1 00:00:00,310 --> 00:00:03,315 Podcast listeners, I have some exciting news! 2 00:00:03,315 --> 00:00:08,560 My new book was just released and I will be on a book tour starting September 2022, 3 00:00:08,560 --> 00:00:13,610 first across the US, then Australia, and maybe the UK and Canada after that. 4 00:00:13,610 --> 00:00:16,450 The book is called The Opposite of Namaste, 5 00:00:16,470 --> 00:00:21,590 and it is available wherever books and ebooks are sold. It is a curated collection of these 6 00:00:21,590 --> 00:00:26,290 podcast episodes in one spot and in a similar format to Buddhist Boot Camp, 7 00:00:26,290 --> 00:00:31,000 where each chapter is only a couple of pages long, and you can read them in any order. 8 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:35,800 The book tour details will be updated regularly on BuddhistBootCamp.com, 9 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:38,700 so check it frequently, and we'll meet each other soon. 10 00:00:38,700 --> 00:00:42,840 I'm not sure I will have the space to record new episodes as frequently 11 00:00:42,840 --> 00:00:47,180 once I am on the road, but I will continue sending you food for thought by email 12 00:00:47,180 --> 00:00:53,230 on the first day of each month, so be sure to subscribe at BuddhistBootCamp.com/email 13 00:00:53,230 --> 00:00:57,130 This intro will be removed from the podcast episodes once I return. 14 00:00:57,130 --> 00:01:00,000 Enjoy the new book, and I will see you soon. 15 00:01:06,810 --> 00:01:09,730 Welcome to the Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast. 16 00:01:09,730 --> 00:01:17,700 Our intention is to awaken, enlighten, enrich, and inspire a simple and uncomplicated life. 17 00:01:17,700 --> 00:01:27,640 Discover the benefits of mindful living with your host, Timber Hawkeye. 18 00:01:27,640 --> 00:01:33,620 When a movie is filmed, each scene is scripted and all the actors have memorized their lines 19 00:01:33,620 --> 00:01:36,150 to play a role that was written for them. 20 00:01:36,150 --> 00:01:39,560 If things don't go according to plan, the director yells, "Cut!" 21 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:44,980 and everyone returns to their places to try again until the director is happy. 22 00:01:44,980 --> 00:01:49,090 This is true of movies and television shows, but in real life, 23 00:01:49,090 --> 00:01:52,330 you are not a director, and there is no script. 24 00:01:52,330 --> 00:01:58,410 Nobody is under contract to play any role according to how you think they should. 25 00:01:58,410 --> 00:02:04,080 Not your parents, not your children, not your friends, not strangers, not world leaders 26 00:02:04,080 --> 00:02:06,980 or business owners, or anyone else. 27 00:02:06,980 --> 00:02:12,360 When I think about it, I realize every time I've been frustrated in life, it has always been 28 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:17,260 because I thought of myself as the director, and all of my resentments stemmed from 29 00:02:17,260 --> 00:02:23,620 getting upset with people for going off script or not playing their role according to me. 30 00:02:23,620 --> 00:02:27,670 Conversely, when I reflect on all the joyous moments in my life, 31 00:02:27,670 --> 00:02:31,690 they weren't when everything went according to plan, as one would think, 32 00:02:31,690 --> 00:02:35,850 the highlight reel of my life is surprisingly filled with all the times 33 00:02:35,850 --> 00:02:38,770 I wasn't sitting in the director's chair. 34 00:02:38,770 --> 00:02:40,630 When we make peace with the fact that 35 00:02:40,630 --> 00:02:45,580 a script doesn't exist anywhere but in our own minds, we realize that 36 00:02:45,580 --> 00:02:49,010 nothing and nobody could ever be off script. 37 00:02:49,010 --> 00:02:54,560 People are just being people. All we need to do is retire the director within us, 38 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:58,250 and not only would we be happier, but so would all the people we've been 39 00:02:58,250 --> 00:03:02,410 trying to manipulate, shame, and guilt into playing a role. 40 00:03:02,410 --> 00:03:06,600 Life is a "Choose-Your-Own -Adventure" for EVERYBODY. 41 00:03:06,600 --> 00:03:11,280 This means there will inevitably be villains and heroes, highs and lows, 42 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:14,990 love and deception, thrills and disappointments, and you won't 43 00:03:14,990 --> 00:03:18,350 enjoy every single moment, but on the whole, 44 00:03:18,350 --> 00:03:22,570 life will be a lot more peaceful when you stop trying to control it. 45 00:03:22,570 --> 00:03:26,150 It was never your job to be the director. 46 00:03:26,150 --> 00:03:30,550 You just showed up on the movie set one day and started telling people what to do 47 00:03:30,550 --> 00:03:35,690 and how to do it. And you even got upset with them when they didn't listen. 48 00:03:35,690 --> 00:03:39,230 So, when you catch yourself acting like a D... 49 00:03:39,230 --> 00:03:41,750 A director, what did you think I meant? 50 00:03:41,750 --> 00:03:46,750 When you catch yourself acting like a director, just quit, mid-sentence if you have to, 51 00:03:46,750 --> 00:03:49,960 and simply resume the role of Best Supporting Actor. 52 00:03:49,960 --> 00:03:54,990 How others play their role is none of your business. You can't yell, "Cut" when someone 53 00:03:54,990 --> 00:03:58,400 goes rogue, but you can quit the director role. 54 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:04,080 Remember, there is no script. When plans or relationships seem like they are falling apart 55 00:04:04,080 --> 00:04:06,290 they are often falling into place. 56 00:04:06,290 --> 00:04:09,090 All we need to do is let them. 57 00:04:09,090 --> 00:04:14,320 Timber Hawkeye is the bestselling author of Buddhist Boot Camp, Faithfully Religionless, 58 00:04:14,320 --> 00:04:16,540 and The Opposite of Namaste. 59 00:04:16,540 --> 00:04:20,858 For additional information, please visit BuddhistBootCamp.com, 60 00:04:20,944 --> 00:04:25,382 where you can order autographed books to support the Prison Library Project, 61 00:04:25,516 --> 00:04:30,050 watch Timber's inspiring TED Talk, and join our monthly mailing list. 62 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,290 We hope you have enjoyed this episode, 63 00:04:32,290 --> 00:04:36,100 and invite you to subscribe for more thought-provoking discussions. 64 00:04:36,100 --> 00:04:40,810 Thank you for being a Soldier of Peace in the Army of Love.