --> 00:08:25,478 right? 282 00:08:25,557 --> 00:08:28,319 It's the gratitude for me that, you know, 283 00:08:28,358 --> 00:08:30,160 what's interesting that 284 00:08:30,199 --> 00:08:33,581 came from me at my lowest point. 285 00:08:33,740 --> 00:08:35,181 And it was something that I didn't, 286 00:08:35,360 --> 00:08:36,500 I didn't have that like 287 00:08:36,561 --> 00:08:38,581 deep appreciation for gratitude. 288 00:08:38,802 --> 00:08:40,922 And I didn't feel like I had a true, 289 00:08:41,081 --> 00:08:42,842 true relationship with God. 290 00:08:44,190 --> 00:08:46,650 Until I was at my lowest point, 291 00:08:46,951 --> 00:08:48,692 until I felt like I have no 292 00:08:48,751 --> 00:08:49,652 self-confidence, 293 00:08:49,871 --> 00:08:52,133 I'm in steeps of depression, anxiety, 294 00:08:52,153 --> 00:08:53,452 which a lot of people are going through, 295 00:08:53,472 --> 00:08:53,852 right? 296 00:08:55,573 --> 00:08:57,235 But I realized this, 297 00:08:58,335 --> 00:09:00,076 that if we didn't have the 298 00:09:00,096 --> 00:09:01,576 darkness of the night sky, 299 00:09:02,716 --> 00:09:04,317 we wouldn't appreciate the stars. 300 00:09:04,356 --> 00:09:05,418 We wouldn't be able to see 301 00:09:05,437 --> 00:09:06,457 them and distinguish them. 302 00:09:07,309 --> 00:09:09,052 So I think that, you know, 303 00:09:09,331 --> 00:09:11,673 complexity of just the 304 00:09:11,714 --> 00:09:12,875 human experience like we're 305 00:09:12,894 --> 00:09:14,897 talking about right now that, you know, 306 00:09:14,917 --> 00:09:16,557 you have to have the give with the take. 307 00:09:16,597 --> 00:09:18,539 You have to, you know, 308 00:09:18,940 --> 00:09:19,921 be able to have that 309 00:09:19,980 --> 00:09:21,642 adversity so that you can 310 00:09:21,783 --> 00:09:22,903 overcome and actually step 311 00:09:22,923 --> 00:09:24,304 into the person you're supposed to be. 312 00:09:25,408 --> 00:09:26,190 It's so true. 313 00:09:26,210 --> 00:09:28,011 And I do something with each of my, 314 00:09:28,072 --> 00:09:28,893 I have five sons. 315 00:09:29,633 --> 00:09:30,653 And at some age, 316 00:09:30,673 --> 00:09:32,075 it's not like I've written it down. 317 00:09:32,155 --> 00:09:33,135 It just kind of happens and 318 00:09:33,176 --> 00:09:34,918 it pops in my mind at certain age. 319 00:09:34,957 --> 00:09:37,080 But I remember doing it at 320 00:09:37,139 --> 00:09:38,280 ten with one of my sons. 321 00:09:39,241 --> 00:09:40,503 And I went into a closet and 322 00:09:40,523 --> 00:09:42,105 I closed the door and it was very dark. 323 00:09:42,544 --> 00:09:43,525 And I brought a lighter with me. 324 00:09:44,125 --> 00:09:45,206 And look how dark it is. 325 00:09:45,913 --> 00:09:47,013 He goes, yeah, I can't see anything. 326 00:09:47,072 --> 00:09:47,254 I said, 327 00:09:47,293 --> 00:09:48,173 I brought a lighter and I'm going 328 00:09:48,193 --> 00:09:48,514 to light it. 329 00:09:48,533 --> 00:09:49,894 And I have like a lighter 330 00:09:49,934 --> 00:09:50,554 here and I would just, 331 00:09:50,695 --> 00:09:51,414 I would light the lighter 332 00:09:51,575 --> 00:09:52,294 and show a flame. 333 00:09:52,836 --> 00:09:54,296 And I get, were you able to see the flame? 334 00:09:54,775 --> 00:09:55,115 He goes, yeah. 335 00:09:55,135 --> 00:09:56,236 And I said, that's light. 336 00:09:56,817 --> 00:09:58,038 The light in you can light 337 00:09:58,077 --> 00:09:58,977 the darkest room. 338 00:09:59,594 --> 00:10:00,595 And I said, remember, 339 00:10:00,975 --> 00:10:02,375 it only takes a little bit of light. 340 00:10:02,876 --> 00:10:03,856 No amount of darkness can 341 00:10:03,897 --> 00:10:05,477 overcome the smallest amount of light. 342 00:10:06,139 --> 00:10:07,519 So be a light. 343 00:10:08,179 --> 00:10:11,102 And that, I think, has impacted our lives. 344 00:10:11,123 --> 00:10:12,163 It certainly has impacted mine. 345 00:10:12,683 --> 00:10:13,965 And gratitude is a light. 