Josh (04:18.103) Titus, great to have you here. For those of you who don't know who you are, you're kind of a big deal. I mean, you've been featured on ESPN, on TMZ, in Muscle and Fitness, Daily Mail, AARP.
You've got hundreds of thousands of people who follow you on the internet, through Instagram, Facebook, and other social channels. And you're all into health and fitness, and you've been either a self-proclaimed or a nominated member of the Silver Fox Club. Is that right?
Titusunlimited (04:56.607) I'm one of the founding members, yes.
Josh (04:59.119) I love that. So what is the Silver Fox Club? Tell me about that.
Titusunlimited (05:02.062) We're just a bunch of older guys that basically want to set the example of aging gracefully and not necessarily aging gracefully like how people normally do, but understanding that life is not over after you cross 40 or 50. As a matter of fact, a lot of us launched into a whole new career and whole new possibilities after 50.
by just embracing the opportunities that life brought to us as opposed to staying stagnant. You know, and like I said, we just reach out for new experiences and realize that we had a lot more, not only to gain, but to offer. So that's what the Silver Fox Squad tries to represent. Gentlemen still living their best life and making an impact and inspiring people to do the same.
Josh (05:51.171) I love that. I'm all about that. I mean, I'm nowhere near the Silver Fox yet, but one day I'll be like you when I grow up. I promise that much. Well, fingers crossed, right? The Silver Fox Club. Have you ever watched Ted Lasso?
Titusunlimited (05:58.233) Hopefully you'll be better.
Titusunlimited (06:06.14) Oh, yeah, I think so. Yeah, the name sounds familiar.
Josh (06:09.563) It's a great show on Apple TV, but Jason Sudeikis, the soccer coach, and he and a bunch of guys started the Diamond Dogs Club where a bunch of dudes get around, they talk about love and girls and all the things, and just had the same kind of passion in their voice as the Diamond Dogs.
Titusunlimited (06:24.366) Ha ha ha ha.
Josh (06:26.867) So Titus, you are kind of a man when it comes to, like you said, aging gracefully, the health and fitness world, and there's so many aspects. So as you know, we focus a lot around gut health in this podcast, but it's not just about what to do for your gut. It's all about the contributing factors, causes and effects, and things that correlate to the gut or caused by the gut or things that cause deficiencies in the gut. And so you had mentioned about the problems and root causes that start to degrade.
Can you walk me through those three things that are at the core of health for you that influence gut and can be influenced by your gut?
Titusunlimited (07:00.118) Well, yeah, like I indicated, and first of all, thank you for having me. But like I indicated, uh, the three primary root causes of 95% of our dis-eases and disorders are going to be chronic inflammation, nutritional deficiencies, and exposure to toxins. If you check behind just about every single dis-ease or problem that you're going to have, it's going to have a root.
Josh (07:04.171) It's my pleasure.
Titusunlimited (07:29.422) cause in one of those three or all of those three things. All right. And if you want to heal the human body, right, the fix is going to be pretty much very simple. Number one, stop eating the foods that are causing you issues. Okay. It sounds like common sense, but you know, so many people come to me, and especially in our society right now, the first thing people ask is, what can I take?
What can I take? What can I take? And the approach that most people should have is, well, there's something in your lifestyle as it is that has caused this problem. Let's find that first. Okay? Before you start taking stuff, let's find what's causing the problem, if it's apparent, and remove it. All right? Because if you're taking stuff but you haven't removed the root cause or addressed the root cause of the problem, well, it just keeps happening over and over.
All right, so that's the first thing. Find the root cause. The next thing is clean and cleanse the system. Okay. You know, a lot of people have gut health issues and the first thing they wanna do is take something. Well, number one, find what's causing your issue. When you stop taking it, the residue of that stuff that has been in your system, you have to clean and clear that out. Okay. It's almost like a house with asbestos in it, you know.
You find asbestos in the house, okay, that's what's causing your breathing problem. Remove the asbestos that's apparent. Then you have to now come and clean out all the asbestos dust and all that kind of stuff like that before you can come back into that house. And then when you come back into that house, you then need to do certain things. You need to change your diet, all right? So that now we're fixing whatever nutritional deficiencies that were present, okay? And then when you do stuff like that,
you're hydrating properly, you're moving your body properly, you're eating properly, then we can look for something that you may be able to take to aid your progress. But a lot of times people look at supplements as a main fix and supplements are not. Supplements are just that, they're just to supplement what it is that you're doing. Supplement, okay? Not do it, they're there to supplement what you're doing. And if you don't do it in that order, why? You wind up popping a whole bunch of pills and going from this thing to this thing to this thing while the root problem remains.
Josh (09:55.775) So supplements effectively really become no different than taking medication. I mean, there are so many people who deal with severe gut disease like ulcerative colitis who are having bowel movements 30 times a day, sometimes more, which is obviously a major problem. But when we look in the Western world, they say, well, it's autoimmune. Take these drugs for 10 years and we'll cut out your colon. And sometimes, yeah, there's autoimmunity, but autoimmunity doesn't just drop out of the sky and fall on your head. The question is, what caused enough of a trigger to stimulate inflammation?
to overclock your immune system, to cause the autoimmune dysfunction, and what, like you said, what toxicity, what residues are left that you now need to clean and cleanse before you can do the next steps. And I get asked all the time, what supplements can I take for my IBD? What supplements can I take for this issue? But there's a trigger, there's always a route, and it's no different than taking a medication to mask a cause. I've got arthritis, well, here's ibuprofen. Well, what's causing the inflammation that's manifesting in your joints? I love it.
