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Andy: You're listening to
The Secure Dad Podcast.

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Discover ways to protect yourself and
your family at home in public and online.

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Welcome friend.

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I'm Andy Murphy, the
creator of The Secure Dad.

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This podcast serves to help people
become proactive in their safety.

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The information I share on this podcast
is for general information purposes only.

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My goal is to empower you to make safer
decisions for yourself and your family.

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Because our safety is
our own responsibility.

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Today is episode number 298.

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And I'm going to share a story with
you that helped me realize how ready

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my son was for a real emergency.

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I'll share what I learned and
what you can pass on to your kids.

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So there I was, laying on my back,
staring up at the ceiling of my garage.

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My foot was still resting in the
ladder that I had just been on.

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I looked up at my son and I asked
him, "So what do you do now?"

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It was a summer morning and my son and
I were doing some work around the house.

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I forget why we were in the garage,
but I would soon learn that this

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simple chore was going to be
an eye, eye-opening experience.

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for the both of us.

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I was working on a ladder, again I don't
remember why, and my son accidentally

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bumped into it or shook it or something.

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But I suddenly felt like I was going
to fall off and I was very concerned

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that I was going to fall six feet and
hit the concrete that was below me.

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Now, thankfully, that didn't happen.

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I was able to stay on the ladder.

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You know that rush of emotions
and adrenaline you get

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when you have a near miss?

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Maybe like you spotted a snake before
you stepped too close, or you got out

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of the way of a bad driver in traffic?

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Well, I had that feeling.

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Many times this leads to either
anger or rage, so that we as humans

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can dissipate all of that emotion
and all of that adrenaline that we

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just experienced, because we just,
we just experienced something scary.

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Now thankfully, I have the thought
in the midst of all of this.

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What if I had fallen?

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Would my son have known what to do?

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And it was at this point that I realized
that we had a great learning opportunity.

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Now I didn't get mad at all.

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I decided to turn all of that
energy into something and

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channel it to be something good.

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So after a couple of minutes, I
explained to my son that we were

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going to have a scenario and I was
going to quiz him on what to do.

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So I layed down on the floor of
the garage and I told him, I'm not

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moving and you can't wake me up.

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So what do you do?

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Now immediately he said, I'll call 911.

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Perfect.

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Great start.

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So then I asked, "How do you do that?"

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And then he paused.

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And I could see the wheels
turning in his young mind.

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While he knew that calling 911 was the
right answer, he really didn't know

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what to do next to facilitate that.

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Now, many parents today think that their
kids will know what to do in an emergency

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because you feel like you would have known
what to do in an emergency back in, you

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know, the 1900s when we were growing up.

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But unless we test our kids and we
teach them, we really don't know.

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We can tell kids call 911, but do
they really know how to do that?

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Can they get your smartphone out of your
pocket and make that emergency call?

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We can't assume that
they know how to do that.

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So, in my scenario, my son didn't
know how to dial our home phone.

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And yes, we do have a home
phone, and you'll understand

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why here in a few minutes.

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Now, we rarely use it, and we only
really have it for situations for

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emergencies so that he can use a phone.

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So I told him to go get
the phone and come back.

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When he returned I took the battery pack
out of the phone so that it wouldn't

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work and I handed it back to him.

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And then I told him, I
want you to dial 911.

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So he activated the phone, he dialed 911
and he again, the battery pack was out.

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So after he had dialed all the numbers,
I went into my cheesy announcer voice.

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Thank you for calling 911.

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For police, press 1.

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For fire, press 2.

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For medical emergencies, press 3.

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Now my son frequently looks at
me like I have lost my mind,

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and this was one of them.

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So he pressed 3.

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And then I took on the
role of the 911 operator.

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And I said, 911, please
state your emergency.

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He said, my dad fell off a
ladder and I can't wake him up.

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Okay, can you tell me your address?

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He gives the address.

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I've got an ambulance on the way,
can you tell me what happened?

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So then he goes in and
he describes a scenario.

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Then I said, okay, sweetie, can
you stay on the line with me

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until the ambulance arrives?

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And let me tell you the amount of
side eye he was giving me for calling

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him sweetie while lying on the floor
of the garage was really strong.