346 00:10:14,804 --> 00:10:16,886 No matter how bad things are, 347 00:10:17,106 --> 00:10:17,907 there's always, 348 00:10:18,227 --> 00:10:19,849 you're supposed to be grateful for, 349 00:10:19,869 --> 00:10:21,990 there are always people who would trade, 350 00:10:22,490 --> 00:10:23,812 no matter what circumstance you're in. 351 00:10:24,312 --> 00:10:25,474 With you right now, 352 00:10:25,614 --> 00:10:27,395 no matter where you are, handle it. 353 00:10:27,797 --> 00:10:28,878 And so often we just we 354 00:10:28,938 --> 00:10:32,043 focus on what we are lacking, 355 00:10:32,403 --> 00:10:33,845 not what we have. 356 00:10:34,046 --> 00:10:35,307 Oh, a hundred percent. 357 00:10:35,386 --> 00:10:35,807 Right. 358 00:10:36,345 --> 00:10:38,807 But once you really, and I do, 359 00:10:38,866 --> 00:10:39,628 I consider it a 360 00:10:39,707 --> 00:10:41,429 relationship with gratitude 361 00:10:41,450 --> 00:10:43,851 because gratitude, you know, again, 362 00:10:43,892 --> 00:10:45,413 it's what I used to think 363 00:10:45,452 --> 00:10:46,975 of it as is something like, okay, 364 00:10:46,995 --> 00:10:47,936 you check your box. 365 00:10:48,216 --> 00:10:48,495 All right, 366 00:10:48,535 --> 00:10:50,177 I'm done my gratitude for the day. 367 00:10:50,618 --> 00:10:51,138 That's good. 368 00:10:51,219 --> 00:10:52,460 On to the next. 369 00:10:52,500 --> 00:10:54,321 You have to do it every single day. 370 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:55,282 It's a lifestyle. 371 00:10:55,302 --> 00:10:55,962 It's a habit. 372 00:10:56,283 --> 00:10:57,663 It's like prayer, right? 373 00:10:57,724 --> 00:10:58,004 Absolutely. 374 00:10:58,912 --> 00:10:59,452 Um, 375 00:10:59,572 --> 00:11:01,274 the interesting thing about gratitude 376 00:11:01,294 --> 00:11:03,317 that I realized once I 377 00:11:03,337 --> 00:11:04,599 developed a relationship 378 00:11:04,639 --> 00:11:07,523 with it is that it did feel 379 00:11:07,562 --> 00:11:09,865 like a continuous prayer, 380 00:11:09,926 --> 00:11:13,409 like a bridge that at any point in time, 381 00:11:13,529 --> 00:11:15,371 I could just reach out with 382 00:11:15,392 --> 00:11:16,754 an expression of gratitude. 383 00:11:17,184 --> 00:11:20,006 And be connected through prayer to God. 384 00:11:20,067 --> 00:11:21,489 It's that powerful. 385 00:11:21,509 --> 00:11:22,769 No, it's super powerful. 386 00:11:22,789 --> 00:11:25,692 And I heard Jordan Peterson say, he said, 387 00:11:25,731 --> 00:11:25,892 like, 388 00:11:25,932 --> 00:11:28,955 start each day believing that 389 00:11:29,014 --> 00:11:30,155 everything that happens to 390 00:11:30,196 --> 00:11:31,917 you ultimately will turn for good. 391 00:11:32,405 --> 00:11:33,566 And in scripture, it says, 392 00:11:33,706 --> 00:11:34,606 all things work for the 393 00:11:34,626 --> 00:11:36,466 good of those that love and serve God. 394 00:11:36,966 --> 00:11:39,807 So it was, that's a biblical advice. 395 00:11:39,827 --> 00:11:40,447 And he's opened by, 396 00:11:40,467 --> 00:11:41,748 I don't care what religion you are. 397 00:11:42,327 --> 00:11:43,048 Just say, 398 00:11:44,188 --> 00:11:44,969 all things are going to work out 399 00:11:44,989 --> 00:11:45,788 for my good today. 400 00:11:46,028 --> 00:11:46,889 No matter what happens, 401 00:11:46,990 --> 00:11:48,149 it's ultimately for my goodness. 402 00:11:48,250 --> 00:11:51,029 Sometimes it's so hard to see what it is. 403 00:11:51,070 --> 00:11:52,671 And you listen to Tim Tebow. 404 00:11:53,410 --> 00:11:54,611 And he wanted to go back and 405 00:11:54,652 --> 00:11:56,211 play in the NFL again, right? 406 00:11:56,371 --> 00:11:57,653 He's in great shape. 407 00:11:57,712 --> 00:11:58,932 He's a great athlete, 408 00:11:59,052 --> 00:12:00,114 Heisman Trophy winner. 409 00:12:00,693 --> 00:12:01,453 And he got cut. 410 00:12:01,514 --> 00:12:02,154 He didn't make it. 411 00:12:02,254 --> 00:12:02,715 And, you know, 412 00:12:02,735 --> 00:12:04,855 they knew there'd be fans would come, 413 00:12:04,936 --> 00:12:05,716 support would come. 414 00:12:05,755 --> 00:12:06,916 He poured himself all into it. 415 00:12:06,956 --> 00:12:08,856 Demi, his wife, was really behind him. 416 00:12:09,397 --> 00:12:10,097 And he didn't make it. 417 00:12:10,518 --> 00:12:12,219 He was very disappointed in his flesh. 