Titusunlimited (10:52.718) But so a lot of times, I remember I was having a conversation with someone and I said autoimmune disease is a code word for doctors. Like, we don't know what the hell is going on. That's just code word. We don't know what's going on. We don't know what's causing it. Autoimmune. Well, let's assume that this was something that was part of you, right? You wouldn't have flare ups. Okay? You wouldn't have flare ups. You know, it would just be there.
Okay, it would just be there. Okay. But when you have flare ups, that means there's something you're introducing into your body at those times that's causing that thing to flare up where your body is saying, come on, man, you're doing it again. Okay. You'd need to find that thing as you said. All right. Now, when you remove that thing, and a lot of times with autoimmune diseases, uh, we all have different sensitivities. Okay. That's why when you hear a, uh, a pharmaceutical commercial,
It lists 15 different side effects. Okay? You and I take the same drug, you will have three that I won't have. Okay? That doesn't mean it's not happening silently. That doesn't mean it's still not jacking me up, but it's gonna present differently. And that's what a lot of your autoimmune disease, and that's why you see a lot of people who have been successful at solving autoimmune problems and or gut problems. What's the first thing they do?
They remove all those things from their diet and they effectively cleanse the residue. Okay. And sometimes they do it with doing a cleanse or they do it over time by eating clean. Right. The second part, it takes a little longer, but it's just as effective or it's, it's, but a lot of people just don't have the patience for it. And then their body comes back to some kind of normalcy, right. Because you don't have, as you said, those triggers, you don't have that thing triggering you, and then you can look at things like.
the tumor and things like that, that'll help, you know, with, with, with, with inflammation and what have you in the gut lining, but not unless and not until.
Josh (12:58.575) See, it's really interesting when you look at the root causes of things because there really is a mentality in America, it's what pill can I take? I think we've been conditioned, like take a pill, take a supplement, even everything from weight loss to gut health to headaches, there's always a pill for it. And it really is quite literally, not just anecdotally speaking, but quite literally a toxic problem. It creates toxicity in the body, but it's toxic to our health and our society long term for the habits. And you get these pharmaceutical drugs.
get side effects like for anti-diarrheal side effects or diarrhea or constipation or increased gut disease or migraines or loss of penis. And I'm like, I'd rather avoid some of those things, you know. And so what is your number one recommendation to somebody who's going through and trying to figure out the root causes? They don't know what to eliminate, but you deal with a very broad spectrum of topics. So if I come to you, I'm 45 years old, say I've got three kids and a dog at home who just is a
Titusunlimited (13:35.63) I'm going to go ahead and close the video.
Josh (13:53.995) I'm not being obnoxious, I'm stressed all the time, I'm eating food on the go, I'm making sandwiches, just trying to cram things in and I can't figure out my food triggers. What recommendations do you give someone in those types of situations to begin improving their health the simplest, fastest, most applicable way possible?
Titusunlimited (14:10.206) Okay, simple menu. If it did not exist in the exact form that you're eating it now in 1900, don't eat it.
Josh (14:24.167) If Grandma doesn't know what it is.
Titusunlimited (14:24.35) It did not exist in the exact same form as it did in 1900. Don't eat it.
Don't eat it. All right? By and large, I think avocados are the same. By and large, I think wild caught fish will be the same. By and large, I think a lot of your other fruit and veggies and things like that will be the same. Stick to the things that are exactly the same. Anything that has a list of ingredients, don't eat it. Because those things didn't exist in 1900. Okay? They just didn't.
Josh (14:38.227) That's simple.
Titusunlimited (15:05.074) And you will bring your body back to a certain level of normalcy because all those things that you will be eating with things will be things actually of nature. All right. Then the next thing is, uh, but, but a lot of times when people come to me, um, one of the, one of the reasons why I, I, I, I, I'm able to help a lot of people is we talk more, not just about what they're eating, but also, well, what happened, why did you start doing that? When does this happen? So one of the things I ask people.
If you came to me and say, well, I want to lose weight. I feel horrible. Right now, I weigh 245 pounds. I have this, I have that, this, I have that. I said, so what's your goal? What is your goal weight? And you say, well, I want to be 175. I'm going to say, OK, great. When was the last time you were 175? And then you find that they were 175 maybe five years ago. So when you were 175 five years ago, what happened?
And then you start to find out about all the stressors, the death in the family or the loss of the job or they got married, they had kids, they stopped working out, all these different things. Okay, and when you were doing these things, what were the things you started to eat? But then also sometimes you look and you realize that it was a combination of things. Not only did they have stressors, but their body changed, all right? Like always. Exactly, it's never just one thing, okay? It's never just one thing. And...
Josh (16:26.699) It's like Death by a Thousand Cuts.
Titusunlimited (16:33.827) And sometimes people try to make
everything about weight loss. Okay. But a lot of times when you see someone that is overweight, it's more than just
somebody that eats too much. There's somebody that's under stress, somebody that's dealing with issues in an unhealthy way, somebody that may be trying their best but just doesn't understand what they're doing. All right? And so when you delve down into the problems, the why are you doing this? When did this start? How fast did this happen? What was going on during that period of time when it was happening? All those things answer and paint a better picture of how we got here. Because if you don't know how you got here,
It's very difficult to be able to sell somebody how to get back to where you want to be. All right. It's very difficult. All right. And then people tend to then use excuses. I talked to one lady one time and you know, for the last 10, 15 years, she was blaming the fact that she had a kid on the reason why she was 70 pounds overweight. But through asking a few questions, I got her to acknowledge that after you had the kid actually went back to normal weight.
And you were there for six months, but it was only after your divorce that then you started to gain the weight. So your kid wasn't your problem. Okay. Cause you went back to normal weight, but some other things happened and those things were a product of choice. Okay. Some people get depressed. They eat a lot. Somebody else gets depressed. They stop eating. Both of them are not wise.
