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Well, hello. Welcome to ceosage. I'm Kris Plachy,

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and I have something I want to talk to you about. A little bit of

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a rant. And

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this is coming off of some conversations I've had with people and

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even some of my own experience of late. But I want to talk to you

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about a goal that I have

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that I would love for. Maybe we could all agree to this goal

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collectively as successful women, and that

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goal would be to normalize hiring

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experts. It is amazing to me how many of us

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have challenges that we're facing in our business, in our

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personal lives, in our homes,

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in our communities. I mean,

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really insert here, right, Things that. Things that you

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take on as yours

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to solve when you have zero expertise,

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but you think you should be able to solve it. You think you should be

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able to figure it out. I'm doing this myself all the time with

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designing in my house. I keep thinking I

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should be able to figure out what I want to do in my house, to

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design it. You know what? I can't. I am not good at

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it. I am not an expert. I am good enough to

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make a house have my stuff in it, but I am not

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good enough to create a designed home.

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Right. Other things, like little stuff around the

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house, like, this is stuff that sometimes my husband and I go like. He's

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not very good at it. I'm not very good. Can we just hire a person?

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But we insist that no. We could figure it out. We could do it. We're

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gonna do fine. It's fine. I'll just take care of it. And then it doesn't

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get done. It doesn't get done. It doesn't. Is this relating then? There's stuff that's

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happening in the business that we do the same thing. We. We. Everything in

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the business is not up to you to sit. Solve. There are

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experts that you can pay money to who can help you

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solve these problems, who can help you design a new process, a

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new strategy, get new ideas.

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You can hire people to do things that you've been doing.

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We have got to stop normalizing women

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doing everything. Because

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I work with you, and I see what happens to you. I see what happens

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to myself. We take it all on. We get

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completely overwhelmed by all of it because we are not experts.

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And then we fail at some of these things, or we don't get them done.

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We keep kicking the can. Why? Because we're not experts.

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I watch people talk about issues that are going on in their family, in their

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marriage, with their children, with their parents, with Their

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in laws and they just think they need to figure it out

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and solve it on their own. No, there's experts

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that you could go to who will help you and

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pull you out of discomfort, pull you out of

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confusion, pull you out of your spin. Why are you

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refusing, why are you resisting? And why

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don't you even explore? There's someone who can help me with

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this because we are just, we are,

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we are self teaching ourselves to solve. Every

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problem in your life, every challenge in your

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life, every thing that you want done in your life,

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you begin with how you could do it, how you could

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fix it, how you could figure it out. Stop it,

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stop it. Hire people.

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There are experts. If you're

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listening to this and you're running a multimillion dollar business and you don't have an

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assistant, you need to start there. Every

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woman who is running a multi million dollar business who doesn't have an

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assistant is setting herself up to take on

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more than she ever should. You deserve it. You deserve the

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support. And you are not broken.

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If you can't solve something, if you don't know how to handle this situation with

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your parents, if you don't know what to do with this challenge with your husband,

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if you don't know how to deal with this thing going on in your house,

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if you're not sure what to do with this employee, that's what people, right? Like

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these are all solvable problems. People bring me stuff that they're like

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plagued with, overwhelmed by. Ha ha, right?

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We have two minute conversation and they're already better. Why?

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Because I have expertise that you don't

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have. And that's good.

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You don't need to have it, but you need to know when to tap into

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it. You need sometimes someone to remind you of what

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your wisdom is telling you, that you actually do know the direction you want to

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go in this relationship. You do know what you want the truth to be in

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this decision. You do know. But sometimes you divert.

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You see it as a problem to fix instead of just a knowing to

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reveal an idea, to trust

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in yourself. But we have

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got to normalize women allowing

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for expertise in their

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lives and seeking it out

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and not using themselves as the default for the

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answer. So what I want you to do is I want you to make a

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list and I want you to make a list of all of your

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decisions that you have delayed, things you have

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been telling yourself you either need to figure out, learn,

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solve, get done, et cetera. I want you to

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write it all down, right? If I were gonna tell you that right now I

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would have a huge list. The first list would start with my office. What do

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I want to do with the wallpaper? I want to have some ideas for wallpaper,

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and I want to make my office totally different. I want to do something in

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my bedroom. I have stuff. I have ideas, but I don't know where I want

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to begin. That's just one example.

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I have so many in my house, right? And I keep telling myself, I'll figure

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it out. No, I'm not going to figure it out. I'm not going to go

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stroll through HomeGoods and figure it out.

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It's not going to happen. I need help. I need an

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expert. When I'm exhausted, when I don't feel good, when my

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body hurts, I'm not going to figure it out. You know what I need to

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do? Go see an expert. If I want to get better at

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pickleball, I can keep playing all day. I'm not going to get better. You know

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what I should do? Hire an expert. Go get a coach.

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If I'm exhausted with my team and the things that they're doing and I can't

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figure out what direction to take in my company. You know what I need? I

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need an expert. And if you don't get the right one on the first, go

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get another one. Don't give up on this practice.

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We know this is true, because guess how I know that you know this is

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true? Because you are an expert

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in something and other people come to you. That's

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why you have a business. You have built an expertise, right? If

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you design kitchens and baths, you must drive you nuts when people

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are, like, strolling around Home Depot trying to figure

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out their faucets and their sinks. Like, no, no, I actually do this for

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a living. You know, I could make this much easier for you.

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Stop asking yourself to know how to do everything.

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It's literally wearing you down into the ground, and

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you're not solving it. You have

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built. You have enough confidence to believe in yourself that

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you can figure things out. I love that for you. I love that for me.

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And also, not everything is for you to figure out.

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Get help. Get support. Hire an expert. Do

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it right now. Make that list. Just don't, you know, do it over the course

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of a couple days. Like, just have this list of all the little things that

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you think about. Like, oh, I wish I could figure out this. Oh, I don't

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know how to handle this. Oh, I don't know. Right. Oh, I want to have

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this event for my daughter's graduation, but I don't even know where to start. Oh,

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I have this, and I have a trip that I want to go on, but

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I don't even. That's the other one. I always think I'm going to figure out

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the trip. No, I'm not. I'm not going to. No, I'm not going to figure

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out the trip. I need to hire an expert. Here's what I

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want. The trip. Here's what I want. Can you design that for me?

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Guess what? There's people who do that for a living, and you don't even

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have to pay them. They get paid by the people that.

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The places that you go, the services that you buy.

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Okay, y', all, are we. Are you on board with me on this one? Can

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we make this agreement? Because I would really like it if we could all stop

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trying to be. Be all. End all.

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Because I think it would take pressure off all the rest of us.

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And when you hire an expert, you feed the work. You feed into

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an economy and an ecosystem that supports,

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in many cases, other women. So

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hire an expert. Go.