418 00:12:12,259 --> 00:12:12,719 And then he said, well, 419 00:12:12,739 --> 00:12:15,279 I'm going to dedicate my time to God. 420 00:12:15,419 --> 00:12:17,480 And what he's done since that time to help, 421 00:12:17,941 --> 00:12:18,120 you know, 422 00:12:18,301 --> 00:12:19,561 children who are less fortunate 423 00:12:19,621 --> 00:12:20,601 and people of— 424 00:12:21,081 --> 00:12:22,761 who've been, you know, 425 00:12:22,822 --> 00:12:23,562 preyed upon through 426 00:12:23,582 --> 00:12:24,903 trafficking and things of that nature, 427 00:12:25,363 --> 00:12:26,003 he would never have been 428 00:12:26,023 --> 00:12:27,062 able to do if he had 429 00:12:27,082 --> 00:12:28,043 another one or two or three 430 00:12:28,063 --> 00:12:28,783 years in the NFL. 431 00:12:28,844 --> 00:12:30,504 So he now says that that was 432 00:12:30,524 --> 00:12:31,144 the greatest thing that 433 00:12:31,163 --> 00:12:31,803 ever happened to him. 434 00:12:32,183 --> 00:12:33,644 And it really aligned his, 435 00:12:34,245 --> 00:12:35,804 his purpose more, 436 00:12:35,865 --> 00:12:37,245 more tightly with what he 437 00:12:37,264 --> 00:12:39,605 believes God has him to do. 438 00:12:39,846 --> 00:12:41,265 Oh, that is so timely. 439 00:12:42,966 --> 00:12:44,287 You know, just this week, I, 440 00:12:44,547 --> 00:12:45,866 I'm on the leadership 441 00:12:45,907 --> 00:12:47,707 committee for C-suite for Christ. 442 00:12:48,388 --> 00:12:49,408 And, you know, we, 443 00:12:49,957 --> 00:12:50,918 beginning of the committee 444 00:12:51,557 --> 00:12:53,259 meetings we always say god 445 00:12:53,298 --> 00:12:55,139 moments and we can stand up 446 00:12:55,178 --> 00:12:56,099 and talk about it if we 447 00:12:56,139 --> 00:12:58,440 want and I shared one this 448 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:00,820 week um it was a god moment 449 00:13:00,919 --> 00:13:03,480 I had this revelation and I 450 00:13:03,500 --> 00:13:04,480 said you know I'm done 451 00:13:04,561 --> 00:13:06,000 wanting the things I want 452 00:13:06,020 --> 00:13:07,841 for myself I'm just done 453 00:13:08,621 --> 00:13:10,042 what I want is what what do 454 00:13:10,081 --> 00:13:11,942 you want from me whatever 455 00:13:12,001 --> 00:13:13,522 that is I'm open to it I'm 456 00:13:13,562 --> 00:13:14,602 excited about it I'm 457 00:13:14,623 --> 00:13:16,082 already grateful for it let's go 458 00:13:17,630 --> 00:13:19,331 I don't want what I want for 459 00:13:19,371 --> 00:13:20,331 myself anymore. 460 00:13:20,432 --> 00:13:21,212 And I think if, 461 00:13:21,613 --> 00:13:24,654 if we all think on that level of, 462 00:13:25,034 --> 00:13:25,355 you know, 463 00:13:25,575 --> 00:13:27,716 not leaning as the Bible says on 464 00:13:27,775 --> 00:13:31,238 our own understanding and 465 00:13:31,298 --> 00:13:32,759 lean instead on God and 466 00:13:32,818 --> 00:13:34,879 have faith in his plan for us, 467 00:13:34,919 --> 00:13:36,961 which is always way bigger 468 00:13:36,980 --> 00:13:38,682 than what we have for ourselves. 469 00:13:38,841 --> 00:13:39,761 Sure. 470 00:13:39,881 --> 00:13:40,423 Oh my gosh. 471 00:13:40,462 --> 00:13:41,623 How much more successful 472 00:13:41,663 --> 00:13:42,823 could we actually become? 473 00:13:42,844 --> 00:13:44,764 No, a hundred percent, a hundred percent. 474 00:13:44,784 --> 00:13:45,725 That's so, it's so true. 475 00:13:46,004 --> 00:13:46,426 It's so true. 476 00:13:46,446 --> 00:13:46,505 Yep. 477 00:13:47,850 --> 00:13:48,210 Wow. 478 00:13:48,990 --> 00:13:51,072 So your story is incredible. 479 00:13:51,312 --> 00:13:51,692 You know, 480 00:13:51,751 --> 00:13:53,432 you go from this point of 481 00:13:53,474 --> 00:13:55,955 adversity in childhood, 482 00:13:56,514 --> 00:13:58,015 never saw that coming, 483 00:13:58,356 --> 00:13:59,677 traumatic brain injury, 484 00:13:59,756 --> 00:14:01,018 turning into stuttering. 485 00:14:02,259 --> 00:14:05,020 Here we are at forty, still, you know, 486 00:14:05,140 --> 00:14:07,101 finally overcoming the stuttering. 487 00:14:07,822 --> 00:14:10,604 You get into where you're a 488 00:14:10,663 --> 00:14:12,024 phenomenal success at 489 00:14:12,125 --> 00:14:13,285 everything you touch. 