Titusunlimited (18:15.222) But both of them are also a choice, and they could always have made a different choice. And once you can own the choices that you make, that means you can change them. Once you become aware of them, whether it's food or actions.
Josh (18:31.747) It really does become a bit of an autobiographical post-mortem, doesn't it? You got to go back to your history, dissect your life, figure things out, go back to the root causes, determining factors. And I think that's something we often miss because, like you said, we can really easily pin it on the here and now. We can go, well, I had a baby or well, I had this going on and this is why I'm this way. But once you start dissecting the details, there were gaps where things were normal and healthy. It was these stressors. It was the life altering changes. It was moving countries and losing a job.
or something else that caused this stress, which led to compensating through increased food, or it's led to decreased digestive function, stomach acid production, which led to dysbiosis, bacterial imbalance, which led to gut disease, which led to doctor's visits, which led to more stress, which led to more food, and now the cycle continues. And it really does take some diving and some self-reflection.
Titusunlimited (19:23.046) And like I said, when you delve in and you start to get acknowledgement of where it started, people are more capable of diagnosing their own stuff than you are. But you got to help them out. You got to take them back. You got to say, okay, that situation wasn't just something that was innocuous. There was something there. So what was it? Well, what were you thinking when that happened? Why is that? You know, I remember I had...
you know, someone blame an abusive relationship for their issue, right? And, you know, I had to ask, you know, and we all know that these relationships are not fun, these relationships are not good, but I had to ask a serious question. I said, was there any point in time in the relationship where you were ever tied up and made to eat?
Titusunlimited (20:19.658) And the answer was no. And then she tried to say, but I said, no, but you were never tied up and made to eat. So just as easily as you or eight, you could have under eight. It was a choice. And the moment you seize the power back of the responsibility that you have, the accountability that you have, that you made a choice, right? You can't change that choice, but what you can acknowledge is that it was the choice was yours and now you can make a.
choice, a better choice, then you can move forward without blaming something in the past, something that was outside of your control.
Josh (20:59.371) So that's something that I'd really love to dive into with you because we use the word blaming and I realize there's a lot of people who are listening to this call who can be offended by that. And I'm not one who really cares about people's feelings. I'm like, these are the facts. This is the way it is. We can choose to take it or not. But let's talk a bit about that. We talk about having power over your choices and that does take a large amount of responsibility and ownership. Like being the CEO of a company, if somebody publishes something.
that makes you look bad or makes the company look bad, the CEO takes the blame, even though they didn't do it directly themselves. In much the same way, there are a lot of circumstances in our world, in our life that will alter our circumstance, but it's our choice to own that and take precedence over making those changes in the right direction. So what steps would you give somebody who might be battling with this, well, I can't help it, or well, there's somebody else's fault, or well, my boss at work is just this way. What steps would you give someone?
who's looking for a way to gain control over the life who feels out of control right now.
Titusunlimited (21:58.41) Well, I would do just like I did with the person that I was talking about in a relationship. We're going to break it down to a simple minute incident. You had a bad day. You had an argument. You were yelled at. Right? You were yelled at. You felt bad. At that point, you made some kind of action. And that action was you went and grabbed a tub of ice cream and you ate it. And you did that.
over 30 times throughout the course of a year. Okay, I know someone who had the same situation and when that happened they put on their their their sneakers and they ran five miles each time. And if you're not willing to acknowledge that each time you made a choice, right, then you can't move forward because you will never gain the power that's necessary.
When the next stressor comes to make a different choice, because you will be, it's easy. It's well, look, it's always easier to blame someone else. All right. And don't get me wrong. By no means am I saying, making the right choices are easy, but they're still, it's still your responsibility to do those things. And if you don't do it, guess what? Five weeks, five months, five years, this conversation will happen either with me.
What was someone else or yourself that you made a choice and the consequences will not dodge you just because you want to blame someone else. It will, you will still face the consequences. So it boils down to, Hey, you want to deal with it now? You want to deal with it later. Okay. Because at, at still, it is still going well. There's somebody else's fault is still going to be your responsibility. And the sooner you own it, right. The sooner you can move to the next step, which is fixing it.
Josh (23:57.271) There's a really interesting quote I was just trying to find who had said it, but something along the lines of, if you make easy choices, your life will be hard. If you make the hard choices, your life will be easy.
Titusunlimited (24:07.146) The quote is, excuses make today easy, but tomorrow hard. Right? I don't always laugh. There's nothing in this world that's original. So I've seen it. I've seen it attributed to so many people, but it's such an easy thing. It's true. You know, excuses makes today easy and tomorrow hard. That's it. Right? However, the hard choices make today hard. But guess what? It makes tomorrow a lot easier.
Josh (24:15.449) Who said that?
Josh (24:21.715) That's true.
Josh (24:30.891) Absolutely.
Josh (24:37.907) You know, on a really small scale, one of the things that I got a little habit of doing in my early twenties, I was a paramedic was my first career. And sometimes when the phone rings, you have to go, you have to go. And so you just get up. And I kind of applied that experience to my life where I get up in the morning for work, my alarm goes, I'm like, I could snooze. But if I snooze, my body re-engages all the sleep cycles and the rest of my day sucks. I'm groggy. I'm in a bad mood. My appetite's off, my energy's off. I miss my workout. But if I just buck up and go, okay.
it's time to get up and make that hard choice. The rest of my day feels amazing. And that's such a minute detail that makes such a difference in your day, but it's that compounding effect. And so what we're dealing with these hard choices, it really is the hard choices that make life easy. I love it.