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He knew that this was ridiculous,
but he was playing along with it.

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And he was learning.

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He was getting it.

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At this point, I ask him what
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the EMTs could get to me.

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In our case, he was just simply
going to open up the garage

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door, which is what he did.

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So now, the garage door is up and
all the neighbors can see me lying

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on the floor of my garage with
my son, doing a fake 911 call.

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And I'm not used to being the
weird family on the street.

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But there we were.

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At this point, I told him
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and the scenario was over.

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Before I got up, I asked him if he
could even get my smartphone out of my

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pocket in case there was a situation
that we found ourselves in where that

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was the only phone that he could get to.

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Now, it was a struggle, but he got to it.

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And then I showed him how to make
an emergency call on an iPhone,

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and I suggest that everybody
teach their kids how to do that.

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So before I got up, I told him
to notice that nobody else in the

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neighborhood was coming to help.

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None of our neighbors had
seen what had happened.

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And it was up to him to step up
and act in this emergency scenario.

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We went over a few variations of the
scenario about how he would let the

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ambulance crew inside if we were inside
our home when the accident happened,

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like not out in the garage, how he would
open the door and all that sort of stuff.

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So, you, if you've been a long time
listener of the show, you may remember

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that on another summer day a few years
back, I had a really bad cut on my foot.

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It was a freak accident.

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It was very strange.

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You can go back and listen
to the episode if you want.

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But, my son helped me with my
emergency first aid kit, and he

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got to see me work the problem.

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I ended up going to urgent care because
I couldn't get the bleeding to stop, and

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I ended up getting stitches on a toe.

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But I was calm, and I was
collected, and so was he.

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He was a little nervous,
but he didn't get scared.

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He couldn't have run off, and he didn't.

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He stayed with me, and he
helped me work the problem.

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Don't miss the chance to teach your
kids how to respond to an emergency.

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While we want to think that we'll always
be there to protect them, the fact is that

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that's not always going to be the case.

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If everything goes to plan, our
kids will become young adults and

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adults with families of their own.

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I think too often parents in my
generation are just trying to do

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everything they can so that their
kids don't feel pain or discomfort.

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But pain and discomfort built us.

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That's why we're here.

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That's why we're doing the
things that we're doing.

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And we need to let our kids
experience that as well.

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Our kids may one day need to
be the person who saves a life.

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We need them to learn from us how to
protect themselves, how to act when things

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go wrong, and what needs to be done.

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Kids can be very helpful preparing
for emergencies like storms

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or other natural disasters.

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I've often said to give your kids
a few tasks that they can do to

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prepare for things like hurricanes.

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Kids can gather flashlights, food, and
then pack games in the emergency kit

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so the family can have a distraction
while everything is going on around

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them, while they ride out the storm.

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As they get older, give them more
responsibilities and explain why

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you're doing what you're doing.

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Now, as I demonstrated in my story with
my son today, kids can call for help.

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Show them how to dial 911.

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Share with them the types of
emergencies that might happen in

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their home, like a medical episode,
a fire, any other unforeseen event.

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What you don't want to happen
is when it matters most, your

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kids do not know what to do.

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You do not want them to freeze.

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In one of my many wonderful conversations
with self defense expert Randy King, he

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described freezing as the brain searching
for information on what to do next.

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But there's nothing there.

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And that's why the
prolonged freeze happens.

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While our kids may freeze up in a fight
or flight process, we don't want it to

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be prolonged and we don't want it to
be because they don't know what to do.

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We want them to snap to remember, Oh wait.

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I've seen something like this before.

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This is what I need to do.

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That's where we want them to be.

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And of course, we can't create
garage scenarios for every

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situation that they may face.

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But the next time you see a
problem, don't let it go to waste.

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Talk about it and discuss what
you did or what you would need to

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do in that particular situation.

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And don't just talk at
them, really discuss it.

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Ask questions, answer questions, and
do your best to help them understand.

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One day, when we are not around,
they are going to need these

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skills to save their lives.

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Just make sure they are
thankful that you taught them.

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Well, that's all that I have for
The Secure Dad Podcast for today.

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I'm Andy Murphy reminding you that
our safety is our own responsibility.