490 00:14:13,806 --> 00:14:15,246 Sounds like you have a lot 491 00:14:15,287 --> 00:14:16,847 of faith that keeps you going. 492 00:14:17,662 --> 00:14:22,086 I would love to know, you know, was, 493 00:14:23,307 --> 00:14:25,769 was there a specific turning point? 494 00:14:25,870 --> 00:14:27,010 Was there, you know, 495 00:14:27,051 --> 00:14:30,053 when you were forty and 496 00:14:30,153 --> 00:14:32,576 overcoming the stuttering, was it, 497 00:14:34,097 --> 00:14:36,340 describe that point in your life. 498 00:14:36,860 --> 00:14:38,981 What was going on and how 499 00:14:39,022 --> 00:14:42,024 did you make that switch to 500 00:14:42,125 --> 00:14:42,885 overcome stuttering? 501 00:14:43,256 --> 00:14:44,498 Yeah, I guess at age forty, 502 00:14:44,638 --> 00:14:46,399 I'd poured myself out of 503 00:14:46,458 --> 00:14:48,100 like insecurity or trying 504 00:14:48,139 --> 00:14:49,961 to prove myself in business 505 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:52,543 to attain some pretty 506 00:14:52,582 --> 00:14:53,964 decent heights by that age. 507 00:14:54,764 --> 00:14:55,063 And 508 00:14:56,488 --> 00:14:58,849 And then I was like, it's hollow, right? 509 00:14:59,708 --> 00:15:03,509 And no matter what I attained, 510 00:15:04,051 --> 00:15:05,051 it was temporary, 511 00:15:05,370 --> 00:15:06,750 but it would not fill the 512 00:15:06,792 --> 00:15:07,831 void in my heart. 513 00:15:08,731 --> 00:15:10,352 And I realized through 514 00:15:10,393 --> 00:15:12,793 reading other books and building things, 515 00:15:13,293 --> 00:15:14,874 there's five things that matter, faith, 516 00:15:14,913 --> 00:15:16,855 family, fitness, finance, friends. 517 00:15:16,914 --> 00:15:19,475 And I call it faith or your lens, 518 00:15:19,755 --> 00:15:21,056 the center of a wheel, 519 00:15:21,076 --> 00:15:22,716 if you think about it that way. 520 00:15:23,481 --> 00:15:24,602 that really it's a lens I 521 00:15:24,643 --> 00:15:25,344 see the world through. 522 00:15:25,943 --> 00:15:27,645 So I either see the world 523 00:15:27,666 --> 00:15:29,226 through my insecurity, 524 00:15:29,706 --> 00:15:31,509 I see it through my lack, 525 00:15:32,308 --> 00:15:33,791 trying to prove myself to 526 00:15:33,850 --> 00:15:35,131 myself because I stuttered 527 00:15:35,152 --> 00:15:36,091 and wanted to overcome or 528 00:15:36,432 --> 00:15:37,474 prove all those people they 529 00:15:37,494 --> 00:15:38,575 shouldn't have teased me or 530 00:15:38,695 --> 00:15:39,475 I was a value. 531 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:42,460 And then when you flip it 532 00:15:42,620 --> 00:15:45,760 and become grateful for your setbacks, 533 00:15:45,801 --> 00:15:47,280 grateful for being teased, 534 00:15:47,341 --> 00:15:48,721 grateful for the pain, 535 00:15:49,302 --> 00:15:50,861 it's very empowering. 536 00:15:51,542 --> 00:15:52,782 And at the same time, 537 00:15:52,802 --> 00:15:56,283 it makes you more solid in 538 00:15:56,302 --> 00:15:57,482 your roots because you 539 00:15:57,523 --> 00:15:59,962 become less seeking 540 00:16:00,023 --> 00:16:01,884 external affirmation and 541 00:16:01,964 --> 00:16:04,624 more of just grateful for where you are. 542 00:16:05,283 --> 00:16:06,705 And I had a mother that was 543 00:16:06,745 --> 00:16:08,304 very prayerful. 544 00:16:08,945 --> 00:16:09,865 And she would say, Eric, 545 00:16:09,884 --> 00:16:11,184 there are two types of people. 546 00:16:11,905 --> 00:16:13,066 And I'm like, well, what's that, Mom? 547 00:16:13,125 --> 00:16:13,466 She said, 548 00:16:13,485 --> 00:16:15,405 there's those who are humble and 549 00:16:15,446 --> 00:16:16,966 those who are soon to be humble. 550 00:16:17,265 --> 00:16:19,267 I'm like, wow. 551 00:16:19,966 --> 00:16:20,846 Oh, my gosh. 552 00:16:20,947 --> 00:16:21,807 I love your mother. 553 00:16:21,826 --> 00:16:24,388 I'm going to steal that one. 554 00:16:24,908 --> 00:16:26,288 It's so true. 555 00:16:26,768 --> 00:16:28,528 Because when you become 556 00:16:29,187 --> 00:16:30,609 proud of yourself or proud 557 00:16:30,629 --> 00:16:31,729 of your accomplishments, 558 00:16:32,288 --> 00:16:34,428 it's not too long before you're humbled. 