Titusunlimited (25:20.972) I mean, I wake up at the same time every day, whether it's the weekend or not, because my body doesn't know what Friday or Saturday, Sunday or Tuesday is. It's just no sunrise, sunset. Did you eat? Did you drink? You know, that's it. It doesn't care whether or not it's Sunday. And so regardless, I'm going to wake up at that time.
I'm going to go through my same motions and that ensures a certain level of regularity with my body, with my energy levels and all those things like that. And sure, could it be? Well, right now, because I'm in such a habit of doing that, it wouldn't be easier. But I'm sure in the beginning, it would have been easier when I don't have anywhere to go just to lay down. Yeah.
Josh (26:05.907) But isn't that important though, that now it's such a habit, it's actually harder to do what used to have been easy?
Titusunlimited (26:10.671) Yeah, yeah. I mean, it's amazing what happens when you set habits, good and or bad. Okay, good and or bad, they become a part of you. Okay, they're the things that you're going to do automatically. You know, and if you're not doing them at the same clip or whatever, you don't feel right. You literally feel off. Like when I don't work out.
As much and I always tell people, I don't really like working out that much anymore, you know, you know, I say you, you do this stuff for 30 something years. It's not something that you like, oh man, I get, I'm going to gym, you know, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's just the thing you do. Right. But as much as you don't like it, skip two days and see how you feel. You feel like absolute garbage, you know? And so it's just, it's just one of those things you have to do is.
And I saw the same thing about eating. Your eating habits are just like, I was like, when was the last time you contemplated, thought about?
or hemmed and hard about brushing your teeth or taking a shower.
It's gonna do it right? Exactly, there you go. You just wake up and you do it. Don't plan it. It's not anything. You just do it. Why? Because you have all the mechanisms in place to do it. The toothpaste is right there. The toothbrush is right there. It sits right next to the sink. You turn the water on. Two minutes later it's done. Okay? You turn the shower on. You go under there. The soap, the loofah, it's right there. Five, ten minutes later, you're clean.
Josh (27:22.571) I mean, full honesty, probably last week, but I did it anyway.
Titusunlimited (27:51.882) It's done. Guess what? The fruit is in there, it's already cut up, the bowls are there, it's already there. Guess what? You go to the market, you brought it in, you made sure you prepped it, it's right there. You walk up to the refrigerator, three minutes later, it's in the bowl, it's already done.
And the more you can automate the things that are most important to you, especially like your health, right? The better you be.
Josh (28:19.323) Automation is everything. It really is, especially the little things in life. Like those curve balls that you can't work around, but if your automation is in, it almost feels weird to not do the things you know you should be doing. It feels weird. Yeah, I gotta work late, something comes up. I go to bed, I'm like, I really gotta brush my teeth, and I get up out of bed to go brush my teeth. Yeah.
Titusunlimited (28:30.178) Yeah.
Titusunlimited (28:39.19) Yeah, you feel odd. You know, you feel odd if you don't do it. You know, and so, you know, it's it, and I know it's circled back to gut health, you know. I always tell people, your mind hates routine, but your body loves it. All right? And I always tell people, you, do you have a pet, you have a dog? You do?
Josh (29:06.748) I do.
Titusunlimited (29:08.322) You feed that dog the same food every day. Every day. Because the whole idea of eating is nourishment. Okay. And if you, let's say if a human being found a nutritious breakfast, a nutritious lunch and a nutritious dinner. Right. And they literally made that every single day, you would never get sick. You would never get a stomach ache. You would never get irregular bowel movements because your body would just get acclimated to that. And if it was.
Josh (29:11.09) every day.
Titusunlimited (29:38.206) If it was 100% nourishing to your body, as your dog's dog food is, there you go. But once again, does your dog get bored? Cause your dog does not assign boredom or excitement to the food. We assign that. You don't get bored brushing your teeth. You brush his teeth with the same toothbrush, the same toothpaste. You stand in the same spot. Okay. You never attribute.
Josh (29:46.215) Worst case you get bored, you don't get the dopamine high, but whatever.
Titusunlimited (30:07.946) Oh man, I'm so bored. You know, I'm going to, I'm going to go look for new toothpaste. No, why? You don't do that. Okay. Why? Because here you attribute excitement or boredom to food, to food, right? That is something that you assigned to that. Okay. So once, once we start to approach a lot of things, like you said, from that standpoint and automating those things and taking the
Josh (30:12.993) Hahaha
Titusunlimited (30:37.818) uh, like my dad used to say to me, taking the sensitivity out of it and just making the sense of it. Right? The sense of it is you need these nutrients. This is what gives you that. And now, you know, don't get me wrong. Is it, is it, is it nice to be able to enjoy your food? Yes. But it's most important for your food to be nutritious to you. Okay. So start from the point of nutrition, start from the point of how is this food going to
and then build your lifestyle around the things that benefit you and do it regularly, take the feeling out of it. Alright? I wake up every morning, when I wake up in the morning, first thing I do is I drink two tall glasses of water. If I don't do that, I don't really necessarily feel right. Right? But in the beginning, right, did I want to do that? No! But it just became something I did. The same way when you were three years old, your mom had to remind you, brush your teeth, brush your teeth, brush your teeth.
But she reminded you often enough and you did it often enough, that no one has to remind you anymore. The same thing with proper eating, the same thing with proper gut health, the same thing with taking care of your body. You automate it. You put it in the right perspective. It's not even about boredom. It's not even about feeling. It's just what you do.