559 00:16:35,208 --> 00:16:36,590 And it says in the Bible, 560 00:16:36,649 --> 00:16:37,929 pride comes before a fall. 561 00:16:39,046 --> 00:16:40,306 And it's so true. 562 00:16:40,365 --> 00:16:41,846 And I've seen it in my life, you know, 563 00:16:41,886 --> 00:16:44,008 over and over again, but it's, it's, 564 00:16:44,347 --> 00:16:45,107 you know, there's not, 565 00:16:45,128 --> 00:16:46,008 there's nothing great 566 00:16:46,028 --> 00:16:47,469 accomplished by yourself 567 00:16:48,089 --> 00:16:49,349 and people who act like 568 00:16:49,369 --> 00:16:50,970 they attained it on their own. 569 00:16:51,429 --> 00:16:52,490 I think with a little bit of 570 00:16:52,590 --> 00:16:53,971 self reflection to realize 571 00:16:54,010 --> 00:16:55,150 that's probably not the case. 572 00:16:56,030 --> 00:16:56,471 Yes. 573 00:16:56,610 --> 00:16:57,292 Oh my gosh. 574 00:16:57,331 --> 00:16:59,192 That resonates so deeply. 575 00:16:59,272 --> 00:16:59,731 Right. 576 00:17:00,452 --> 00:17:03,453 And it's, it's just so important, you know, 577 00:17:03,553 --> 00:17:04,894 these lessons in life, 578 00:17:05,354 --> 00:17:06,755 something that you said was 579 00:17:06,974 --> 00:17:07,815 very profound. 580 00:17:09,352 --> 00:17:11,653 your heart wasn't full that 581 00:17:12,032 --> 00:17:13,193 your heart wasn't in it at 582 00:17:13,314 --> 00:17:14,173 one point in time you were 583 00:17:14,213 --> 00:17:15,315 lacking it sounds like 584 00:17:15,375 --> 00:17:17,895 fulfillment purpose part of 585 00:17:17,915 --> 00:17:19,396 that is did you have that 586 00:17:19,436 --> 00:17:20,416 relationship with your 587 00:17:20,457 --> 00:17:21,518 creator at that point 588 00:17:22,368 --> 00:17:22,489 Yeah, 589 00:17:22,568 --> 00:17:24,470 I accepted Christ at a young age and 590 00:17:24,529 --> 00:17:25,951 I followed him through high school. 591 00:17:26,030 --> 00:17:28,211 And then I followed success after that, 592 00:17:28,633 --> 00:17:29,272 after college. 593 00:17:29,452 --> 00:17:32,255 So I began to define my 594 00:17:32,414 --> 00:17:35,477 value as my outward 595 00:17:35,557 --> 00:17:39,699 accomplishments and not my inward self, 596 00:17:39,759 --> 00:17:40,019 right? 597 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:42,461 So if I could accomplish something, 598 00:17:42,641 --> 00:17:43,141 I would do it. 599 00:17:43,221 --> 00:17:44,261 And I would miss events. 600 00:17:44,301 --> 00:17:44,961 I would miss things that 601 00:17:45,001 --> 00:17:46,182 were otherwise important to me. 602 00:17:47,143 --> 00:17:49,345 And then I, in the way, along the way, 603 00:17:49,384 --> 00:17:50,684 I met a lot of very wealthy people. 604 00:17:50,704 --> 00:17:51,705 And what I did, I was, 605 00:17:52,921 --> 00:17:54,001 excuse me, finance, 606 00:17:54,021 --> 00:17:54,603 we're the financial 607 00:17:54,623 --> 00:17:55,503 professionals and working 608 00:17:55,523 --> 00:17:56,724 with high profile people 609 00:17:56,744 --> 00:17:59,228 and tech founders and on and on and on. 610 00:17:59,647 --> 00:18:00,388 And I was fortunate enough 611 00:18:00,409 --> 00:18:02,770 to be near some people in 612 00:18:02,830 --> 00:18:03,991 life-threatening situations 613 00:18:04,011 --> 00:18:05,134 or near death or they're 614 00:18:05,354 --> 00:18:06,394 sick or something happened. 615 00:18:07,115 --> 00:18:08,978 And I noticed that what they 616 00:18:09,038 --> 00:18:10,578 really seemed to want near 617 00:18:10,618 --> 00:18:12,641 them were people in their lives. 618 00:18:13,561 --> 00:18:16,064 And not all the time, but most of the time, 619 00:18:16,144 --> 00:18:17,365 those were the same people 620 00:18:17,404 --> 00:18:18,566 that they chose not to 621 00:18:18,605 --> 00:18:20,307 spend time with because 622 00:18:20,326 --> 00:18:22,167 they were pursuing success 623 00:18:22,888 --> 00:18:23,788 or what they thought was 624 00:18:23,828 --> 00:18:26,330 success or I was doing it for them. 625 00:18:26,431 --> 00:18:27,071 And you really are. 626 00:18:27,092 --> 00:18:28,413 You're doing it of your own insecurity, 627 00:18:28,432 --> 00:18:29,512 your own emptiness and your 628 00:18:29,614 --> 00:18:31,494 own search for significance. 