Josh (31:55.159) Isn't it interesting, you know, we talk about the boredom and the things that we put around our food. There's so much in our society and our life that's circled around food. And I, you know, I'm very successful. My clients were 95% successful with our IBD patients. Like 30 bowel movements a day, severe pain being compared to childbirth for women who have had children. So I believe them. I'm not going to argue on that one. And I still get people who go, yeah, but like I'm really bored of the food. And there's such a mindset around food, you know, and maybe it's that we don't have enough joy.
from our lives that we find joy in food or conditioned to find joy in food. TV commercials, it's people sitting around tables and talking with friends or food. It's going out to have something to eat and having a good time. It's drinking a can of Coke and friends having the best time ever. Coke is fun and all these things. And I realize it sounded like party drugs, not Coca-Cola. So I'm not going to get like a explicit material put on my podcast for that one. But we associate food and fun so much.
Do you think that's because people don't have enough joy from their lives? Do you think it's just a conditioning thing? Is that nature nurture? Where do you think that comes from?
Titusunlimited (32:56.066) We're programmed to idolize food. We're programmed to consume. We're programmed to associate food with fun. Because when you see commercials of people eating, like you said, they're laughing, they're smiling. You don't see commercials of people who have Burger King and they're sitting there like, you don't see morbidly obese people sitting in a wheelchair that can barely move.
with gut issues and gas, right? Standing in line. No, we make the TV. We see people smiling and enjoying the cook and the smile. We see them smiling and enjoying their quote unquote happy meal, all right? And so we're programmed to believe that this is one of the things that brings us happiness. We have people now who overeat that have assigned a name to themselves called foodie, right?
Josh (33:30.367) That would make bad TV. No.
Titusunlimited (33:56.598) And we think that's a good thing. We don't think druggy is a good thing, but we think foodie is, right? Yeah, you remember that? We don't think druggy is a good thing, but foodie, yeah, that's a good thing. We're the only species that eats for entertainment. The only species of animal that eats for entertainment is human.
Josh (34:07.251) Yeah, I do, I do.
Josh (34:21.563) I will fight you on that. Polar bears also hunt for sport, but I think they just enjoy the kill not the food. So I think you're still right.
Titusunlimited (34:27.922) Okay, well, there you go. I didn't know polar bears did that. All right, but still, you know, think about it. But still, once again, I think you said polar bears hunt for sport. But do they eat? No, they don't overeat. They may just hunt. All right. Because anything in excess, right, is opposed to nature. If a polar bear did that on a regular basis and hunted and
Josh (34:44.112) You still win that one, Titus. You still win.
Titusunlimited (34:57.166) ate everything because it felt like it, well sooner rather than later guess what's going to happen? You're going to be too fat to hunt. And you're going to die. Nature can't afford that.
Nature cannot afford that.
Josh (35:14.155) So why do you think it is that we talked about ownership, we talked about hard choices, we talked about food for enjoyment. I feel like maybe there's a lot of ways we can make excuses for ourselves. For example, if I go to a McDonald's drive-thru and I pick up a thing of French fries or a burger and a pop and my dog pops his head up, he's like, I want one. I go, no, no, no, this isn't good for you. As I shove six of them in my face, why is that that we are so prone to making these excuses for ourselves and our choices based on.
Titusunlimited (35:36.523) Ha ha ha!
Josh (35:41.907) what we want versus what we need. Where do you think that comes from?
Titusunlimited (35:45.15) Well, that's our society. Our society, our society allows us to do that. A society will look at somebody poisoning themselves and, or somebody will be poisoning themselves and you choose not to, and they'll literally look you in the face and say, well, live a little. Like, what the hell you mean live a little?
Josh (36:07.335) I'm trying to live a lot.
Titusunlimited (36:08.326) Exactly. And you're eating something that is actually going to prevent you from living. And yet you're trying to convince me to try it in the name of living a little. But this is, once again, when you actually take a step back, right, and you see the amount of prompts you receive just sitting on your couch, minding your own business, the amount of prompts you get to buy food, the amount of association with happiness and good times.
that's made with food, alcohol, sodas, and all these things like that. So you're constantly being bombarded almost like you're missing out on something, okay? And once you allow that to get into you, right, you truly do believe you're missing out. There's the same reason why when you go out and if you decide you're not drinking, everybody in the world wants to ask you 17 times, why are you drinking?
Why aren't you drinking? No one asks you if you're not drinking water. And that's why when we see somebody eating healthy, oh, they're on a diet. But if they're eating McDonald's, then, oh, they're just eating. Think about that. Our society will see somebody eating hot dogs, hamburgers, mac and cheese, fries.
And just like, oh yeah, well, it's just eating something. But God forbid, it's a salad. Are you on a diet?
Josh (37:46.179) Hahaha
Titusunlimited (37:46.506) Yeah. I mean, go bigger. But that's programming. We've been programmed to believe that that is so restrictive, that is so abnormal to see someone eating healthy and clean. Okay? The same way somebody would look at you absolutely bonkers if they saw, if they look in your refrigerator and they saw seven meals packed up is the exact same thing. And that's what you eat all the time.
Josh (37:50.088) Yeah, yeah.
Titusunlimited (38:14.73) You give that to your dog, you love your dog, you give it to yourself, what's wrong with you?
Josh (38:19.295) Hmm. Isn't that a twisted set of irony? Hey, joke's on us.
Titusunlimited (38:24.214) Hey, you give it to your dog, right? Oh man, you really love your dog. You got his seven meals set aside and what's in it? Oh, it's very healthy. It has all the nutrients he needs. Man, this dog is living the life. Did you have yours on the bottom row and it's the same thing? Man, what's wrong with you?
Josh (38:41.883) I'm going to go to bed.
Titusunlimited (38:43.918) You know?
Josh (38:45.683) Yeah. Huh. You know, I've never put it in that frame.
Titusunlimited (38:48.222) And even if you explain just by my doing that, it protects my gut health. And, and so when I eat that, I don't have upset stomachs. I get all the nutrients I need. I'm able to work out. I remember do my day and stuff like that. Then it's like, well, how can you do that? Isn't that boring? They never asked you that about the dog. Okay.
Here's another funny one. When your kid was between zero and two, you fed your kid the exact same thing too.
Josh (39:08.423) No they do not.
Titusunlimited (39:18.57) Your kid didn't have the capacity to say, oh, I don't want Gerber today. Right? You fed him the exact same thing, the same formula, the same breast milk, the same mashed up peas and carrots and the same thing. And the kid did just fine.
Titusunlimited (39:39.894) But the moment we have choice, we use those choices to destroy ourselves.
Josh (39:47.387) put that on a t-shirt when we have choice we destroy ourselves that's amen check yourself before you wreck yourself that's the epitome yeah so here's a question for you because i love this and this mindset stuff is not something i do a whole lot of my personal practice it's something that i'd love to learn more about and how to do it you sound like you have such a great handle on it and truthfully this call has not gone at all like i thought it was going to i'm so glad it has because it's just been so eye-opening i think people need more of this
Titusunlimited (39:52.389) Yeah, we destroy ourselves with our choices.
Titusunlimited (40:11.254) Hahaha!
Josh (40:16.967) More Titus, that's gonna be my next t-shirt. So what steps do you think someone can take who really struggles with a concept of willpower? Give you an example. I've got a client of mine who's got some gut issues and she got through the program, she was doing well. And it took a lot of habit and a lot of accountability to get her there, but her partner wasn't doing the same. He had gut issues as well, but didn't wanna take those corrective steps and she did. So every time he crack open a junk food or some candies or some chips.
She couldn't resist the urge and she would eat them as well. Why is that? And what steps do you think someone can take to start building that willpower to make better choices for themselves like they do for their dog?
Titusunlimited (40:58.11) It's about recognition, man. It's about recognition and acknowledgement. It's about priorities. It's about...
Titusunlimited (41:12.474) It's about importance. You see, here's the thing, and I use this example with people all the time, who say, I can't, I don't have the time and all these things like that. And I use this example all the time. I say, I have yet to see someone diagnosed with cancer.
Titusunlimited (41:36.84) They don't have the time, they don't feel like it, or they don't like how the chemo feels so they're not going.
Titusunlimited (41:50.294) Have you ever heard that?
Josh (41:52.871) never once they do it because they know they have to.
Titusunlimited (41:54.958) No, because if you don't, what happens? You die. No, you die. OK? And the only reason why you're making those excuses is because you really, somewhere in the recess of your mind, believe that there's an option out there. There's some off ramp that's not going to get you there. Or your special is not going to happen to you. But the moment.
Josh (42:00.371) you die a whole lot faster, yeah?
Titusunlimited (42:23.262) you get that diagnosis, right? The moment they get that diagnosis, all the excuses go out the window, all right? So the truth is, the reason why she does that is because it's just not that important to her. And, you know, I know we've talked a lot about mindset, but that's why I'm very successful with the people I deal with, because before I get down to all the hows,
We're going to talk about the why. Because the how don't matter if the why ain't settled.
And once you settle the why, why do I need to do this? The how? Oh, we can pick a million ways how to do it. Once you settle the fact that you just got to do it. But once we're still bouncing back and forth on whether or not we really need to, is this really important, when you're still trying to negotiate with yourself the importance of what we're trying to do, right?
It's almost like ice skating uphill. But once we realize that this has to be done, this must be done. Otherwise the alternative is not something I want to deal with. When you no longer want to be there, right? The how? I can tell you the scale of the side of the building. Right? And you do it.
And so that's why I, when I approach things from mind, body, soul, all right, we get the mind right first to get things in perspective. Why do you want to do this? Why is this important? You know, are you really willing to commit to this? Are you really, are you willing to give up the things that are necessary? Because if you're not willing to give up the things that are necessary, then what are we doing here? What are we doing?
Josh (44:17.599) Hmm. So do you think in these cases that it's not important? Do you think my gut health isn't important? Or do you think it's that I am not important?
Titusunlimited (44:27.867) I am not important.
I'm not important. Or I'm immune.
Or it won't happen to me. You know, like one of the questions I ask people all the time, I say, do you plan on being alive in five years?
Josh (44:38.207) Like it won't happen to me.
Josh (44:52.295) I mean, it sounds like a loaded question, doesn't it?
Titusunlimited (44:54.562) No, it's not. Do you plan on being alive in five years? And if the answer is yes, right, then based on where you are right now, what do you think that looks like if you don't do anything about where you are right now?
Josh (44:58.06) I sure as hell do.
Titusunlimited (45:10.734) What do you believe that looks like? I mean, you can barely leave the house, right? Because of your gut issues. Do you think that's gonna magically improve over five years if you don't do anything about it? Do you think you can afford to keep vacillating back and forth? Because look at where you are now, look at where you were six months ago, a year ago. You're not in the same position that you were, where then are you? Because nine times out of 10, that has gotten a little worse. What do you think that looks like in five years?
Titusunlimited (45:41.45) And then you cite an example of somebody maybe who had to have, you know, uh, several feet of their intestines cut out. Cause that's where you're headed.
Okay? And I can do it for you.
Josh (45:55.467) You know, I see a lot of people who come in the door and they're looking for help. And like I said, we have a remarkable success rate, so much so we've caught the attention of some of the most renowned doctors in the country. We're working in their clinics with them now and working with some of their patients because of our success rates. So it's damn near guaranteed. Like you're 90, 95, 99% chance you're going to get healthy from this debilitating disease. And I've made my offer so good. Like if you don't get better, at least at the time of this recording, if you don't get better, you do not pay.
and still I get a lot of humming and hawing and well, I'm pretty busy right now or well, I don't really know or well, you know what, I got XYZ to take care of first. What sits behind that? What do you see sitting behind those people who just are so on the fence that the offer is so good, you're going to get better or it's free? What sits behind them, between them and health?