629 00:18:32,328 --> 00:18:33,410 And you may want to help them too, 630 00:18:34,049 --> 00:18:34,630 but that's it. 631 00:18:34,690 --> 00:18:37,111 But in that case, it gave me, you know, 632 00:18:37,230 --> 00:18:39,332 a way to evaluate and see 633 00:18:39,772 --> 00:18:41,574 and learn from somebody else that, well, 634 00:18:41,614 --> 00:18:42,653 those were decisions and I 635 00:18:42,693 --> 00:18:43,555 hold this person in high 636 00:18:43,595 --> 00:18:44,414 esteem and they're very 637 00:18:44,474 --> 00:18:45,996 smart and driven and 638 00:18:46,195 --> 00:18:47,537 educated and successful. 639 00:18:48,297 --> 00:18:49,498 But at the end of the day, 640 00:18:49,538 --> 00:18:51,778 what they really want is relationship. 641 00:18:52,719 --> 00:18:54,279 And so how do you 642 00:18:55,030 --> 00:18:56,692 you know, know you have to pay the bills, 643 00:18:56,771 --> 00:18:57,932 know you have to do things, 644 00:18:57,972 --> 00:18:59,614 take care of your body, mind, soul, 645 00:18:59,634 --> 00:19:01,815 you know, relationship's very important. 646 00:19:02,415 --> 00:19:03,195 And when you look at 647 00:19:03,256 --> 00:19:04,856 longevity and people are 648 00:19:04,876 --> 00:19:07,318 talking about it's vegan, it's vegetarian, 649 00:19:07,398 --> 00:19:08,819 it's exercise, it's whatever, 650 00:19:08,839 --> 00:19:09,901 you look at the blue zones, 651 00:19:10,972 --> 00:19:11,713 around the world. 652 00:19:12,054 --> 00:19:13,015 And what they find among the 653 00:19:13,035 --> 00:19:14,675 people is there are people 654 00:19:14,736 --> 00:19:16,978 that eat almost mostly meat 655 00:19:16,998 --> 00:19:17,397 in their diet. 656 00:19:17,417 --> 00:19:18,679 There are people that eat 657 00:19:18,759 --> 00:19:20,201 mostly vegetables in their diet. 658 00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:21,882 There are people who drink 659 00:19:21,922 --> 00:19:23,903 wine and smoke cigarettes 660 00:19:24,023 --> 00:19:26,506 in their parts of Italy in the Blue Zone. 661 00:19:27,046 --> 00:19:27,886 And what they found out, 662 00:19:28,047 --> 00:19:31,789 the commonality is they all 663 00:19:31,829 --> 00:19:32,931 had a sense of purpose. 664 00:19:33,560 --> 00:19:35,342 They did light amount of exercise, 665 00:19:35,382 --> 00:19:35,781 gardening, 666 00:19:35,821 --> 00:19:36,981 or some kind of walking around. 667 00:19:37,342 --> 00:19:38,202 But what's interesting is 668 00:19:38,242 --> 00:19:39,742 they were all in relationship. 669 00:19:39,782 --> 00:19:40,743 They were in a community and 670 00:19:40,763 --> 00:19:41,644 had a sense of purpose. 671 00:19:42,183 --> 00:19:44,404 So longevity is important. 672 00:19:45,026 --> 00:19:46,586 And I've heard it said that 673 00:19:46,605 --> 00:19:50,667 if you put someone and isolate somebody, 674 00:19:50,708 --> 00:19:51,708 no matter what age they are, 675 00:19:52,208 --> 00:19:52,949 it halves their life 676 00:19:52,969 --> 00:19:54,868 expectancy because now 677 00:19:54,909 --> 00:19:55,529 they're no longer in 678 00:19:55,609 --> 00:19:57,289 relationship and it becomes 679 00:19:57,309 --> 00:19:58,250 a very difficult and a very 680 00:19:58,290 --> 00:19:58,810 different life. 681 00:20:00,068 --> 00:20:01,369 Oh, so much wisdom there. 682 00:20:01,569 --> 00:20:03,351 You hit on two points that I 683 00:20:03,371 --> 00:20:04,030 want to touch on. 684 00:20:04,310 --> 00:20:07,873 One is, you know, a lot of high performers, 685 00:20:08,032 --> 00:20:09,192 myself included, right? 686 00:20:09,252 --> 00:20:11,835 I've been guilty of this in the past. 687 00:20:13,355 --> 00:20:15,796 The reliance on external 688 00:20:15,836 --> 00:20:17,817 validation for approval. 689 00:20:18,337 --> 00:20:20,638 Huge, Eric, huge, huge, huge. 690 00:20:20,959 --> 00:20:21,159 Oh, yeah. 691 00:20:21,692 --> 00:20:22,113 You know, 692 00:20:22,752 --> 00:20:24,394 recently I heard something that 693 00:20:24,773 --> 00:20:28,015 totally cured that for me 694 00:20:28,055 --> 00:20:29,816 because it has been a 695 00:20:29,875 --> 00:20:30,996 problem for a long time. 696 00:20:31,796 --> 00:20:33,037 What cured it for me is I 697 00:20:33,076 --> 00:20:35,317 heard somebody say that if 698 00:20:35,376 --> 00:20:37,758 you seek external validation or approval, 699 00:20:38,038 --> 00:20:39,137 it's idol worship. 700 00:20:39,739 --> 00:20:41,058 Never thought about it like that. 701 00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:44,180 It's true. 702 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:45,680 And I never thought about it. 703 00:20:45,880 --> 00:20:47,441 And that certainly cured me. 704 00:20:47,980 --> 00:20:50,741 So now that's my permanent check, right? 705 00:20:52,094 --> 00:20:52,914 But you're right. 706 00:20:53,035 --> 00:20:56,196 It's seeking of the purpose, 707 00:20:56,237 --> 00:20:57,777 aligning with your purpose, 708 00:20:58,278 --> 00:21:00,019 doing things collaboratively, 709 00:21:00,078 --> 00:21:01,058 like you're talking about 710 00:21:01,138 --> 00:21:03,259 community over competition. 711 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,020 How can we work together? 712 00:21:05,101 --> 00:21:06,902 How can we unify? 713 00:21:07,082 --> 00:21:08,323 Right. 714 00:21:08,702 --> 00:21:09,884 It's all important. 715 00:21:10,003 --> 00:21:11,904 And I like what you said, too, that. 716 00:21:12,361 --> 00:21:15,406 Rare, very rarely does somebody, you know, 717 00:21:15,426 --> 00:21:16,588 get to the top by 718 00:21:16,628 --> 00:21:18,132 themselves for themselves. 719 00:21:18,712 --> 00:21:20,476 They usually have people 720 00:21:20,516 --> 00:21:21,699 helping them along the way. 721 00:21:21,739 --> 00:21:22,861 It's so powerful, right? 722 00:21:23,253 --> 00:21:23,993 No, it's so true. 723 00:21:24,054 --> 00:21:24,535 It's so true. 724 00:21:24,595 --> 00:21:27,977 It's just, it's, it's, it's, you know, 725 00:21:28,037 --> 00:21:29,758 you need people, you need relationships, 726 00:21:29,978 --> 00:21:30,798 you're not going to be good 727 00:21:30,817 --> 00:21:31,419 at everything. 728 00:21:32,159 --> 00:21:34,641 And, you know, if you, you know, 729 00:21:34,661 --> 00:21:35,881 attack things as a team or 730 00:21:35,921 --> 00:21:37,521 think as a team and realize that, 731 00:21:37,701 --> 00:21:40,223 you know, most of life is, is, 732 00:21:40,463 --> 00:21:42,384 is more about giving than receiving, 733 00:21:43,065 --> 00:21:43,865 it makes things a lot 734 00:21:43,945 --> 00:21:45,066 easier and you keep score a 735 00:21:45,086 --> 00:21:45,686 lot differently. 736 00:21:46,424 --> 00:21:47,727 I love that. 737 00:21:47,747 --> 00:21:48,267 Well, Eric, 738 00:21:48,508 --> 00:21:51,391 where can we find you and learn 739 00:21:51,431 --> 00:21:53,453 more about you and research 740 00:21:53,473 --> 00:21:55,936 your book and understand 741 00:21:56,136 --> 00:21:57,519 everything that you're doing these days? 742 00:21:58,035 --> 00:21:59,516 Yeah, one of you can go. 743 00:21:59,576 --> 00:22:01,696 I have a website called ericweir.com. 744 00:22:01,737 --> 00:22:03,238 It's here in the bottom. 745 00:22:03,617 --> 00:22:04,479 You can go there. 746 00:22:04,538 --> 00:22:05,479 I have a book called Who's 747 00:22:05,519 --> 00:22:07,240 Eating Your Pie that's on Amazon. 748 00:22:07,759 --> 00:22:10,701 It's easily findable there 749 00:22:10,761 --> 00:22:11,843 and audible as well. 750 00:22:12,423 --> 00:22:13,743 And one of my favorite 751 00:22:14,203 --> 00:22:16,085 chapters happens to be the first chapter, 752 00:22:16,565 --> 00:22:17,605 and it's Permission to Dream. 753 00:22:18,365 --> 00:22:22,349 And most people have been down and out, 754 00:22:22,990 --> 00:22:24,451 and they're down on themselves, 755 00:22:24,471 --> 00:22:26,393 their relationships, or down financially, 756 00:22:26,613 --> 00:22:28,094 you know, in any type of way. 757 00:22:28,615 --> 00:22:29,336 And they haven't given 758 00:22:29,355 --> 00:22:30,355 themselves permission to dream. 