Titusunlimited (46:43.518) It's a denial. It's one of two things. Either it's not important enough, I don't think it's gonna happen to me. Right? But I mean, very rarely are people really in a position where they just don't care about themselves. Right? But it still boils down to a level of lack of regard. Okay, because
I think what a lot of people, it still comes down to they really think that it's not going to happen to them. I mean, you can't tell me, like, it's a little off topic, but why is anybody smoking a cigarette in 2023? Because you really think that it can't happen to you. That's all. It's not going to happen to me. That's those other people. You know?
If they have these gut issues, they envision that, well, as long as I just keep taking these things, Sharon, there, I can muddle along, I'll be okay. I don't have to go through that whole program and everything like that and disrupt my whole life. What life?
You're not in control of your life. Your disease is. You don't have a life. You have an existence around your disease. And unless you fix it, right, one day it will dictate a price that you can't pay.
Titusunlimited (48:07.234) but the choice is yours.
You know, and so sadly you get those people that come in there and you're trying to almost negotiate with them. I wouldn't negotiate. I would just lay it down.
Titusunlimited (48:23.478) I tell people all the time, you know, people start hemming and whoring back and forth. I said, this is maybe the same for you right now. Come back. Hopefully you come back when you're in a better position, right mentally to make this decision. Hopefully you will get that chance.
Because I know a lot of people who I try to work with to get their health together. I can think of one or two people who they're just not here anymore. Because when it was time to pay that bill, right?
It was too high and he died.
Josh (48:58.191) I have seen that. I've had that happen a couple of times over the years. Yeah.
Titusunlimited (49:00.77) There you go. There you go. But everybody, the next person always says, well, that's not gonna happen to me. It's not gonna happen to me. Why would it? I'm special.
You know? So, I mean... No, okay.
Josh (49:17.011) does... yeah go ahead. So it really really does sound like there's so much lack of value we put behind ourselves. We put our value in everybody else. We put our value in our things, in our food, in our tangible items. What kind of rug I'm gonna put down or what kind of thing I'm gonna buy for my house. And ultimately everything in this earth doesn't... nothing belongs to us. It's all on loan. We borrow it until we die and then we give it back whether we want to...
or not. Even the Egyptian pharaohs who were buried with all their shit, somebody took it from them once they were dead because they couldn't keep it. You know, it's just such a lack of priorities around what's really truly important in this life.
Titusunlimited (49:57.122) Right. And if you're not in your best health, right, because you cannot be truly happy, unless you're actually physically healthy. If you're not in your best health, right, you're missing out on such opportunities in life because when you're not truly healthy, you can't even think right. You can't act right. You're all your skills and talents cannot even be brought to bear in its full capacity because you're limited. Okay? You're limited.
You know, I was even thinking about, oh, a couple of weeks ago, I went to a, it was one of the events we were at and I saw a performer, he was performing. And I won't say his name, but he's brilliant at what he does, brilliant at what he does. But severely overweight had to have now a couple of hip replacements and what have you, right? And the whole time I'm sitting there, I'm looking at the mastery this man has at his craft.
But at the same time, I'm looking at him hobbled that he can't even perform as well as he possibly could if he was in good physical condition. And what's worse is I'm looking at him and I'm thinking to myself, there's no way he's going to survive for more than five years in this condition if he doesn't do something. And that will be a loss of such a brilliant, talented person. But the only person that controls that is who?
Josh (51:23.411) You know, there's a really interesting book, I'm not sure if you're familiar, by Brawny Ware. It's called The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. You ever heard of that?
Titusunlimited (51:30.708) No.
Josh (51:32.479) Top five regrets of the dying. And I pulled them up here, I'll read them to you. It says, number one, I wish I had, they interviewed like 100 people terminally ill on their deathbeds, and these are the top five that came up. I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. Like, oh, you're on a diet, or why aren't you drinking? Like, what do people expect of you? What do people tell you you should do? Number two, I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
Right? Leaving more time for relationships, leaving more time for the things that matter, going out in nature, all these things got connected. Number three, I wish I had the courage to express my feelings. Right? Many people suppress their feelings to keep the peace with others. And what can we do? Like, how can we express ourselves and be true to what's in our soul? Number four, I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends. These lost relationships through other relationships, through work, through business, through other priorities. The number one thing comes back to relationships.
is I wish I let myself be happier. Those are heavy hitting.
Titusunlimited (52:32.278) Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, I always make this statement, you know, I had the pleasure of being by my father's side when he was dying. Okay, and one of the reasons why is because I got a chance to look a man in his eye who lived life on his terms and when it was time for him to die, he was more than happy to, with no regrets. Okay, with no regrets. Was he perfect? No.
Did he do everything right? No, but he lived his life on his terms, how he chose. And he did a lot of good along the way. All right. And a lot of people sadly will regret that they did not maximize their capacities. All right. I was just talking about it this morning when I did my life, you know, for people who are religious, you know, God's greatest gift to you.
is your unlimited potential. Right? Your unlimited potential, that's God's greatest gift to you. Right? Your greatest gift back to God is the use of that potential for the betterment of yourself and the people around you. It's almost like somebody handing you a hundred million dollars to go to the mall and you got 10 hours to shop but you're so scared to go in certain stores
He's too scared to ask for the price. He's too scared to do this and that. And the 10 hours is up and you're walking out with still $8 million left in your pocket. That's a lot of people in life. A lot of people will be too scared or too lazy to climb the stairs, to go into the stores, to ask for what they want. Right. And we'll leave all that potential, all that value, all that gold.
in their pockets and it will take it back.
Titusunlimited (54:33.474) But especially for the religious people and then they'll have the audacity to pray every day and ask God for more. Well, you haven't even used what you were given. You were given a body by your God. What are you doing to it? But in every Sunday you want to go and pray and ask God to take away your disease, but you're not willing to take the steps. When God brings you people like you, like me to help them, you don't want to do that. Okay.
It blows my mind.
Josh (55:05.783) There's so much around that, even biblically, right? It's like, be faithful with the little, you'll be given a lot. And there's an old joke, and it's something along the lines. There's a guy stranded on an island, and he's praying to God. He's like, help me, help me, like, rescue me. Someone's got to rescue me. And an airplane flies over and it lands. He goes, no, no, no, I'm good. The airplane flies away. Another airplane comes by a couple hours later. He goes, no, no, no, I'm good. Two weeks go by and a helicopter comes by. I was like, no, no, no, I'm good.
Why? We've sent a couple that crops out to rescue. Why don't you go? I'm waiting for God to save me. And then the guy dies. He gets to heaven and he's like, God, why didn't you save me? He says, I did. I sent you two airplanes and a helicopter.
Titusunlimited (55:47.68) Literally, if you all believe this, I literally told that exact same story last week.
Josh (55:53.803) And this whole time you got this grid on your face just let me finish a story like an idiot. I appreciate you. Yeah, yeah.
Titusunlimited (55:58.214) No, I mean, it was a different iteration of the story because this guy was in his house and the flood was coming. He started off on the first floor, then the second floor, then the roof. And so it was a SUV, a canoe, a motorboat, and then a helicopter, but the same end.
Josh (56:09.66) Hahaha
Your story sounds more interesting than mine. A lot more layers to it. Well thought out. Well, I love that. Titus, you are a very wise man. And truthfully, I wasn't sure. I never am when these calls, we get onto these interviews, what direction they're going to go, what we're going to learn, what we're going to talk about. We have a scaffold, we have a framework, but they always go in such amazing directions. And truthfully, I am so glad we've had this call, this opportunity to
Titusunlimited (56:16.725) I'm out.
Josh (56:42.419) You have so much wisdom to share. And I would be remiss if I didn't leave a completely open mic right now and ask you, is there anything you'd like to share? Any words of advice, any words of wisdom, anything that you think people need to know or a topic you wanna cover that we haven't covered yet on this interview?
Titusunlimited (57:00.746) The only thing I would just go over once again, everything that you face, all your challenges that you face, your first task is to tackle the mindset of the person that's trying to beat or meet that challenge. Because once you can get your mindset, your mind in the right place, once you can approach the issue from the right standpoint mentally,
That's the first step to winning. And also it's the first step to losing. If your mentality isn't right, you're just not going to win. You're not going to win this. If you're going in with the wrong mentality, the wrong attitude, the wrong idea, you're not going to win this. Right. And so a lot of times when I talk to people about their health, I think it's very important to tackle the mindset. Why do you want to do this? You know, why do you want to do this? How did we get here? What mindset brought you here?
Do we still have that same mindset now? Because if we do have that same mindset now, then you're about to waste my time. I don't do that.
Right. But if your mindset is different and you understand how you got here, well, at least you understand the mindset that you had that got you here is not a good mindset. And now we're shifting that mindset, then I can give you the minor details and little to do's that you can do to get yourself out of this situation because that might be my expertise, but I can't change your mindset.
Josh (58:30.591) Hmm. I love that.
Titusunlimited (58:32.674) So, and that's what I want people to focus on. You're having the right mindset, the right approach. Okay? Being open to change. When you claim you want something new, before you tell me what you want, before you tell anybody what you want, you have to articulate, what is it that you're willing to give up? Because if you're not willing to give up the things that cause your problem, then you're about to waste your time and mind. Come back when you are.
Because a lot of times people are more married to their crutches, to their addictions, to their excuses than they are to their better life. And that's never a recipe for success.
Josh (59:15.599) I could not think of a more perfect place to end an interview than that right there. Titus, thank you so much for being here. So if you guys are here and you want to check out, you can reach them at Titus Unlimited on Instagram. And where else can they find you? If someone wants to reach out to you, what kind of people would be looking for you? What kind of people do you help and where else can they reach you?
Titusunlimited (59:36.834) Titusunlimited.com is my website. They can book a consultation or they can shoot us an email at titusunlimited.gmail.com. And the type of people that I'm looking to work with are people just looking to get healthier. I've been very successful in getting quite a few people off of medications, high blood pressure medication, diabetic medication, helping people lose weight, even though once again, I don't approach it from a weight loss standpoint, I approach it from a getting healthier standpoint.
But yeah, people do lose weight, but it's about first getting the right mentality, changing your relationship with food. And then once we do that, then we now implement the small changes, uh, the habits that will dictate, you know, once again, you know, your habits are the ones that dictate your future. And first you have to set good habits in order to have to perfect them. And that's what we, that's what we do with people over the first 30 days.
We help you set good habits that will pay dividends over time. And we've been very successful in doing that. So if that's something that someone's looking to do, right? Yeah. Give us a call.
Josh (01:00:43.627) That's amazing. I love it. Thank you so much. Thank you for being here. I hope people find you and listen to more of your sage advice and wisdom. And like I said, I'll be I want to be like you when I grew up or better. So I'm looking forward to that. Titus. I appreciate you. We look forward to that. And I think you got millions of lives of change still ahead of you. So thank you so much for being here. It's been an absolute treat.
Titusunlimited (01:00:56.232) My goal is always to make people better.
Titusunlimited (01:01:05.57) Thanks you so much for having me. Take it easy.