759 00:22:30,375 --> 00:22:31,657 But if you think about it, 760 00:22:32,317 --> 00:22:33,538 you ask a ten-year-old child, 761 00:22:33,558 --> 00:22:34,480 I'm going to be an astronaut. 762 00:22:34,500 --> 00:22:36,260 I'm going to be a dentist. 763 00:22:36,300 --> 00:22:37,762 I'm going to be a doctor. 764 00:22:38,182 --> 00:22:39,384 You ask them in college what 765 00:22:39,403 --> 00:22:40,124 they're going to be. 766 00:22:40,144 --> 00:22:41,243 It gets smaller. 767 00:22:41,263 --> 00:22:42,065 I'm going to do this. 768 00:22:42,944 --> 00:22:43,565 Smaller dreams. 769 00:22:43,585 --> 00:22:44,846 You ask them when they're forty five. 770 00:22:45,326 --> 00:22:46,405 I just want to sleep and 771 00:22:46,685 --> 00:22:47,767 maybe have a warm meal. 772 00:22:47,807 --> 00:22:48,027 Right. 773 00:22:48,487 --> 00:22:48,747 So. 774 00:22:49,407 --> 00:22:50,347 So the idea is, 775 00:22:50,528 --> 00:22:53,068 is we we forget to dream 776 00:22:54,009 --> 00:22:55,609 and we don't give ourselves permission. 777 00:22:55,650 --> 00:22:57,010 So my first chapter is give 778 00:22:57,030 --> 00:22:59,451 yourself permission to dream again. 779 00:22:59,471 --> 00:23:00,912 Give yourself permission to 780 00:23:00,951 --> 00:23:01,913 start over again. 781 00:23:02,373 --> 00:23:03,692 And every day is a gift. 782 00:23:04,173 --> 00:23:05,534 And if you look at life that way, 783 00:23:06,233 --> 00:23:07,634 it's a great start to each day. 784 00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:09,080 I love that. 785 00:23:09,241 --> 00:23:10,284 I always say, you know, 786 00:23:10,763 --> 00:23:12,547 bookend your day with gratitude. 787 00:23:12,626 --> 00:23:14,309 So the first thing, you know, 788 00:23:14,490 --> 00:23:15,653 when you wake up in the morning, 789 00:23:16,433 --> 00:23:17,234 say a prayer, 790 00:23:17,255 --> 00:23:18,116 say an expression of 791 00:23:18,156 --> 00:23:19,940 gratitude because it is a lottery. 792 00:23:20,509 --> 00:23:22,830 We're lucky, so lucky every single day. 793 00:23:23,411 --> 00:23:23,771 No question. 794 00:23:23,791 --> 00:23:25,613 And then before you go to bed at night, 795 00:23:25,692 --> 00:23:25,932 again, 796 00:23:25,992 --> 00:23:27,515 bookend your day with gratitude and 797 00:23:27,575 --> 00:23:28,655 expression for the day. 798 00:23:29,516 --> 00:23:30,636 You do that long enough, 799 00:23:30,676 --> 00:23:31,758 you'll change your life. 800 00:23:31,857 --> 00:23:33,019 No doubt about it. 801 00:23:33,118 --> 00:23:33,439 It does. 802 00:23:33,459 --> 00:23:34,440 There have been studies. 803 00:23:34,500 --> 00:23:36,102 It's like going to a gym and working out. 804 00:23:36,162 --> 00:23:37,482 If I work out one day, 805 00:23:37,502 --> 00:23:38,262 there's no difference. 806 00:23:38,323 --> 00:23:38,824 I work out. 807 00:23:39,644 --> 00:23:41,525 a week, a little bit, thirty days, 808 00:23:41,545 --> 00:23:42,464 I start to notice it. 809 00:23:42,586 --> 00:23:43,445 A year later, 810 00:23:43,925 --> 00:23:44,767 and you can transform your 811 00:23:44,787 --> 00:23:46,366 body and you don't realize it, 812 00:23:46,386 --> 00:23:47,107 but it happens. 813 00:23:47,127 --> 00:23:48,028 It's the same thing with 814 00:23:48,067 --> 00:23:49,909 gratitude or thankfulness 815 00:23:49,969 --> 00:23:52,609 or just being purposeful in life. 816 00:23:52,650 --> 00:23:53,911 I love that. 817 00:23:54,530 --> 00:23:56,192 Well, thank you so much, Eric, 818 00:23:56,211 --> 00:23:58,313 for being a fantastic guest on this show. 819 00:23:58,393 --> 00:23:59,373 And thank you for everyone 820 00:23:59,413 --> 00:24:01,233 who tuned into this episode. 821 00:24:01,634 --> 00:24:03,595 Guys, don't forget to like, subscribe, 822 00:24:03,615 --> 00:24:05,096 share and leave a review. 823 00:24:05,750 --> 00:24:07,433 We are topping the charts in 824 00:24:07,513 --> 00:24:08,756 personal development and 825 00:24:08,796 --> 00:24:10,178 self-improvement podcasts, 826 00:24:10,519 --> 00:24:12,461 and we can't do it without your support. 827 00:24:12,922 --> 00:24:15,145 So don't forget to subscribe, like, share, 828 00:24:15,185 --> 00:24:15,826 leave a review, 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